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Immature or mature?

  1. Jun 2, 2005 #1
    Is it immature for an 18 year old to ignore a person instead of facing their problems (by which I mean talking to the person to sort out whatever it is he/she is ignoring them for)?

    Personally, I think the “grown up” thing to do is talk the problems over rather than pretend they’re not there by ignoring someone, what are your views?
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  3. Jun 2, 2005 #2
    Removing all other considerations then talking to the other person would be the more 'mature' way of resolving any problem.

    It's gets complicated if there is no way the problem can be solved if one or more people will not compromise in any way.

    It also becomes worse if there is emotion involved. I mean, lets face it, most disagreements have emotion involved and so sometimes it is neccessary to step away from the situation to allow the emotion to die down a bit and allow both parties to think more clearly.

    ps 'Grow-ups' argue also. It's just they're usually more aware of the consequences if things get too heated. They also should have a greater understanding of compromise.
  4. Jun 2, 2005 #3


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    'Nother thing to consider --- the global population is around 6 billion, you're 18 and we'll give you a life expectancy of 100 years, there are 30 million seconds per year, and doing the math, once you've allotted any individual more than 1/2 second of your time, demands by that individual for more of your time are piggish.
  5. Jun 2, 2005 #4
    Some people, no matter what the age,really dislike conflict at any cost. I don't think its a maturity issue more of a personality one.
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    This is not an age thing. Many people prefer to deny rather than face problems. Many people will go out of their way to avoid confrontation.

    The thing to do is to recognize that they're following their feelings, even if that means they have to think of themselves first.

    It is entirely possible that they are anticipating a bad scene, and wish to avoid it. Breaking the ice in a way that lets them know they have a forum for expressing their own feelings without being shot at may go a long way towards mending the problem.
  7. Jun 2, 2005 #6


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    I would say "It depends." Is sitting down and talking to this person worth your time and effort? Many times I have thought that it wasn't and just let it go.
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