Little help with asking people out

[rootX]

I want someone attractive. I don't need it, but I want it. I won't settle for anything without it.

I don't know how this will work once you reach 90s .. ? Old people are usually ugly with respect to ...

 

[mcknia07]

I think you should just go for it, you will regret it if you don't. The worst thing she can do is just say we should only be friends, but hey, you have that now, so she could always change her mind later on. Looks are for sure not the only thing to look for though. Most girls once don't go just by looks, but as Evo put it

 

[tribdog]

Oh, god. Why couldn't you have said 90s. did you have to call 40s old? do you know how many important people here are 40? Some people deserve what they get.

 

[rootX]

Oh, god. Why couldn't you have said 90s. did you have to call 40s old? do you know how many important people here are 40? Some people deserve what they get.

I put "with respect to" .. so that could be wrt early 20s who are go with people's looks. Same goes for 80s with respect to 40s

When do wrinkles come and hair go gray? I thought that's 40 ..

ok, fixed :D

 

[thebluelagoon]

Well, my rents are 50 and they're not paticularly grey or wrinkly...

 

[turbo]

They are indeed valuable qualities. But in your 20s, can you honestly tell me this is how you filtered women?

My steady date in HS was a Miss Maine Runner-up. I went with her primarily because she latched onto me. In retrospect. I should have had more sense ... In reality, I did eventually, and have been happily married for ~30 years.

 

[Howers]

See, this is why I get so many points against me. I always end up in trouble because no one else wants to stand up and tell this guy to watch his mouth. there is a difference between disagreeing with someone and being rude. And this punk has not earned the right to be rude to anyone on here.
Maybe punk is a strong word, but dammit, I like Evo and she shouldn't be called a liar. I've never known her to lie to anyone.

I suppose I came off rude. I do have temperment and I don't really put an effort to control it online, which is why I may appear confrontational. I find my mean-spirit often brings out the best when arguing, but I do forget that people here are my elders (5+ years older than me) and deserve respect different from my peers.

I really like Evo, and didn't mean to insult her. But looking back I suppose I did. My snide remark about her daughter didn't really soften the blow as I intended, it sort of made it worse. Its just what she said struck a chord with me and my aunt (not real aunt, more of a super close friend of mom). This aunt is sort of like Evo in that she tells everyone appearance is not important and that a good personality is all one should look for in a mate (I think its because her husband lacks said qualities). On the other hand she will look at young couples and remark about how compatible they are based soley on appearance... ie. 'that girl could do so much better than that fat kid'. And she let's the world know how beautiful her daughter is and how she could date superstars. Complete hipocracy. Its this similarity that promted me to confront Evo. I guess I should not have infered anything about Evo like that, and maybe she genuinely dismisses appearance. I just find it infuriating when people say looks don't matter, because in general that is not the case. They are definitely not everything, and one can never build a relationship based soley on them. But they are a big part of the mix.

And I definitely agree looks are subjective.

(and sorry to Evo if she got insulted)

 

[JasonRox]

My steady date in HS was a Miss Maine Runner-up. I went with her primarily because she latched onto me. In retrospect. I should have had more sense ... In reality, I did eventually, and have been happily married for ~30 years.

One of my ex-gf is now a pornstar. :rofl:

Good times.

Yeah, I need sexual desire for my partner all the time. I'm fine with living alone otherwise.

 

[JasonRox]

I suppose I came off rude. I do have temperment and I don't really put an effort to control it online, which is why I may appear confrontational. I find my mean-spirit often brings out the best when arguing, but I do forget that people here are my elders (5+ years older than me) and deserve respect different from my peers.

I really like Evo, and didn't mean to insult her. But looking back I suppose I did. My snide remark about her daughter didn't really soften the blow as I intended, it sort of made it worse. Its just what she said struck a chord with me and my aunt (not real aunt, more of a super close friend of mom). This aunt is sort of like Evo in that she tells everyone appearance is not important and that a good personality is all one should look for in a mate (I think its because her husband lacks said qualities). On the other hand she will look at young couples and remark about how compatible they are based soley on appearance... ie. 'that girl could do so much better than that fat kid'. And she let's the world know how beautiful her daughter is and how she could date superstars. Complete hipocracy. Its this similarity that promted me to confront Evo. I guess I should not have infered anything about Evo like that, and maybe she genuinely dismisses appearance. I just find it infuriating when people say looks don't matter, because in general that is not the case. They are definitely not everything, and one can never build a relationship based soley on them. But they are a big part of the mix.

And I definitely agree looks are subjective.

(and sorry to Evo if she got insulted)

You don't need to give more respect to someone just because they're older. Everyone should have the same amount of respect from you initially. If I meet a 14 year old kid for the first time or a 40 year old lady, they both get the same respect from me. To get more respect, it must be earned and not just "expected" because you're older. Sorry, but not with me.