Ok I have been talking with this girl for over 3 months now. Lately I've started to tell her I love her etc. Because I felt like I do love her. She tells me she'll never be with me. I always buy her drink when we're out, pay for the movies etc and I even lent her money $1400 to be exact. But she wouldn't even touch me! So few days ago I txted her how much I love her. She says "if you have feelings for me just keep it inside, tired of hearing it" that really hurt me. Then she proceeds to talk about how she misses her female friend, that made me feel bad. Why does she have to talk like this when she's with me? She says she has so much fun with her. At that moment I've had it. She tried to drink my water I said "mmm... okay.. go ahead" She's like "just give it to me" I said "why u acting like my girlfriend" then she got mad. After she txts me "there are things in the world you cannot get by force, u should understand that, and even if the world was about to end I won't be with u" I replied "its fine. there are plenty of fish in the water." I started demanding my money the very same night. She says she ain't got it. I demanded again last night she said she ain't got it. Then I said "you can give me other stuff" she's like "what" I said "you know, u could be working on your debt right now instead of just sitting around" she says "omg I cant believe" "it'll be just between u and me, i'll pay you more than your work" "are you actually asking me to sell my body?" "think whatever you like, I didn't say that" "you won't say it cus you're a coward" "hey I only wanted my money" "alright I'll give it to you this week" "by sunday" "yeah by sunday!" She is 25 years old, don't know why she's acting llike a little girl. lol is it bad or really really bad? Related General Discussion News on Phys.org #### cronxeh Gold Member Finally, jebus on a pogo stick, someone grew a pair #### SELFMADE She deleted me off of her Facebook friendslist. Life = over ? #### TheStatutoryApe You were used. </thread> #### cronxeh Gold Member She deleted me off of her Facebook friendslist. Life = over ? F her. First of all this is your fault, after all you allowed yourself to be friendzoned, and acted like a wimp. But besides that, you made a mistake by telling her how you felt #### Topher925 She played you like a piano. #### anubis01 Unfortunately you were used, and you probably wont get that money back. So hopefully you can take this as a life lesson on never loaning money to people. #### Pengwuino Gold Member Is this thread for real? If so, you have some serious issues. #### jackmell Gotta' agree with Pengwuino. That's a real problem what you described and is quite disturbing to read. you handled it inappropriately. The first time she said she'll never be with you is when you should have terminated it immediately. you should not have loaned her money. Do not ever loan any girl any money again. you need to accept she's just not into you. It's terrible to "bribe" a girl for sex or force or intimidate her or get her drunk so she gives you sex. Always in the future wait till she makes the move (sober) that she's ready for sex. The best advice I can give you is to tell her forget about the money, stop contacting her, and drop the entire situation before it gets out of hand. #### SELFMADE You guys can read the whole story over here: http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/62/bbv4life/just-fell-out-friendzone-774937/ Well I still think I love her. She's a good girl actually. She said she's gonna give me the money so I'll take my money and stop contacting her I guess. She'll probably gonna end up giving me her rent money. If that is the case, I will have no choice but to renew her loan: don't wanna make her go homeless. #### Jack21222 [ ] you're getting your money back [ ] cool story, bro [x] ban OP #### SELFMADE It was 1500 before she gave back 100 already so I think she's kinda person that would wanna try hard to pay back. She even seemed adamant about paying it off last night. She said by Sunday so lol honestly I really don't know. She even might end up sleeping with me. Its good **** deal you know.$100/hr. People should be flattered instead of being insulted by such propositions.

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#### Jack21222

If she does offer you the money she was going to use to pay her rent, take it. Render her homeless. If she doesn't offer it to you, threaten to break her kneecaps, it's the only way.

(I wish this forum were more like BBV over at 2+2 sometimes...)

Don't think I'll be able to let her go homeless. But she's kinda girl that will offer to be in that situation. She'll think she's punishing me by getting hurt/ and not talking to be. hahahaha but in reality it does punish me. :(

I can't believe she deleted me off FB, hurts like hell to know she's ditching me even as an acquaintance!

#### AUK 1138

just when i thought i was having woman troubles, this thread is here to boost my confidence. way to go, OP, you just made me realize i could be worse. ...i could be you. grow a pair.

its been 24hrs since she last talked with me. i cant take this. she blocked me off her FB. hates me now. but i love her so much. she's genuinely good person. i could have been smoking and watching movies with her and see her smile, god i want her smile so much! my life is **** up i know. but i love her so much i just can't take her hating me, not talking to me. i can't go on like this. i found my sunshine in her, now that she's gone i can't i just can't do anything else. i don't know what to do, i can't be like this, i can't forget her.

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#### Pengwuino

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You demanded sexual favors in exchange for money from her.

Game over. You lost.

Maybe there are some magic words I can say to her right now and fix this. I could have been with her right now! even though she won't touch me I could have still been with her!

#### Jack21222

Maybe there are some magic words I can say to her right now and fix this. I could have been with her right now! even though she won't touch me I could have still been with her!
Perhaps you should ask 4chan for advice. The "random" board over there is great at sorting out woman issues.

#### GeorginaS

Maybe there are some magic words I can say to her right now and fix this. I could have been with her right now! even though she won't touch me I could have still been with her!
Listen to Pengwuino. He has good, wise advice.

You demanded sexual favors in exchange for money from her.

Game over. You lost.

Have a drink. Watch some internet porn and you'll be right as rain in no time. Seriously, she is not worth the headache. Even if you think she is. I know it's easy for us to say this stuff and it's hard for you to hear it now. I know how awful it is when you're in it. But take the advice given to you here and distance yourself from her. Fort both your good.

#### cronxeh

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SELFMADE, listen very carefully. No apologies, no shame, no contact with her. Its over, move on. You do NOT "love her". You are infatuated with the idea of being with her, but you don't know this turd. 3 months talking, and no physical contact of any sort is not 'knowing' someone. Please do yourself a favor and rise above this, we've all been there (minus the offering money for sex part), and trust me, you'll find someone better.

#### GeorginaS

Seriously, she is not worth the headache.
and trust me, you'll find someone better.
You know, guys, there's absolutely no reason to disparage the young lady in question. This young fellow has told us his side of the story, words of hers (that she may or may not have even said) out of context. The only character we are certain of, here, concretely, is his. So no need to put her down.

Advice to Selfmade remains the same, though, and the parts about him being infatuated and the situation being essentially toxic to them both are points he really ought to listen to. There are more fish in the sea. And one day, not long from now, if he gives himself a bit of time and some distance from this particular young lady, he won't even recall what the infatuation was all about. For his sake and hers, though, it really ought to stop. Immediately.

Ok its been two days of no contact. I really appreciate the seriousness of the advices. I get the message. I am not doing this for the attention; I just don't have no one else to consult and I am having deep second thoughts. Some part of me really want to communicate that I am sorry for what I proposed and I just want what we had: just the friendship. She's really a good person. She's having a tough time right now and I am really ashamed to be becoming extra burden on her. She's trying to get into a grad school by herself. One of her dreams is to open a school for children. She used to say her childhood was stolen, her parents weren't with her when she was young and now she doesn't want to be with them because of that. Really stupid of me to demand from someone like her to sell herself. I didn't have much of a childhood myself, maybe that is why I do such stupid ****, maybe that is why she resonates with me. Now I just wish we would be just friends again. She needs so much help! But she never asks for anything. She's just a little doll trying to make it in this world. God, what have I done. I just can't act like a monster and not talk to anymore! I am not a monster.

Is it really bad for me to apologize for what I proposed? She used to say my apologies are good as nothing to her and that I always backtrace, not to mention that I am a coward.

I just want the friendship back, nothing more.

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