Is it better to not be in love?

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Is it better for people who like to aim high to not be in love?

  • Yes

    Votes: 13 40.6%
  • No

    Votes: 19 59.4%

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  • #31
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Following LowlyPion's lead, more classic writing on love

http://shakespeare.about.com/od/studentresources/a/shklove.htm [Broken]
Is this the same daughter that was just born?

Cyrus, time flies and you're getting old :biggrin:. My daughter was (in eight days) born two years ago.
 
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  • #32
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He did marry his cousin, not your normal type of love.
Actually such a practice was not uncommon or unusual in the earlier half of the 20th century (or before) - in US and Europe. There were occurences in my family four or more generations ago.
 
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Following LowlyPion's lead, more classic writing on love

http://shakespeare.about.com/od/studentresources/a/shklove.htm [Broken]


Cyrus, time flies and you're getting old :biggrin:. My daughter was (in eight days) born two years ago.

WOW! I remember seeing pictures of her just being born like it was yesterday......
 
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Actually such a practice was not uncommon or unusual in the earlier half of the 20th century (or before) - in US and Europe. There were occurences in my family four or more generations ago.

I would likely attribute that to the greater societal pressure to be married, not to mention the importance of a partner just in running a family unit absent more modern conveniences then, and likely too the fact that people weren't in contact with nearly as many opportunities as today, both with the greater mobility and communication technologies. A smaller pool of available and acceptable partners. I'd think a cousin would naturally be class-wise matched, if not culturally matched as to education and experiences and such and because it was in the family already, it's not like the family could then find the partner unsuitable. It was probably a pretty reasonable choice all things considered at the time.
 
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I would likely attribute that to the greater societal pressure to be married, not to mention the importance of a partner just in running a family unit absent more modern conveniences then, and likely too the fact that people weren't in contact with nearly as many opportunities as today, both with the greater mobility and communication technologies. A smaller pool of available and acceptable partners. I'd think a cousin would naturally be class-wise matched, if not culturally matched as to education and experiences and such and because it was in the family already, it's not like the family could then find the partner unsuitable. It was probably a pretty reasonable choice all things considered at the time.

Being/getting married is different that 'love' though-----I feel sorry that some have a hard time finding it---The people that I've known that do have a hard time are the people who have a 'trust' issue (maybe, like Einstein)
 
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is it better to not be in love? You won't be irrational
Love does not imply irrationality. In fact, I don't think that an irrational emotion could possibly be as powerful as the unified desire of heart, body, and mind. If your love is irrational, then keep looking.
 
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Being/getting married is different that 'love' though

I've noticed people conflating the two a lot in this thread. Love doesn't require marriage, and marriage can happen without love as well.
 
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I voted no, though lately I don't know, I feel as if I might come undone.
 
  • #39
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Well, to be honest: there was this woman I cared a lot about (I still do); but she hurt me a lot of times, and that disrupted my studies sometimes. So, I would advise anyone to just focus on your work as much as you can (especially in physics).

It can be depressing; but that is why you have to have an anxiety outlet with your friends. Our group at Seton Hall decided to come up with lame Physics pick-up lines--kind of our lame way of dissing love...


"Hey baby! You got more curves than a sine function on the integral from negative to positive infinity!"...was always my personal favorite.


Something else about being or having an orthogonal vector too, but I swear I always disapproved of that one.

Yes...I know we were lame...but we were self-amused and not going to climb any clock towers from being so lonely at least.
 
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"Hey baby! You got more curves than a sine function on the integral from negative to positive infinity!"...was always my personal favorite.

I get that one all the time.
 
  • #41
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I get that one all the time.

The biggest groan though, definitely had to be...

"Hey, why don't we make a perfectly inelastic collision together?"
 
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Well, to be honest: there was this woman I cared a lot about (I still do); but she hurt me a lot of times, and that disrupted my studies sometimes. So, I would advise anyone to just focus on your work as much as you can (especially in physics).

I don't think that's OP "love".
 
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Well, to be honest: there was this woman I cared a lot about (I still do); but she hurt me a lot of times, and that disrupted my studies sometimes. So, I would advise anyone to just focus on your work as much as you can (especially in physics).

But this is part of life; one has to learn these things, and learn to balance relationships and work.
 
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In response to FrancisZ's bad jokes. I love this song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UTby_e4-Rhg
 
  • #45
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In response to FrancisZ's bad jokes. I love this song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UTby_e4-Rhg

*edit: I got it! That was excellent! :)

Anyway, my friends from Biology think this is hilarious (and it is). Kind of a mix-up between an Ah ha video and a boy band. Take a look...

http://www.eppendorf.com/int/hawkpopup.php?contentid=13
 
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My computer stinks. I can't see it.

Definitely check it out when you can on another computer. I love that song! If only life was a logical as maths!
 
  • #47
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I've noticed people conflating the two a lot in this thread. Love doesn't require marriage, and marriage can happen without love as well.
While this is true, marriage without love or being in love is like a business partnership and that more or less defeats the purpose of being married, especially if kids are not involved. Certainly people can live together or get married for economic reasons, but in the end, I've seen such relationships take a toll on the people involved. I don't recommend it.

It's best to marry one who is one's soulmate, so that each shares their lives with the other and there is mutual support.

I fell in love with a number of women, and even though those relationships didn't continue to marriage, I still love each and everyone for what we shared, and because they are good people.
 
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*edit: I got it! That was excellent! :)

Anyway, my friends from Biology think this is hilarious (and it is). Kind of a mix-up between an Ah ha video and a boy band. Take a look...

http://www.eppendorf.com/int/hawkpopup.php?contentid=13

I think to be in love is great, as long as you don't let it get in the way of your goals in life.

I liked that video, and I must say it was pretty good :smile:
 
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Hey, did anyone notice that George Jones guy looks a bit like Einstein in the picture?

:tongue2:
 

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