I've been happily married to my soulmate for nearly 4 decades, so I don't feel like I fit in here. But I do make this one observation after browsing thru these threads. Many seem very trivial to me, but are clearly very serious to the authors. Perhaps the reason for our happiness all these years is that we let the trivial stuff slide. We love each other and we enjoy being together, and we count all else as trivial. She once put me in debt by an amount about equal to a year of my salary doing something I thought was foolish. She thought I would be very angry. I gave her a hug and a kiss and told her that we will get out of this together, and then I took her out to her favorite place for dinner. After that, she managed our budget effectively. I did not take her checkbook and credit cards from her and I let her continue to have full power of attorney over all my affairs. Within a year, everything was paid off and our investment portfolio was nearly a million dollars. But even if we lost everything I would have handled it the same. How many relationships fail over money, and even over things less important than money? Don't sweat the small stuff.