So I am aware that the strong force is the strongest force with the electromagnetic force being the second strongest force. I am wondering how we go about the process of deciding which force is stronger. I am visualizing a helium nucleus; two protons, two neutrons. The two protons are pushing away from each other with the electric repulsive force, while there is a strong force connection between each of the hadrons. It seems to me that because the protons are neither moving away nor moving towards each other, the electromagnetic force and strong force are in equilibrium. If this is true how can it be claimed the strong force is stronger than the electromagnetic force. I believe I read somewhere that it is 137 times stronger. Would love an explanation about this!