The single persons thread

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So you've already made up your mind, and "a voice of reason" is anyone who agrees with you?

Of course I've made up my mind. Single sucks.
I don't think agreeing with me makes someone "a voice of reason" but sure doesn't hurt.
 
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Being single isn't too bad at times, but I know it can be very lonely.... I think it might just be better to have a boyfriend that you can always count on :biggrin:
 
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Being single isn't too bad at times, but I know it can be very lonely.... I think it might just be better to have a boyfriend that you can always count on :biggrin:
As a freshman at college, I had a safe harbor, and so did she. She was a statuesque, Nordic blonde, and too pretty for words. I was short (not so much later) and we leaned on each other. We were each others's go-to's.
 
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Wow! I've started to post a number of other comments, but I just keep coming back to WOW! We've been married for over twenty years, and though I will be the first to admit that it can be very difficult at times, at least it has been for us, I'd even say more than not, but you are all more negative about marriage that I've been at our worst moments.

There is a lot to be said about sharing your life with someone. Tsu and I share experiences that wouldn't mean much if we didn't have each other. It is hard to imagine all of those years spent without sharing those experiences.

I don't know that I see people being negative about marriage in this thread, Ivan, so much as I see people being positive about being single. There's a difference. When one doesn't have a warm, loving, mutually beneficial situation with another human being, then operating on one's own devices isn't so bad. We can make a good situation of it and cherish it. I've been in long-term relationships where someone was supposed to be my go to person who shared my life and we made each other's quality of life richer. And guess what? They weren't good situations.

So yes, I'm better right now and perfectly able and capable of being alone and being pleased and comfortable with myself and life. That doesn't mean I'm disparaging marriage or married or partnered situations, and I'm not saying those situations don't have their benefits. But the question was, "how do single folks do it?" and my answer to that is "pretty darn good, actually". :smile:
 
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Fair enough, but it seemed to me that the positives about being single were being weighed unfairly against the disadvantages. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be single. And not everyone will find a good companion. But I certainly wouldn't avoid marriage out of principle. I mean, if Miss or Mr right comes along, don't run and hide.

Btw, I do far more cooking than Tsu, I do my own laundry, and I [almost] always put down the toilet seat. :biggrin:
 
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My roomie doesn't know how to cook so when we are both home I usually wind up doing the cooking for both of us. He leaves messes all over the place including leaving his dirty clothes strewn about the living room and I often have to clean up after him so I can be comfortable in my own home. His idea of doing dishes is leaving them in the sink until he decides to use them again and then putting them back in the sink dirty again when he is done. I also do most of the shopping since he never buys anything that requires more than opening a can and heating for a few minutes in a pot. I complain and he gets annoyed that I am nagging him.
So I am single and have to do all the things everyone complains about except that I don't get any sex out of the deal.
 
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Well, I was married and had a serious bout of flu New Year's eve and my husband went to a party and left me all alone and the power went out.

No wonder you aren't married any longer.
 
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Wow! I've started to post a number of other comments, but I just keep coming back to WOW! We've been married for over twenty years, and though I will be the first to admit that it can be very difficult at times, at least it has been for us, I'd even say more than not, but you are all more negative about marriage that I've been at our worst moments.

I think it was me who started everything writing about how good it is to be single. I am (for most of the time) happily married for almost 24 years. It is just that neither being single nor married is the only correct and perfect way of living.

If you want to have a regular sex, you have to pay with part of your freedom :smile:
 
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If you want to have a regular sex, you have to pay with part of your freedom :smile:

Or your money...
 
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I seem to manage okay, i manage to do every thing my self, well except for the laundry i do not have a washing machine, and the time i wanted a holiday and had a cleaner in for a spring clean, she even cleaned my oven :bugeye: AND moved the furniture to vacuum, she even introduced me to cleaning products i never seen before like plastic wire wool, amazing stuff for cleaning plastic type things without scratching them, and she gave me a soft bush like thing
for cobweb ing and dusting fantastic bit of kit.
 
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One can have a relationship without being married.
 
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"Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl "Will you marry me?" The girl said: "NO!"

And the girl lived happily ever after and went shopping, dancing, drank martinis, ate chocolate, always had a clean house, never had to cook, did whatever the hell she wanted, never argued, didn't have to worry about her weight, traveled more, had many lovers, didn't save money, and had all the hot water to herself. She went to the theatre, never watched sports, never wore friggin' lacy lingerie that went up her ***, had high self esteem, never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat pants and was pleasant all the time."

The End. :approve:
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Fair enough, but it seemed to me that the positives about being single were being weighed unfairly against the disadvantages. There is nothing wrong with choosing to be single. And not everyone will find a good companion. But I certainly wouldn't avoid marriage out of principle. I mean, if Miss or Mr right comes along, don't run and hide.

Btw, I do far more cooking than Tsu, I do my own laundry, and I [almost] always put down the toilet seat. :biggrin:

Personally, I'm hoping the positives are fairly accurate.
 
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IIf you want to have a regular sex, you have to pay with part of your freedom :smile:

I still pay with cash. :uhh:
 

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