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Studying = bad social life?

  1. May 29, 2004 #1
    I am terribly addicted to studying. So addicted that I am incomplete without it. Anyway, I today I was at a book store and I found the greatest study book ever: AP English and Composition. I got very excited, read 15 pages and wanted the $30 book (it comes with a CD rom too! :smile: ). Though I was unable to get the book (I will eventually :grumpy: ), I immediately began to plan a 6 week study schedule. I planned on using my lunch breaks at school and the 1 hour of free time I have after school to study.
    Then it occured to me that my friends will be disappointed. School is almost over (and I'll go to highschool for the first time) and I'll probably never see my friends here again. My dedication to my studies, I believe is interfering with my social life. So if I study during all the free time I have, I will neglect my friends.
    [sigh] which is more important? should I put off the studying for summer?

    The reason why I want to start in june is because I can finish the 6 week study course by the first week of july, and would have 6 more weeks to study another topic. (This is all in addition to studies in mathematics)

    Eventually I think I will end up with NO social life. :cry: this is predictable isn't it? what to do ??????????? :confused:
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  3. May 29, 2004 #2


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    This is something you should really ask yourself. It's like asking someone else what your favourite food should be. It's hard to choose, you enjoy both, but can't have both. Personally, I would go with friends. Of course, I'm not so addicted to studying. I think, especially going into high school, whether you want it now or not, chances are you'll eventually feel the urge to put your social life as a very high priority. Really, it's not too hard to balance both friends and studies. But you should figure out how you're going to balance the two on your own.
  4. May 29, 2004 #3
    Okay: I will spend lunch with friends, 20-30 min with them after school and the rest for studying. :D
    BTW, Is the SAT 1 AP exam entirely constituted of essay questions?
  5. May 29, 2004 #4


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    Come on, you don't need to study for the AP exams. Those things are a piece of cake. I took a 30 minute break during the AP English exam to take a crap and still aced it. Not a minute of studying. That's what the class is for. If you're into studying and you're into English, just read more books written by englishmen. There are plenty.
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    Don't neglect your friends. You'll regret it.
  7. May 29, 2004 #6
    i always balanced both and its working wonders
    all work no play is not good
    all play no work is not good
    average play and average work is all good
    thats my motto, a little sacrifice, and a little fun

    this is only a guidline, live your life as you see fit, like i live mine like i see fit, good luck
  8. May 29, 2004 #7
    yeah, but you are really smart. And you apparently don't freak on such "pressurized" tests like I do. Man, you should have seen me on the MYP IB math test. It was just algebra and I was really stressed just because it meant a lot to me to pass. :cry: (I passed with flying colors :biggrin: )
    But I am actually improving my test taking skills (the part where I get nervous) by taking practice tests at home with a lot of distraction going on around me.

    no, I'm not into english. Just physics + engineering (and I'll be interested in anything Nikola Tesla was interested in).

    I will totally take your advice (you too hypnagogue).

    Oh, and IB and AP are pretty much the same aren't they? what is the difference? (I'm in IB)
  9. May 30, 2004 #8
    eh.. yeah this is very true
  10. May 30, 2004 #9
    Plus the whole social life thing will most likely have a tricky way of sneaking up on you and taking time whether you want to give it away or not. Boys boys boys!

    The way I see it, you got plenty of time to study. There's no rush. Enjoy your friends for a while.

  11. May 30, 2004 #10
    You're still young. Relax. Save worrying about life-determining decissions for college.

    My first year physics professor, an eminent elementary-particle physicist once said "There are two types of students that fail ; those who party all the time, and those who never party."

    Wise words that I have always tried to live by, although we are cursed with 24 days... :devil:
  12. May 30, 2004 #11
    I think you plan your life too much ahead... sometimes I try to schedule my day when I have impotant things to do (such as studying for my finals) and guess what - it never works out! It sounds like you're trying too hard to schedule everything you are going to do for the next 2 months, and I personally think it's bad because: (a) I can't imagine how stressful that must be! and (b) you are going to be pretty disappointed when you realize your schedule was unrealistic and you only managed to complete half of what you hoped to. This is not necessarily true, but it happens all too often.

    You're young, for some this is the best time of your lives. So try to enjoy it! I'm not saying you need to drop education altogether, especially since you seem to like it a lot. That's good and you can use it to your advantage, but don't burn yourself out. I am about to finish two months of intensive studying (12th grade finals), and even though I did great on most of the exams I feel sort of sick already. And it's not because I don't like studying, on the contrary, but too much studynig is just painful for your brain.

    Well sorry for the long post, I wasn't planning to make it so long and I gotta run or I will miss my bible final! :cry:
  13. May 30, 2004 #12
    First of all, I'm probably the same age as you (going to high school this year). Now, I'm just waiting for probably one of the most important exams in my life I guess. And what I wanted to say - I'm not learning all the time - e.g.: I use this forum, talk with friends, making my own website. Nevertheless, learning takes me about 40-50 % of day.

    My advice: try to think about yout friends too.
  14. May 30, 2004 #13
    I'll concur with everyone else. You have to make time for both so you can develop both strong social and academic skills. Having a perfect mark in all your English courses can be much more easily applied in life if you have the social practice to implement your abilities.
  15. May 30, 2004 #14
    Wait..you're not even in high school and you're doing this? I thought i was bad as a child. I mean what is with the schedules? Relax a little. if you want to study the stuff, then do it, but planning six week study schedules is a little bit obsessive. I'm just graduating from high school and i finished a book on tensor calculus. It took me two months becuase i only did it when i wasn't doing anything else, but i got through the whole book (and its supposed to take a whole semester in the first place). RELAX. You'll miss your sanity if you don't.

    Seriously the scheduling seems to be a bit much. I have no clue what i'm doing tomorrow, much less six weeks from now. I'll worry about it when i need to, not right now having just rolled out of bed and not had any coffee. RELAX.
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    Wait a second here. You mean to tell me you're studying for the test even though you aren't taking it? I guess I can't entirely fauly you there. I probably read just as much before I got into high school (more in elementary school really). I'd check out 6 or 7 books from the public library each week (all non-fiction) and all I'd ever do is read. I didn't even have any friends until I was about 16 or so. I eventually grew out of it, but it honestly caused some problems in that when I got to high school, there was nothing for me to learn. I knew more about some of the topics than the teachers did. It made for a very boring and discouraging experience.
  17. May 30, 2004 #16
    After reading this kind of text I always want to study more and more. I don't know why, but it may be called an ambition...
  18. May 30, 2004 #17
    Wow you study that much and your just starting highschool? That's impressive. Sometimes it's good to have a dedicated study plan ( I know I wish I did last year ;) ) but you have to have some non-studying fun sometimes. It's all about balance... Maybe you should start out slow, like take a 30 min break from studying to just do something else, hanging out with friends, playing a game, whatever. And then just build from there until you find a good balance.
  19. May 30, 2004 #18
    Ok little bro, people like you bother me, but in your case I’ll make an exception and try to help you out.

    You don’t need to do excessive studying, it is just not worth it. For one you will start to feel left out and you will realize you didn’t accomplish as much as you thought you would. Books won’t teach you everything, they will teach you a lot, but not everything. In my opinion you should leave the staying in at lunch for high school =-)…. besides you are almost done with the year.

    Now, IB and AP are both great programs. You will hear from a lot people that have taken both that IB is more rigorous but AP is far more recognized in the USA. This is also the reason why most that take IB try to take both the AP and the IB tests if they have the opportunity.

    IB will be tough but you should be good as long as you don’t make yourself sick with it.
  20. Jun 1, 2004 #19

    IB is only tough if you don't know how to cram out 1000 word essays in a single ngiht. If you can do that, and you don't take material beyond your ability (read:unnecessary Higher Level courses that you're not good at anyway) then it is not difficult, especially if you've already amde it through MYP (i'm of course referring to the diploma programme).
  21. Jun 1, 2004 #20


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    Hehehe... You would probably enjoy the book, "Becoming a Master Student" by David Ellis. I read it when I was thinking about going back to school. I didn't go back to school, but it was a fun read anyway.

    I agree with the others- give yourself a break. If you keep this up, you'll have a heart attack when the SATs &co. roll around.

    Of course, if you're studying because you love it (and not just because you feel pressured by others) then study 'til your heart's content! :)

    BTW if you're going to read fiction, make it Shakespeare. I have learned so much from him, I can't imagine the person I'd be without him. Seriously. Read Shakespeare and add wisdom to your knowledge.

    Happy thoughts
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