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Sad times in aloneland

  1. Sep 19, 2014 #1
    I'm just like the scene in Clueless/Bridget Jones.... all by my self.... don't wanna be... all by my self... anymore!
    everything sucks in one's late twenties!
    late teens vs late twenties is like a bathfull of pie vs a hole in the ground... that leads to a pit of slime filled with floating blubbers and rocks. I know which I'd rather dive into!

    oh woe...! woe is me!

    What I mean is... does it get better?

    will I ever find a boyfriend? Why have I not already? why!

    will I ever be happy!

    Last edited: Sep 19, 2014
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  3. Sep 19, 2014 #2
    You seem festive today!
  4. Sep 20, 2014 #3


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    Why have you not found a boyfriend? Easy.

    You're not up to date guys as attractive as you. You want people more attractive, and those people want people even more attractive. Settle for the same level and you'll find several.
  5. Sep 21, 2014 #4

    Larry Gopnik

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    That's a bit harsh DataGG. Besides, it shouldn't be about looks. If you try to find a relationship based only around looks then its bound to fail. I thought I'd never find a boyfriend but currently have one - we didn't only go out because of our looks or the fact "We were the same league". We went out due to him studying Robotics and AI and me doing Theoretical Physics.

    It will get better.

    And nothing wrong with Bridget Jones.
  6. Sep 21, 2014 #5
    It will get better, but not on its own, sorry about that. Newton's 3rd Law: every action has an equal and an opposite reaction. Without an action of yours, there will be no reaction ;/
  7. Sep 21, 2014 #6


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    The point is, people should get to know you. If you act somehow that the guys should try hard to understand you, they think you don't want to be understood!!!
    Take a piece of paper and write all the things you can do or the things you want to learn to do. These are not all of you, but are a big part of you. Then try to take part in communities doing or learning such things.
    If you like physics, try to get involved in group conversations about physics. If you can play violin, try to show that to others. Or if you can't play violin but you really like to learn it, go and learn it!
    I don't care what, but care about who you are and try to express it. Then people have a notion of who you are and surely one of them likes such a person to be with. Then he tries to get close to you and you should be open but not like "Hey, I need you, so whatever you do, just come to me and stay with me". You should respect yourself.
    So just express yourself, let people know what you can do, and what are your interests.
  8. Sep 24, 2014 #7
    really? I thought that was how its supposed to be... I am me and they try to understand me because they want to...
    I don't make eye contact with anyone either... maybe I'm taking 'being mysterious' a bit too far...
    how can I be easily understood?? I don't want to be 'in your face' all the time...
  9. Sep 24, 2014 #8
    oh woe... an it doesn't help that I have gained a lot of rage lately... omg so much RAGE!
    its so bad that I literally sit on the bus and hate everyone and today somehow found myself growling walking along the street from some rageful thought in my mind...
  10. Sep 24, 2014 #9


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    nucleargirl, I'm pretty sure we've told you before, if not, my apologies, please seek professional help. Psychologist, psychiatrist, social worker, someone. Good luck to you.
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