# Living with parents.

1. Apr 3, 2008

### Holocene

At 23, I'm starting to hate it.

How so? Just because one struggles from pay check to pay check doesn't make them strong. That will mean nothing in the end if you struggle from pay check to pay check until you are 65 and can't retire because you only have $5000 in retirement savings. 11. Apr 3, 2008 ### Poop-Loops Then give me half of your paycheck. You'll be stronger for it, because it will mean you will have to struggle. Deal? 12. Apr 3, 2008 ### russ_watters ### Staff: Mentor See: post #1 13. Apr 3, 2008 ### Poop-Loops I can sympathize with the OP a bit. I live with my parents while going to college. It's not as "free" as it would be if I had my own place. Especially since my mom gets really paranoid if I don't "call in" at night or something, even though I'm 21. I mean, I'm a shut-in, so I don't really do anything, but my point is that having parents over your shoulders the whole time kind of sucks. That being said, I'll take it over having to pay for my own housing and food any day. I am REALLY grateful that they didn't kick me out when I graduated high-school and I remind them of that periodically, and NEVER ***** to them about anything like that. That being said, I'm getting more and more excited about moving out when I leave for grad school. I realize it won't be all roses and chocolates, but it will be a good experience. I mean, I'd have to do it sooner or later anyway, so it's not like delaying it would help at all. 14. Apr 3, 2008 ### jhicks I'd go nuts if I lived at home. I live within 3 hours of home and I'm constantly getting bugged to drive home often, which I don't like because it's simply too easy to go home, get laundry done, get food, etc. In a sense I feel somewhat cheated in the independence department, which is why I'm really looking forward to living say 10 hours away instead of 3. Living at home can make you too reticent in your future; All my friends that stayed at home after highschool have had major life changes for the worst (dropped out of college, got married and never went to college, did bum stuff like party and join bands and work at menial jobs). You need to get out and start making sacrifices or your life will turn out as you will not like. 15. Apr 3, 2008 ### DaveC426913 One can choose to rise to the responsibility of being an independent adult or one can choose not to. 16. Apr 3, 2008 ### DaveC426913 I have earned what I have. The struggling is what turns teenagers into adults. 17. Apr 3, 2008 ### gravenewworld Yeah try telling someone living pay check to pay check that they are "independent". I did it before, and you are nothing more than a slave. How are you supposed to live on your own when you can't even afford to save for a down payment on a house because you are suffocating under a load of other bills? I'm sorry, but I am not going to pay someone else's mortgage for the rest of my life via rent. Paying rent is much more of a waste of money than spending money on going to the movies. 18. Apr 3, 2008 ### DaveC426913 So, you'll mooch off your parents then? Struggling is one of the rites of passage into adulthood. Adulthood is not meted out by parents, it is taken by those who want it. Those who don't can stay children all their life. Nobody said growing up was going to be pleasant. Or easy. Last edited: Apr 3, 2008 19. Apr 3, 2008 ### gravenewworld Considering the fact that my parents don't even care, and actually even want me to live back at home, then yes, I will gladly "mooch" off my parents. Let me guess, you are some old school guy who went to college 30 years ago when it cost$2000 for tuition. Sorry, but times have changed, and college tuition prices have easily outpaced inflation over the past 20 years. Kids leave college these days with $40, 50, even$100 K in debt. If you did research further you would also see that inflation adjusted salaries for college grads hasn't even risen over the past 20 years (in fact if I remember correctly it has actually fallen).

Put it this way, if I died right on the spot right now, I'd probably be worth about negative \$60,0000.

20. Apr 3, 2008

### turbo

At some point in your life, you have to grow up and take responsibility for your future career-track and personal development. Don't wait.