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When I'm sixty, my wife is going to have a rocking body. She'll also be 22
DaveC426913 said:This is a good point, worth noting. It is a quantifiable and objective take on the subject of what is not a deal-breaker in a marriage.
Serious.S_Happens said:I can't decide whether you're serious or sarcastic.
DaveC426913 said:There's lots of unfounded opinions flying around in this thread.
Huh. Asking questions instead of making statements.S_Happens said:I think the OP can turn this into a valid question if he really wants to. He just has to actually pose it as a question instead of a statement or rheotorical question.
S_Happens said:Also, to me and seemingly the rest of those that have responded, there is a stark difference between "weight gained with age" and 100 lbs. 100 lbs would be quite significant to me (more than weight gained with age or "flabby" ), but I'm certainly not foolish enough to state outright that it would be something to get divorced over. I'm not in that situation, and there would be much, much more to consider if I ever was.
The general answer to the general question is that everyone will have their limit. Some will tend to infinity, while others will converge. That is going to have to be weighted against other factors as well, which each have their own limit. As each factor approaches its limit, the importance will increase. So, the general answer is... pluh...
A specific question would mean specifying a certain weight instead of a subjective term, and then ASKING what others think (or asking for individual limits). Of course I'm not going anywhere near that one.
I would have been concerned loooong before that as to why she was traumatized or depressed. Those would be the things I'd be greatly concerned about. She's my wife; I love her and care about her well-being.pergradus said:So if your wife gained 100 lbs you'd be perfectly fine with that?
pergradus said:... because (like the vast majority of the Americans) people simply stop caring.
nucleargirl said:I am going to get so fat as I age
DaveC426913 said:Well, make sure you land that "hot guy" first then...
pergradus said:Maybe I approached this thread too bluntly or a little over-generalized, but do you guys really believe that physical attraction isn't important in a relationship, including maintaining that physical attraction?
Again, not a lot of relationships end because of loss of physical attraction.pergradus said:Maybe I approached this thread too bluntly or a little over-generalized, but do you guys really believe that physical attraction isn't important in a relationship, including maintaining that physical attraction?
pergradus said:Maybe I'm old-fashioned or stuck up or something, but this really bothers me, and it seems to be a growing trend that people gain weight and become flabby as they get older.
To me this seems so disrespectful to your partner. A man or woman was attracted to you based on how you looked when he/she met you - and obviously they like that kind of physique. How is it that people just let themselves go to crap once they get married?
It seems so selfish and inconsiderate of how your partner feels, and though I'm a young guy and won't be married for a long time, i would always try to stay in shape so that I look good for my wife, and would hope she'd do the same for me. I understand this probably sounds shallow to most people, but I feel that physical attraction is a huge part of a relationship, and it's just a fundamental part of being a human being.
I mean, you wouldn't go out on a date with someone with shabby clothes and food stains all over yourself, so why would you neglect your physical appearance? Also I'm saying "you" a lot, but I'm not necessarily addressing the reader or accusing anyone here, just addressing Americans in general.
bleedblue1234 said:I think a part of the problem is that many older people simply don't have the social resources to exercise regularly.
Many of them are long beyond playing sports and doing other things that lead to exercise secondarily (for instance, I currently play hockey as an 18 year old, and I am in pretty darn good shape because of it). Also, many running / exercise clubs are geared towards the younger crowd (<40)...
DaveC426913 said:I just don't get it.
How can any of you commit such sweeping generalized judgements in a vacuum of facts?
You know nothing about the lives of the people you are judging - well, you're not really judging people at all. You're judging an unfounded preconception you have of a group you've made up and stuffed - what? thousands? millions? of people into. They all have the same lives and are perfectly free to have hard, fit bodies and the only reason they don't is beause they've stopped caring?
This is ridiculous.
DaveC426913 said:I just don't get it.
How can any of you commit such sweeping generalized judgements in a vacuum of facts?
You know nothing about the lives of the people you are judging - well, you're not really judging people at all. You're judging an unfounded preconception you have of a group you've made up and stuffed - what? thousands? millions? of people into. They all have the same lives and are perfectly free to have hard, fit bodies and the only reason they don't is beause they've stopped caring?
This is ridiculous.
Proton Soup said:are you disputing the statistics? perhaps on an individual basis BMI is not reliable, but on a population it's a pretty good indicator. and the numbers show that our BMIs have continued to rise. it's not a personal judgement, just an observation of facts that, as a nation (US), we are getting more obese. and it's not just a matter of having less active work lives, our consumption of calories has also gone up. we eat more, and we exercise less. at some point, we've got to stop worrying so much about stepping on everyone's feelings and take ownership of the idea that, as a matter of health, our nation needs to eat less and exercise more.
Alfi said:as I said
.. energy in equals energy out + fat.
but this has little to do with relationships, unless you make it an issue.
Love is blind. or Love is beyond the physical.
Proton Soup said:are you disputing the statistics?
... just an observation of facts...
DaveC426913 said:Really? There are statistics that show that, as people age, the reason they gain weight is that they stop caring out of disrespect for their spouses?
Because that's what's being claimed by the OP and seconded by leroyjenkins.