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Secrets and women

  1. Dec 23, 2009 #1

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    :/

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/6199822/Women-cannot-keep-a-secret-for-longer-than-47-hours.html" [Broken]


    That reminds me of a joke;

    The three fastest ways of communication in the world; telephone, television and tell a women. Still need a faster way? ..... Tell her not to tell anyone! :biggrin:


    Seriously, what do you think?
     
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    I would tend to agree, woman share more gossip then they think. Even I, have talked to another group of friends, about something going on with the first group. It may be gossip, but it also allows me to vent to people who could give me another point of view.

    I also never say any thing about anyone that I would not say to their faces. I know my fair share of men who gossip too. While its not like womans gossip, it normally begins with "That A$$ you should hear what he did to his {house, wife, kids, car}!".

    If someone asks me not to tell, then I really will, never tell. If I give my promise, I am good for it.
     
  4. Dec 23, 2009 #3
    i was about 8 years old when i learned not to trust women.
     
  5. Dec 23, 2009 #4

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    Just like in "The Dish", when mayor Bob McIntyre asks his wife if she can keep a secret and she giggles and replies, "Of course not!"

    Men are different. Decades ago, I was working as a security guard at an Acme/Click (kind of like a Walmart) and perusing the shoplifting reports as entertainment. Entertaining indeed! There was one for my wife's sister!

    In twenty-seven years, I've never told anyone about her shoplifting.


    Doh! That was stupid. Doesn't matter, she's an ex sister-in-law anyway.


    That's okay. I've got a different secret I've kept almost as long about, uh, .... well, maybe another time.
     
  6. Dec 23, 2009 #5
    Better to learn early then after you get married! :)

    Women are so tempting to confide in, it's a trait they perfect as soon as the master their native language. The better they are at it the more popular they are with the rest of the gossip spinners. If a women can't develop some good gossip, she just doesn't get the rank in the feminine circles.
     
  7. Dec 23, 2009 #6
    I think men gossip a lot too. If they want to talk about another guy who isn't there, they'll say what they need to say and be done with it. Women will talk and talk about that person until they don't have anything left to say about them, then they'll start making stuff up.
     
  8. Dec 23, 2009 #7

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    Men never gossip! They just happen to run into good gossip diggers at the worst times.
     
  9. Dec 23, 2009 #8

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    I think one key differnce is that guys will say things about other guys in their presence! Plus I think as far as this article goes, guys don't need to divert to other "friendship groups" with secrets. This article is awesome though, although it makes me wonder why someone needed to be paid to tell us this :).

    Hmm I just realized I probably shouldnt have my name attached to this post less Evo and Moonbear and the like find out :biggrin:
     
  10. Dec 23, 2009 #9
    Can you imagine the gossip they have on us??
     
  11. Dec 23, 2009 #10

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    Don't trust her!
     
  12. Dec 23, 2009 #11

    BobG

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    On you and Pengwino?

    You should tell hypatia.
     
  13. Dec 23, 2009 #12

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    I think I would like to hear the drankin and Pengwuino gossip.
     
  14. Dec 23, 2009 #13

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    You'll never get any dirt on me!
     
  15. Dec 23, 2009 #14

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    Me? Expert in feminine gossip psychology? I got nothing, this is my version of male gossip.
     
  18. Dec 23, 2009 #17
    I posted this once before:

    Me: Can you keep a secret?
    My wife: Yes.
    Me: So can I.
    My wife: You're a dead man Snyder.
     
  19. Dec 24, 2009 #18
    So, then, it's actually men who gossip in order to gain rank and you were simply projecting?
     
  20. Dec 24, 2009 #19
    Huh? Sure, I'm "projecting" I guess. Everyone gossips, but that's not the topic of the thread. Women are much better at gossip. Much. :)
     
  21. Dec 24, 2009 #20
    Some supporting data: http://search.rja-ads.com/pdfs/demographics/natenq-demographics.pdf [Broken]
     
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  22. Dec 24, 2009 #21

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    Thank you for reinforceing my distrust in humanity, especially women.

    Seriously, I know better than to trust a woman with a secret! I told (who I thought was) a female friend of mine a secret in the morning, and it was all over school by lunch!

    She's not my friend anymore for obvious reasons.

    (Note: This is also when I became a cynic.)
     
  23. Dec 24, 2009 #22
    In my experience women are much worse about gossiping than men. Every woman I have ever dated has told me almost every dirty little secret she knew about any person she happened to bring up in conversation. I have even gotten to listen to things I would much prefer to not have heard about friends of mine.

    Men I think tend to relish the idea that they know something that no one else knows. In my experience a male is much more likely to hint or outright say that they know something about someone but withhold the information.

    Personally I occasionally discuss what might be a secret about someone but usually only with friends I have who are not going to meet the other and only if I am concerned about the person or the secret concerns me as well. I also tell stories that others have told me in confidence if I think that they are interesting but without names and only to people who I doubt could ever figure out who the story is about.

    I think that his idea was that if a person is part of a group of peers that tends to swap gossip they will stand to gain popularity and influence in that group by having more and juicier gossip. While I have no study to back me up I would not be surprised to find that there is a strong correlation between the tendency to gossip and the desire for social climbing.
     
  24. Dec 24, 2009 #23
    I must disagree. Women are just as good at keeping a secret as men, it just takes more of them to do it.
     
  25. Dec 24, 2009 #24

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    You have an interesting definition of "just as good" then. Usually, if it takes 10 women to do the same job 1 man could do, then you'd hire 2 women (affirmative action, you know).

    I notice men get unfairly insulted for being better at sex, too. They're almost always faster than women and get made fun of because of it.

    It's part of today's culture where a person seems to get put down for excelling.
     
  26. Dec 24, 2009 #25
    I suppose women had a tough time during the caveman times and had to rely on quick exchange of information.
     
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