I need to know the best way to discourage someone from being interested in dating you and become friends. A guy I used to work with texted me Christmas Eve. I haven't spoken to him for at least a year. He had a crush on me when we worked together, but never approached me, he would discuss it with co-workers though. He's hysterically funny and an incredible cook. I was really sad when he was laid off because I could hear him from my cubicle and I'd be in tears sometimes from laughing so hard. He wants to come over and make me his shrimp gumbo which is the most awesome gumbo I've ever tasted. I had asked him for the recipe, but he doesn't have one, so he said he'd show me how to make it. I would love that, but I know he "likes" me, so it would be awkward. How do you discourage someone that you know is interested in dating you that you aren't interested in them, but would like to be friends, without making them uncomfortable? We were never "friends" as far as socializing, we were simply co-workers, so there is no existing "friendship". And I want to know how to make that gumbo.