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rootX said:another relationship thread!
:!) :rofl:
:rofl: Except he's not asking for advice, just opinions.
rootX said:another relationship thread!
:!) :rofl:
turbo-1 said:Faithful is important. My wife was in a horrible accident. It did not disfigure her like the accident John McCain's wife was in, but she was partially paralyzed and lost almost all her vision. She has recovered most of her function and vision and is as tough as hell, though the disparity in the length of her leg-bones has given her ongoing skeletal problems. I've been through a lot, too, and she has stood by me through some crap when other women would have walked out.
For me "faithful" means a whole lot more than "I won't go out on you if we agree not to". That's juvenile. Faithful means that when your life hands you the worst day-week-month-year that you think you'll ever see, you have a soul-mate willing to stand by you. I hope you get that, even if you discount it now.
turbo-1 said:Faithful is important. My wife was in a horrible accident. It did not disfigure her like the accident John McCain's wife was in, but she was partially paralyzed and lost almost all her vision. She has recovered most of her function and vision and is as tough as hell, though the disparity in the length of her leg-bones has given her ongoing skeletal problems. I've been through a lot, too, and she has stood by me through some crap when other women would have walked out.
For me "faithful" means a whole lot more than "I won't go out on you if we agree not to". That's juvenile. Faithful means that when your life hands you the worst day-week-month-year that you think you'll ever see, you have a soul-mate willing to stand by you. I hope you get that, even if you discount it now.
Moonbear said:I think she might have just been suggesting that the woman you ditched as a bad kisser and bad lead-in to sex might have been able to learn had you been more patient. It's possible...maybe she'd only been with really inexperienced guys who thought anything she did was great and she could have learned from you and gotten better. But, that's your decision if you wanted to put in the time and effort to find out if things could improve with experience.
binzing said:Guess he wants an ego boost or something?
Moonbear said::rofl: Except he's not asking for advice, just opinions.
JasonRox said:Yes, but but character was lacking as well.
JasonRox said:How's the current boyfriend right now Moonbear?
Moonbear said:Yes, that's far more important. I also think if personalities match, bad kissing doesn't really seem so bad. But, if personalities don't really match, then even decent kissing can seem really bad.
moonbear said:still current.
I don't think of myself as kind-hearted. When my wife was released from the hospital, she had two broken legs, a broken arm (paralyzed) and she had just enough vision to recognize faces if you stood right in front of her and she had time to scan your face over and over. Her mother was retired and agreed to take care of her because I worked rotating shifts with mandatory overtimes and hold-overs and couldn't provide off-time coverage. I spent as much time at my mother-in-law's place as I could, I bought all the groceries for both of them every week and chipped in with utilities, etc, as much as she would let me. The next summer, my wife and I toured maritime Canada with her mother, and invited her mother's sister, so she would have a companion of like age. It was a small thing to do.john16O said:wow, this has a lot of wisdom to it. I'm only 19 and had my fair share of immature relationships relative to others at my age. This puts a lot of things into perspective for me. Thank you. You are a very good, kind-hearted person for doing what you did...
turbo-1 said:I don't think of myself as kind-hearted. When my wife was released from the hospital, she had two broken legs, a broken arm (paralyzed) and she had just enough vision to recognize faces if you stood right in front of her and she had time to scan your face over and over. Her mother was retired and agreed to take care of her because I worked rotating shifts with mandatory overtimes and hold-overs and couldn't provide off-time coverage. I spent as much time at my mother-in-law's place as I could, I bought all the groceries for both of them every week and chipped in with utilities, etc, as much as she would let me. The next summer, my wife and I toured maritime Canada with her mother, and invited her mother's sister, so she would have a companion of like age. It was a small thing to do.
JasonRox said:bmw... :!)
Moonbear said::rofl: HE can afford the BMW, I just go along for the ride.
DaveC426913 said:I have a friend who is a poly. She attends poly socials. Did you have any questions you wanted to ask her?
Her mother is 92 now, and suffering from dementia, but when I see her, she always has a smile for me. Our days in the maritimes were the first time she'd ever been out of the country, and I made sure to plan to visit attractions that she and her sister would like, so we wandered up the east shore of Fundy and visited the Evangeline Chapel, the Royal Gardens at Annapolis Royale, Victoria Park in Truro, and all kinds of other stops. The sisters were still telling people about it weeks later.JasonRox said:Small thing or not. It was a very valuable thing you did.
turbo-1 said:Her mother is 92 now, and suffering from dementia, but when I see her, she always has a smile for me. Our days in the maritimes were the first time she'd ever been out of the country, and I made sure to plan to visit attractions that she and her sister would like, so we wandered up the east shore of Fundy and visited the Evangeline Chapel, the Royal Gardens at Annapolis Royale, Victoria Park in Truro, and all kinds of other stops. The sisters were still telling people about it weeks later.
That was all great, but how could it compare to knowing that someone would take care of the love of my life when she was practically helpless? I should have taken those old ladies to Hawaii for a week - I just couldn't afford it.
JasonRox said:Small thing or not. It was a very valuable thing you did.
Uh, sort of a meet & greet with like-minded people. She's met many of her relationships at such things.JasonRox said:Poly socials, like what?
DaveC426913 said:Uh, sort of a meet & greet with like-minded people. He's met many of her relationships at such things.
turbo-1 said:Watch out, Jason! Cyrus just got un-banned. Actually, he might have to leave your thread alone...
Math Is Hard said:What's the difference in being in an open relationship and just dating someone non-exclusively?
Polyamory has all the pitfalls of a monogamous relationship. They are work to maintain.Math Is Hard said:What's the difference in being in an open relationship and just dating someone non-exclusively?
Everyone is consensual but jealousy happens. Communication is indeed the key.Math Is Hard said:So you respect and "communicate" with the primary girlfriend but not the others?
I'm just trying to understand how it works.
Math Is Hard said:So you respect and "communicate" with the primary girlfriend but not the others?
I'm just trying to understand how it works.
Math Is Hard said:What's the difference in being in an open relationship and just dating someone non-exclusively?
What's your area?JasonRox said:I thought about such things. I just don't think it's quite big in my area.
Yes, there are different types. Usually, 3 but sometimes 4. The 4's are sometimes X's, sometimes N's or other (the letters represent pairings in the relationship. So, an 'N' is boy1-girl1, girl1-boy2, boy2-girl2. i.e. boy1 and girl2 have no relationship.)Math Is Hard said:I looked it up on Wiki, but it seems ambiguous. It seems like you could have multiple boyfriends or girlfriends that you have equally loving relationships with, or, it could mean that you have one girlfriend or boyfriend but you sleep with other people (and you're honest about it).