Moving away while maintaining a relationship?

  1. It must be possible, correct?

    So I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years now but I am soon to move across the country (UK) to study at university. I have no intentions of breaking it up but I think I just don't know what the future will bring.

    Has anyone ever been in the same boat?
  2. jcsd
  3. I hooked up with a girl online, maintained it for approximately a year, and then moved her in with me. I see no reason why it can't work, although in my case I assumed the entirity of the financial expense on every aspect of the relationship.
  4. lisab

    lisab 3,188
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    In a place like the UK, "across the country" seems doable. Frequent weekend visits aren't out of the question.

    In places like Australia, Canada, US, Russia, Brazil...maybe it wouldn't be so easy.
  5. It's quite doable, I've found that frequent visits (with the date of the next visit known in advance) helps significantly. Phone calls at least a couple of times a week and IM chatting help also.
  6. wowwwwwwwwww i have the opposite situation, i dont have a girl freind and im tending to contiune my studies in australlia , and i live in lebanon , but i need a guarentee , like a fioence that i will came back to lebanon?? lol
  7. You're going to be in a world of pain, my friend. I had that problem (still have it for a couple of weeks) and she was just a little too far away to see regularly. Its a whole different set of issues.
  8. My girlfriend and I have been together for about five years. But our jobs are currently keeping us apart. She is on the west coast and I am on the east coast (USA). Her job is temporary however (adjunct at university), so eventually we hope to get together somehow.
    Last edited: May 31, 2011
  9. It's very hard to maintain a long distance relationship, and sadly many people do it just out of inertia - they've been with their partner so long that they just don't feel that they could possibly break up.

    If you're going to try, good luck to you, but be VERY sure that you're not just trying to stay with this girl because you've been together for x years. There are always new people out there, and unless the person is TRULY worth it, you might end up regretting the time and effort you spent trying to maintain a relationship that ended up failing.
  10. Once I finish school at the end of the week I'm going to give me girlfriend a talk. She goes to a local university I know she went there because of me. I do love this woman but I feel I'm do dedicated to getting a good education and then a 'cool' job. I would literally move country for a new occupation. Relationships involve two people and I know I have to consider her opinion.
  11. Evo

    Staff: Mentor

    It takes a certain type of person to flourish in a long distance relationship. Having had both, I prefer long distance.

    With a long distance relationship, time together is planned, it's special, and therefore the time together is more likely to be of high quality and less petty daily annoyances. The downside is if you decide to move in together, you may find that you can't tolerate each other. Even if you once lived together, after living apart for awhile, you may not be able to make living together again work, people change.
  12. oh man life is hard
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