Sigh guys lol. Me and my girlfriend have been in a tough spot... we've been through a lot in the last 2 years we were together(caused by both of us) but this situation I just do not know how to handle and I'm not exactly sure what to do... I have mixed feelings about it. So about 2 months ago I saw some guy texting my girlfriend about something that I felt was inappropriate... so I got made. She defended his text and started texting him more around me, pissed me off. Anyways about a week later she tells me she needs to go on a break. We had decided not to do anything with any other people until we decided between ourselves what was going on. Gravy. So she then starts telling me about how she wants to get back together with me and she wants to be with me and misses me and etc etc. So I say ok and we started talking and then she changed her mind suddenly, she didn't want to move too 'fast' and she didn't want things 'official'. I didn't really understand the problem, I mean like it's not as if she's some new girl... I dated her for 2 years... I started getting weird messages about her and that guy I got mad about texting her that stuff, about how her and him had a 'thing' going on. She denied it all, said they just talked about school and that was as far as anything gone between them. The people who were telling me this stuff were from her church, this guy is also from her church. So I decided to trust her on this since that was a big issue before we broke up, trusting each other. So I went on a limb and I trusted her with that and we continued talking. I found out tonight however that for the first month or so she was constantly chilling with this other guy and she was buying him clothes and stuff... I thought that was something that's kind of gay for her to lie to me about. After I talked to her about it she says 'she had a crush on him and was just getting to know him' but it turned out she was using her just so he could get some free stuff. What seems to have happened here is that she was interested in this guy so left me to go and try and get with him but that failed, so now she's come back to me and she had been talking about how she wants to be my girlfriend now etc. etc. I feel as if now she has only come back to me because things didn't work out between her and this other guy... that is to say if he didn't do those things to her then she would have probably gone off with him instead. She says she didn't do anything with him and was just trying to get to know him and he's an ******* and she found out that... but it makes no difference what she found out it was her intentions What do you guys think I should do... I mean I really love this girl and my heart is telling me that I should forgive her and just show her how much better for her I can be... but on the other hand my brain is saying 'don't be stupid, she's only wanting to be with you because things didn't work out with him.' And I don't know if that's a bad thing or what to make of it at all... like if she DID hook up with him I'd probably try a bit to try and win her back but like the situation feels different now. It's just difficult because I genuinely love her, lol. I've talked with and been with my fair share of girls and I always thought that love was something that you just gain for a person and it can go away once you find that 'next person' but it's different with her... I've never been through this situation before. And I'd rather only serious comments/answers no poking fun at me or the situation and no referencing to stupid generic youtube videos. This is quite serious to me and I'm pretty lost.