Is there a general trait among women...to keep no secrets??? I've been in a relationship with a wonderful girl for several long months now, and have known her for quite a bit longer...she is wonderful, and I love her to pieces, but we recently began to have "intimate" encounters, and lately I'm finding that she has a hard time keeping it to herself. For instance, last night...she had sent me some suggestive text messages, while she was at a friend's house (normal for teenagers, as far as I can tell). I wasn't alarmed, so I replied accordingly...within 10 minutes, her best friend was sending me text messages from my girlfriend's phone. Commenting on our intimate conversation. I was under the impression that our conversation was exclusive, and was a bit upset by this interruption. The next day, I was talking to her friend and apparently, my girlfriend had given this friend complete access to our intimate messages, and the freedom to comment. At first, I was furious and didn't believe a word of it. Come to find out, that indeed she was given full liberty to invade our privacy and do as she pleased. I spoke to my girlfriend about this earlier today, only to find out that it was true and her only response to my question, "Why did you let her invade our private conversation??" was: "Because she's my best friend." Don't get me wrong, it's completely fine with me that my girlfriend confides secrets with others, but what upsets me is that she allowed her friend to let me know what secrets she had been told. I was utterly embarrassed, and am still a bit upset. My question to the forum: Is my reaction to this unreasonable? Is it at all not right for me to be upset at my girlfriend's disregard for exclusivity? And, this is but one example..I've had many, many more experiences like this with other women, and it's only showing me that women have to confide their secrets with someone in order for them to have any meaning. I would greatly appreciate it if someone, anyone would enlighten me on this... Thanks for reading this lengthy post. -Jorge Edit: Perhaps I should mention, for the sake of covering as much of the scenario as possible, that we had never mentioned any boundaries for our privacy (I had always considered these types of conversations private by implication, but I suppose I was wrong). Is this a problem that I should have covered before having intimate conversations?