I know this girl here (well, she's 24) who is coasting along aimlessly without a job. She is in a unique position: she is staying with a friend who doesn't require her to pay rent unless she's able. That's indefinite: there's no time limit in which she has to find a job. She found a full time job a few months ago, which was kind of amazing given the economy here. It was 40 hours a week, plus they required everyone to work about 5 hours on Saturday. But, I was surprised to hear her complaining about the hours, the pay, and the time required to get to and from work. In other words: she had no gratitude about her luck in even finding and having a job. I sensed danger when she started making entitled-sounding statements like: "Minimum wage jobs are so soul-destroying!" Sure enough, she just up and quit the job after a couple months. She claims to be looking for another, but it's been a month and a half. You may wonder what she's doing for spending money. I do too. Best guess: about a year ago someone smashed into her parked car, totaling it, and their insurance recompensed her some thousands of dollars. I think she's frugally stretching that out. She didn't buy another car, anyway. She wants to be an artist, and she and I get together in cafe's to draw now and then. She claims to get so much more done when she's drawing with me. Otherwise, she says, she doesn't get much artwork done. So, I'm thinking: "If you're not doing artwork everyday, how the hell do you expect to get good enough to make a living at it?" But I don't say it because I sense an unspoken plea not to disturb her delusion. So, she's currently neither supporting herself, nor using all her free time to dig into her dream. She strikes me as the type of girl who just doesn't have the inner push to take control of her life. The sort that really needs to marry a wealthy man who will support her while she dabbles in art. However, there's a big problem in the way of that: she's a lesbian. I gave her a lecture after I found out she had quit the job she managed to get. All she took away from it was that she had to figure out future ways to understate the importance of her being out of work.