I must be a superficial jerk

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My gf recently lost weight and is now down to 103 lbs. I find myself more attracted to her than before. I'm sorry, but I just like skinny. I find skinny girls so much more attractive than non-skinny girls. Does this make me superficial?
 

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No, that does not make you superficial.

I personally like a nice round... :wink:
 
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Hm, that sounds like a straightforward example of being superficial to me. But I don't think that being superficial is necessarily bad. You said that you are more attracted to her. So you mean that are deriving pleasure from or appreciating or valuing the appearance of something, right? What is wrong with that? It doesn't mean that you exclude or neglect other things, although I guess that's probably what others mean when they use it in a bad way.
 
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I think it is okay to love her more when she gets skinny as long as you don't love her less when she gets fat.
Why did she lose the weight? to be more attractive, you better be more attracted or you are in trouble.
 
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you were attracted even before and i think thats what counts

when you start ignoring everything else about her just for her looks, then its superficial
 
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Its summer and all the girls are getting toooo skinny uuugh. Someone should give them a donut.
 
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My gf recently lost weight and is now down to 103 lbs. I find myself more attracted to her than before. I'm sorry, but I just like skinny. I find skinny girls so much more attractive than non-skinny girls. Does this make me superficial?
103 lbs. That's pretty slight. How tall is she? Is she a healthy weight?
 
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She's just a gf. Unless you two have planned this to always be a long-term committed relationship (liken to marraige) the whole premise of the relationship is superficial. Why act like it isn't? Otherwise you are just setting yourself up for misery when it's over. Have fun with it.
 
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My gf recently lost weight and is now down to 103 lbs. I find myself more attracted to her than before. I'm sorry, but I just like skinny. I find skinny girls so much more attractive than non-skinny girls. Does this make me superficial?
.....or you have a fetish with skinny girls. :biggrin:
 
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103 lbs. That's pretty slight. How tall is she? Is she a healthy weight?
She is 5 feet tall. She has never weighed more than 115 lbs, but I like her at 103 lbs.
 
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I wouldn't call it superficial; at 5 feet and 103 lbs, there's not much superficies to go, is there :biggrin:

ok, now that I got my obligatory lame joke of the day done and over with:

I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with being slightly "superficial". I mean, if you have no sexual attraction to a sexual-partner... then you might as well remain just friends. obviously the definition of what is and is not attractive may vary from person to person... whatever bloats your float I always say (ok... two lame puns today). but if there's no attraction in the relationship then there's a problem. so what's wrong with trying to make yourself as attractive to your partner as possible?

I personally like girls who are somewhat short, but I think girls look better when they're not supermodel-skinny... curves are nice; pillows are much more comfortable than park-benches (ok... three lame jokes. but that's it! I swear!). I also find brunettes and redheads in general way cuter than blonds... why are guys all so obsessed with blonds??
 
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There's absolutely no reason you should be with someone you find disgusting or unattractive. That's just ridiculous!
 
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Your girlfriend gets hotter, and you enjoy it, so your superficial? Bollocks. I'd hit that.
 
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I wouldn't call it superficial; at 5 feet and 103 lbs, there's not much superficies to go, is there :biggrin:

ok, now that I got my obligatory lame joke of the day done and over with:

I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with being slightly "superficial". I mean, if you have no sexual attraction to a sexual-partner... then you might as well remain just friends. obviously the definition of what is and is not attractive may vary from person to person... whatever bloats your float I always say (ok... two lame puns today). but if there's no attraction in the relationship then there's a problem. so what's wrong with trying to make yourself as attractive to your partner as possible?

I personally like girls who are somewhat short, but I think girls look better when they're not supermodel-skinny... curves are nice; pillows are much more comfortable than park-benches (ok... three lame jokes. but that's it! I swear!). I also find brunettes and redheads in general way cuter than blonds... why are guys all so obsessed with blonds??
Hear! Hear! Redheads with Curves! woot. :bugeye:
 
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My gf recently lost weight and is now down to 103 lbs. I find myself more attracted to her than before. I'm sorry, but I just like skinny. I find skinny girls so much more attractive than non-skinny girls. Does this make me superficial?
Well that depends on why she's lost weight::uhh:
1. You keep telling her that you'll like her more if she loses some weight and be a skinny girl!
2. Some people lose weight when things aren't going on well especially in relatioships.
So if these are not the cases, you are not a superficial jerk or at least not in a bad way!
moe darklight said:
why are guys all so obsessed with blonds??
because they're blond!
 
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Well that depends on why she's lost weight::uhh:
1. You keep telling her that you'll like her more if she loses some weight and be a skinny girl!
2. Some people lose weight when things aren't going on well especially in relatioships.
So if these are not the cases, you are not a superficial jerk or at least not in a bad way![/SIZE]
I don't see how 'Why' matters at all. He likes her cause she looks better, superficiality is a cultural myth to make ugly people feel better.
 
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Hear! Hear! Redheads with Curves! woot. :bugeye:
:!!) O ya

I don't see how 'Why' matters at all. He likes her cause she looks better, superficiality is a cultural myth to make ugly people feel better.
on the other hand, I think the way a girl carries herself can really affect her overall hotness level (scientifically speaking). I've found myself attracted to girls who I wouldn't normally find that attractive just because they were a lot of fun to talk to and carried themselves with confidence. ... but I'm no saint, I would be lying if I said that personality alone can win me over, or that I would turn down a really hot girl because she had an "ugly personality"
 
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I don't see how 'Why' matters at all. He likes her cause she looks better, superficiality is a cultural myth to make ugly people feel better.
:rofl:

I didn't say that he's superficial becuase he likes her gf now more than before and I think there's nothing wrong with letting your partner know what sorta appearance he prefers and even persuades her to lose/gain weigh to look better. However personally I can't stand it if someone wants to take it so harsh on me and make me think that look is the only thing that matters to him in a relationship.
BTW, I might be a superficial person as well since I nicely asked my bf to shave his mustache and he did!o:)
 
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So? Mustache's are hideous. I mean, normally I'd say beauty is completely subjective, but I draw the line at Mustache's. They suck. Plain, simple.
 
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:!!) O ya



on the other hand, I think the way a girl carries herself can really affect her overall hotness level (scientifically speaking). I've found myself attracted to girls who I wouldn't normally find that attractive just because they were a lot of fun to talk to and carried themselves with confidence. ... but I'm no saint, I would be lying if I said that personality alone can win me over, or that I would turn down a really hot girl because she had an "ugly personality"
mmmmm, curvy redhead with confidence... :!!)
 
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mmmmm, curvy redhead with confidence... :!!)
and a mustache! ... wait... actually, let's stop at confidence.
 
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Haha, you guys reminded me of a study on sexuality that found that people who didn't have "types" had more fulfilling sex lives.

(Hm, I wonder if "crazy loner mathematician" counts as a type. Mmm... crazy loner mathematician...)
 
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No, that does not make you superficial.

I personally like a nice round... :wink:
Me too. o:)

Your girlfriend gets hotter, and you enjoy it, so your superficial? Bollocks. I'd hit that.
I totally second that.

BTW, I might be a superficial person as well since I nicely asked my bf to shave his mustache and he did!o:)
No, you did the right thing. Mustaches are *so* not cool. Every normal woman does that to her man, sooner or later. My mom did it, too. :tongue:


And btw, I adore huge breasts. Does this make me superficial? I vote for NO.
 
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My gf recently lost weight and is now down to 103 lbs. I find myself more attracted to her than before. I'm sorry, but I just like skinny. I find skinny girls so much more attractive than non-skinny girls. Does this make me superficial?
It's just a preference. It doesn't make you superficial unless the way she looks is the primary reason you are attracted to her. Typically the stigma of superficiality applies to people who are unable to see beyond their basic preferences. and truly appreciate another person for all of their qualities. It is synonymous with being 'shallow'. When first meeting someone it is difficult to not be superficial, if only because the opportunity to perceive inner qualities in another is minimal. This isn't the same as being 'shallow'. After time it is expected that one should become more aware of other, more important, qualities than physical appearance.

You're fine. You were with her before she lost the weight. You may be a part of the reason why she chose to lose it. If you like it, enjoy it. It would be odd if you didn't have some preferences.
 
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It's just a preference. It doesn't make you superficial unless the way she looks is the primary reason you are attracted to her.
Hm, if one experiences pure physical sexual attraction, it would make him/her superficial?
 

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