# Is this true or this is a stupid question?

1. Aug 28, 2011

### flyingpig

Do many men just look for looks in women first and then see if they have anything else in common? Is it the same for women?

2. Aug 28, 2011

### Pengwuino

Most more like it. Although I think half the time most guys don't care if they have anything in common with the girl, unless that "in common" involves kinky outfits and whips. hawt.

3. Aug 28, 2011

### TheStatutoryApe

The first thing that anyone who isn't visually impaired will notice about anyone else is the way they look. It is the initial thing that attracts us to people.

4. Aug 28, 2011

### lisab

Staff Emeritus
As a female, I can tell you what you get if your online dating site does not have a photo.

Crickets.

5. Aug 28, 2011

### Topher925

Picture's worth 1,000 words.

6. Aug 28, 2011

### mcknia07

I, as a female, think that looks play a small role, but mostly it's the personality and connection I have with the man that means the most.

7. Aug 28, 2011

### Topher925

So what exactly is "connection"?

8. Aug 29, 2011

### mcknia07

A spark, the it factor

9. Aug 29, 2011

### Topher925

The "it factor"? I can see we're just going to go in circles here.

10. Aug 29, 2011

### lisab

Staff Emeritus
That could be a sign that there is a connection.

11. Aug 30, 2011

### rootX

First if they love dogs and then looks .

12. Aug 31, 2011

### Constantinos

I think looks is more than external appearance.

If I saw a woman with the body of a model but couldn't walk straight, or her hands would shake while talking, she wouldn't really "look" good to me and maybe most men.

If I saw a woman with the body of a model and her every move was as elegant as a dancer's and when she started to talk she would talk about conspiracy theories or something completely crazy like alien abductions or about trivial things like the next top model/some soap opera, she would not "look" good to me either and maybe most (I want to believe) men.

So "good looks" is not only external beauty, but a combination of factors, namely physical appearance, movement and immediate character traits. These are also the first things to be noticed by people and it should go for both men and women. At first, this is the only information you have about someone.

13. Sep 1, 2011

### 256bits

14. Sep 2, 2011

### Ivan92

I say attraction has to be there, however it is not everything. If you see an attractive woman and find out that she has a hobby or does something that is also in your interest obviously one would be tempted to talk to her and get to know her more.

15. Sep 2, 2011

### jhae2.718

If we're talking about attraction, it's usually about $\frac{GMm}{r^2}$.

16. Sep 3, 2011

### KingNothing

Are you attracted to massive women?

17. Sep 4, 2011

### jhae2.718

Hint: all my posts to this subforum are me being a smart-***.

18. Sep 16, 2011

### ahsanxr

He would actually be more repelled by massive women, since he forget the negative sign.

19. Sep 16, 2011

### flyingpig

Oh you guys...

20. Sep 19, 2011