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Is premerital SEX immoral

  1. Aug 18, 2004 #1
    I'm a chinese, my parents taught me that sex before marriage is immoral.
    This is typical oriental thinking passed down to us based on Confucianism.

    I don't think all Western people have the opposite view, some religious people in the west are also very strict not to have sex before marriage.

    What do you think about this question? :wink:
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  3. Aug 18, 2004 #2


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    I think each person has a right to make his/her own decision and not be pestered by anyone about it.

    - Warren
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    I agree with chroot, it should be up to the individual.
  5. Aug 18, 2004 #4
    Sex before marriage is necessary. You don't want to marry a girl who sucks in the sack :)
  6. Aug 18, 2004 #5
    Test drive is very important ;)

    you could argue either way, at least I could, I feel, effectively.

    I'm not going to bother lol.

    But here is an article that might point out something in modern mentalities on the subject.


    It seems the Chinese are the most keen on sex ( I wonder where the evidence is? :rolleyes: ) but less likely to be promiscuous...
  7. Aug 18, 2004 #6
    You can have Masterbation to satiate your sexual desire before marriage.
    And SEX is not Everything for marriage, there are many other factors more essential to foster a happy marriage.

    God of Bible forbid SEX before marriage, and one man shall marry only one wife unless she died earlier, then the man can marry again.

    Sex before marriage is SIN according to the moral standard of Holy Bible.
    This Sin will be judged by God and sentenced to eternal fire unless you repent and never do it again and accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior.

    Marry a wife in holy way, and have Holy Sex after wedding will give you more Happiness than being promiscuous.
  8. Aug 18, 2004 #7
    No, but premarital sex may be, and it is also immortal, lol. :biggrin:

    That’s exactly what I did, but I kept getting caught by my wife! :rofl:
  9. Aug 18, 2004 #8
    Wow, what a kind and loving god your worship that would create you as a human which craves sex and then sentence you to eternal fire for fulfilling the desires that the very same god put into you.

    There is nothing wrong with premarital sex.

    I just wanted to quote this one part, as it always makes me laugh. The bible tells you that God is true. God tells you the bible is true. Doesn't that seem circular?
  10. Aug 19, 2004 #9


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    To all participants,

    Please resist the temptation to let this thread devolve from a moral question to a religious question, as religious dicussion is not permitted on physicsforums.com.


    It's a lovely sentiment that you've found happiness in your beliefs, and wish others to be so happy. However, it's quite wrong of you to assert that your value system is the only correct one. Many people -- perhaps most, in some places -- do not care one whit what the bible says. These people are well within their rights to do what they like, whatever risk of eternal damnation you feel they are under. Bedrooms are commonly built with doors for a reason -- learn to stay out of other peoples' bedrooms.

    - Warren
  11. Aug 19, 2004 #10
    I very much agree with aychamo. I think it is very important NOT to postpone your first experiments to after your wedding. Sex is like anything else : you learn it, you improve at it. Don't start learning at 25, that would be a loss of time. Besides Saint, masturbation is far less good than actual sex.

    As for the bible you are quoting. Please be aware that the bible is a very OLD book that had to deal with social issues at the beginning. Society has deeply changed, and the bible is no longer adequate. Religious belief are something, but their should be a very small implication on your everyday life. If your religious believes turn into a dangerous constraint for your physical or mental health, maybe you should question these old rules.

    Do you know how late the Pope is as regards to society ? Let me give you an example : Galileo died around the mid 17th cent. (~1650) "Eppur si muove" It takes almost 200 years to the Vatican to cancel forbideness on the books. It takes more than 150 other years for the Pope to admit that, after all, Copernicus and Galileo might not be burning in Hell. How slow is that mind ?

    The position of the Vatican on sex is really dangerous for themselves. I would not become a churchman, would it only be because that would imply I could not have wife and children. Saying : "Do not use condoms !" is the worst message the Pope can deliver to African people, who are dying with aids.

    I could keep on for a real while, but that is useless. I had only one thing to say to Saint :
    I am christian & I have a critical mind. Jesus said : "love each other" Everybody. He never said "Please suffer".
  12. Aug 19, 2004 #11
    Although I am only 16 I have views on this.

    I, personally, am a christian, as most of you know, I think. Anyway I try to follow the bible if I can so I am waiting until I am marriaged to have sex.

    However, I have read many verses and it has become aware to me, mainly because my old Key Skills teacher helped me to think, that sex IS marriage. Marriage is simply to show everyone that you are about to commit to each other. Sex is the actual marriage. It says in Matthew (Sorry to quote Chroot but I feel it is necessary) something like: Once two bodies have become one they shall not be seperated apart from ...... (can't remember off hand).

    Anyway the point is that so long as you marry your sexual partner then there should be no problems. What the bible is trying to say is don't have sex with multiple people, which I do see as a bit off in my mind but others will not. Sex is a commitment that you must not brake once entered into.

    I know people will not agree with me but I am trying to explain to all my interpretation of the bible, which has been brought up in this thread. The main reason christians don't have sex before marriage is to make sure the other person is ready for this commitment, which is what the marriage is.

    As a moral question there really isn't a problem in today's society if both people are alright with a one-night-stand. It is when one of the people don't want to leave it. This is where the envy and jealous start and then the greed. As you can see, society hasn't changed too much in fact. Ok, we don't ride horses everywhere or live in mud houses but the same problems that faced us thosands of years ago still do. So not to be religious here but Proverbs 10:1 - 29:27 is actual a good bases for everyone. It has helped me to get along with people more because I go to do something foolish and not only do I remember 'verse somethings says don't do that because of this' but also all of the 'foolish' verses come into play. I think even non-religious people should read it. It is only because it is in the bible that people see it as religion. It is actually a very good place to find written advice. Try it sometime. You could be amazed.

    Thanks for reading. :biggrin:

    The Bob (2004 ©)
  13. Aug 19, 2004 #12
    Each to their own, pre-marital, post-marital, either way. Life is to short, but how you spend the time you have is up to you. "Live for today,Live for tomorrow, but never live in the past"
  14. Aug 19, 2004 #13
    This is actually a difficult question for me. Personally I think it is okay, depending on the participants ages. young people should refrain from sex until they are ready to accept the responsibility for their actions. An accidental pregnancy for a high school kid can ruin their life (or lifes if the guy is willing ot own up to his involvement).

    As for the Bible on the subject, the guidelines in the bible are not there to make people miserable, they are there to show us how to live better. For example, sex premaritally gives no assurance to a woman that if a pregnancy should occur she will have help raising the child. After marrage, she is supposed to have a help mate to share the burdon and the joy. Now-a-days this is not the hardship that it was in Biblical times (women were objects and had no way to support themself), but it is still not easy.
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    I was going to object to this as preaching...

    Your question, quite clearly, hinges on the interpretation of 'immoral'. If you insist on a universal moral standard - that established by the Bible - then there is no room for discussion. Clearly, judging from your cant, this is what you are saying.

    Now, I'd like to object to your opening line, based on something I remember reading in Genesis.

    Genesis 38:

    8 And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother.
    9 And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
    10 And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.

    Sir, you get slain by the Lord, for masturbation !! So, I guess the Old Testament doesn't count then ?
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    We're not here to discuss the bible, as chroot mentioned.
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    I'm not discussing the Bible. Only showing evidence for inconsistencies in opening post.
  18. Aug 19, 2004 #17
    I think that it is poorly phrased and highly loaded, and that you are attempting to preach your morality.
  19. Aug 19, 2004 #18
    Sex is not about commitment. To some people, sex may be a sign of commitment, but that isn't true of all people. You write that you have never had sex, so you can't be an authority figure to tell what does and does not come (pardon the pun?) with sex. You can have sex without love, and you can have love without sex.

    I feel that Christians and other religious groups tend to ingrain in their children's minds that sex is this huge, magical, wonderful thing that happens between two people and that all this feeling and responsibility comes with it. I think it's a bit of a scare tactic to keep the kids following the religious ideas that the parents are passing down to their kids.

    The truth is, sex is not a big deal. The only risks that comes with it are pregnancy and STDs. I've had sex with girls and have had no emotional attacahment what-so-ever, and never given them a second thought. There wasn't a huge amount of commitment or anything that came along with it.
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  20. Aug 19, 2004 #19
    Good thing a child didn't come along with it. Or an STD.
  21. Aug 19, 2004 #20


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    My view is that though sex isn't everything, its still important.

    Regarding morality though, if you take your morality from religion, Cristianity generally teaches its bad.
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