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  1. Feb 20, 2009 #1

    ~christina~

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    Is it rude to finish somone else's sentences?
    I don't usually do that, but I did that the other day. It seemed as if the person couldn't find the end of the sentence word so I added it in. I wasn't sure about that, but they sort of gave me an affirmative reaction. (I did that a few times...:uhh:)

    I'm probably not going to do that again because I don't want to give a negative impression of myself, but I just wanted to know what you guys think about this.
     
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  3. Feb 20, 2009 #2

    cristo

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    I do sometimes especially when I'm talking to someone I know quite well! I think it may look a bit bad if you do it to a stranger, though.
     
  4. Feb 20, 2009 #3

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    I think it depends. When someone is searching for a word and can't find it, I think it's fine to try to suggest one that might finish the sentence and move the conversation along, and is part of active listening. On the other hand, if they are having no trouble finishing their own sentences, and you interrupt to complete sentences for them, then it's rude (unless you're dating that person, then it's just expected :biggrin:)
     
  5. Feb 20, 2009 #4
    I agree.
     
  6. Feb 20, 2009 #5
    No, it saves time (sometimes) :biggrin:
     
  7. Feb 20, 2009 #6

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    Moonie!!!!!!! You're back! Missed you on the forum and chat.
     
  8. Feb 20, 2009 #7

    ~christina~

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    What about a professor? Does a different standard apply in that case?
     
  9. Feb 20, 2009 #8

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    This is a habit of mine too, christina. Especially if I know the person well and they talk extra slow.

    I've been called out on it, I think some people can rightfully think it's rude. I try not to do it.

    It's just so hard...in an interesting conversation my mind is goes so fast...slow talkers really gum up the works.
     
  10. Feb 20, 2009 #9

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    It's not that that person was speaking extra slow or anything, but it seemed as if they paused at the end of their sentence, so I suggested a word.
    I don't usually do that and so I looked it up online, and it was suggested that this action was on the list of, "most annoying actions." :redface:
     
  11. Feb 20, 2009 #10
    If it's a professor I want to get on good terms with, I wouldn't try anything.
     
  12. Feb 20, 2009 #11

    cristo

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    Depends: do you know him/her well?
     
  13. Feb 20, 2009 #12

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    When I was a sophomore in college, I spent hours one day talking to the head of the Philosophy department. He gave me 15 minutes on lunch-hour to plead my case to be allowed to audit his course on Meta-Ethics critiquing a book that he was going to publish (Grad students and advanced seniors only), and he finally let me go because he had a course to conduct at 3:00. I got to take the course at full credit, and he and I would often bang around ideas. I wouldn't hesitate to try to finish his sentences, nor he mine. Often it seemed that he was more restrained in that regard, though, because if he saw that I was some conflict about a concept, he wanted to slow the pace of discussion and see what was bubbling up in my head. His name was Erling Skorpen, and I value him and my Honors advisor Cecil Reynolds more than any other educators I have ever known.

    Edit: My advisor was a Rhodes scholar and I conflated that with his name. Sorry.
     
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  14. Feb 20, 2009 #13

    ~christina~

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    :uhh:= not doing that again and just vows on staying silent
     
  15. Feb 20, 2009 #14

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    If it takes him hours to type the response, one eye movement at a time - then yes
     
  16. Feb 20, 2009 #15

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    :rofl:
     
  17. Feb 20, 2009 #16

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    Jeez turbo, you really are older than dirt!!
     
  18. Feb 20, 2009 #17

    turbo

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    Namesake, but by 1970 he was a very old, respected professor emeritus of English Literature.
     
  19. Feb 21, 2009 #18
    My girlfriend gets annoyed when her mother finishes her...
     
  20. Feb 21, 2009 #19

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    Depending on what part of the country you're from and where you go to school, there may be cultural differences in how language is paced in conversation. I noticed a different meter to conversation in the American midwest and south versus the northern tier states and metropolitan regions on both coasts. When I lived in Indiana, I noticed it is considered rude, if you interact efficiently, and not take time to chat for awhile with the local grocer or the hardware clerk. When conversing with people in those places, I am more conscientious about not finishing their sentences.

    On the other hand, some folks in the cities, talk incessantly and I've learned to fully appreciate the idiom, not able to get in a word edge-wise. In those cases, I've had to just jump in, in order to interject my own thoughts. If I behaved that way in the midwest, it would be considered rude.

    Moonie, Great to see you on!! I wonder if your Black-Eyed Susans blossomed as ebulliently this past season?
     
  21. Feb 21, 2009 #20
    I forget what I was going to ...
     
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