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aaronbenjamin
hi, i am concerned that my lack of self esteem may be making it hard for me to meet someone, any advice? thanks!
lisab said:I'm guessing your doubt about meeting someone is due to a cycle: you have low self esteem, which makes you unsure of your social skills, which reinforces your low self esteem.
You need to break the cycle. I suggest doing that by working to improve your social skills. This can help you meet someone, and can also improve your self esteem.
Social skills are like any other skill: to improve, you need to practice, practice, practice. How much do you interact with people now (either gender, any setting)?
lisab said:The moles you should get removed. Seriously, if they are impacting you, do it; don't be embarrassed to ask your doc to do it.
Actually for health reasons, it's a good idea, especially if they're in a place where you can not monitor them for changes.
AFG34 said:the fastest way is to hang out with people who are confident and pickup on their certain behaviours that you like. Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
AFG34 said:Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
AFG34 said:... Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
brainstorm said:You can become more confident about your physical self-esteem issues by realizing that everyone has such insecurities. If you are friendly and give someone with similar self-esteem issues the feeling that you are not going to judge, ridicule, or tease them about their issues then you two might get to the point where you can divulge your insecurities and a big weight will be lifted off both of you, which will strengthen your relationship if you're ready for that.
Low self-esteem can have a significant impact on your dating life. It can make you doubt yourself and your worth, leading to insecurities and fear of rejection. This can prevent you from putting yourself out there and pursuing potential relationships. It can also cause you to settle for less than you deserve or tolerate unhealthy behaviors from a partner.
Yes, low self-esteem can make you more likely to be attracted to partners who may not be good for you. People with low self-esteem often have a fear of being alone and may feel like they don't deserve someone who treats them well. This can lead them to stay in toxic or unhealthy relationships, as they may believe it's the best they can get.
It's possible that low self-esteem can cause you to sabotage your relationships. This can happen if you constantly doubt yourself and your partner's feelings for you. You may push your partner away or create unnecessary conflicts due to your insecurities. It's important to work on improving your self-esteem to avoid sabotaging a potentially healthy relationship.
The first step to improving your dating life with low self-esteem is to work on building your self-confidence. This can involve challenging negative thoughts about yourself, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care. It's also important to surround yourself with supportive and positive people who can help boost your self-esteem. Seeking therapy or counseling can also be beneficial in improving your self-esteem and overall well-being.
While low self-esteem is a common struggle, it can be a deal breaker for some potential partners. People with high self-esteem tend to have healthy boundaries and won't tolerate being treated poorly. Additionally, constantly seeking validation and reassurance from a partner can be draining and may push them away. It's important to work on improving your self-esteem for your own well-being, but also to have a healthier and more fulfilling dating life.