I meet a man at a party. He is drop-dead gorgeous and I have a very pleasant time chatting with him. I am head-over-heels in love with the guy. He asks me out on a date, and, of course, I go. After a few more dates, however, I discover he is really very self-absorbed and shallow. I decide that I must have loved him only superficially. Trying my luck again, I meet a guy on the internet. He is wonderfully smart and funny, and after talking with him for some time we seem to be in agreement on many of our common values and interests. He seems to be the perfect person for me. I am, again, head-over-heels in love. However, when I finally meet him, I find him to be physically repulsive. I decide that I must have loved him only superficially. Am I correct in both cases?