So basically I'm wondering if any of you guys find small talk annoying. I'm still in high school, where interpersonal relationships are becoming more complex and 'formal'. Personally I find it really contrived, as I'm used to engaging in some activity with others before conversation naturally erupts. So I find it annoying to "socialise" in the conventional sense where you just stand around and start conversations. Is it something I should get used to? Especially since my interests are more to the intellectual side of things - philo, math and science, wacky stuff, you know. I really hate trivial gossip so I feel left out if I enter a conversation where people are discussing the more than uninteresting minutae of the lives of schoolmates or celebrities or the newest spectacle. It renders this sort of talk very bleak i guess. At times I'm also stunned at my massive abillity to have nothing to say at all. The things I think about are usually on a completely different wavelength! At the same time it worries me because deep connections with people are rare and I realise that this sort of avoidance of 'breaking the ice' isn't a very good strategy in the adult world for making aquaintances and (actual) friends. Tl;dr: I like making friends when I'm engaging in something else entirely, not when I'm actively trying to make friends. Should I try harder or is this normal? What should I do?