first of all, i'm only fairly confident that i've chosen the appropriate forum for this. anyway -- loving and thinking, for me, have always been two different, distinct, indulgances. however, i've noticed that if i partake one, i ignore the other. to wit, bein' a lover is grand but thinking is sexy, but i wanna be both. is there a way of filling both voids and having that whole existance? or to adequately persue one .. must one adequately ignore the other? perhaps my failure to walk and chew bubble gum, as they say, is my personal vice and not a vice shared by the masses of others. anyone?