For little more than a year now, I have been patiently pursuing a woman; and while I cannot say that I'm utterly heartbroken now, I am admittedly feeling rather perplexed over the recent outcome (if not the least bit disgusted). :grumpy: Basically: we knew each other from work (circa 2008). Just acquaintances. Then a few years ago, she moved away to Illinois. I kept in touch. Never missed a Christmas nor her birthday, in fact. Then, for about a year, she disappeared altogether. She'd left her job and moved again. Last February though, we started communicating again via email; and it seemed to me anyway, that maybe there was some potential for us. I never really got my hopes up, of course; but it went on like this for the past few months. We talked a lot, and I honestly felt good about exploring the possibilities. Anyway, during the course of conversation, she eventually confided her disappointment over this other fellow with whom she had recently dated. One day, he literally says to her: "I have to pray to see your beauty." :uhh: Meaning he wasn't actually attracted to her, I suppose (though I'm not sure why he would have instigated a date in the first place...my theory at least: he's just an @$$hole). Well, she dropped him (and rightfully so after that stupid comment) but was, I could sense, still smarting even as the weeks went on. Slowly, I proceeded nonetheless; and she seemed to appreciate the attention. I was grateful myself. But eventually though, so-in-so must have come to his senses (or maybe he couldn't take the rejection). And can you guess what happens next? I got dropped like a pile of bricks. <--Kind of a sick smile there, in case you were wondering. Here I am complimenting this woman every chance I get, and trying to cheer her up--I was freak'in pursuing her from half a continent away, if that is any indication of my sincerity--and then she goes back to the very same jerk who insults her. Am I stupid or something? I certainly feeling like a yo-yo. Again, I'm not really heartbroken. I did like her, but never got the chance. I'm sort of in shock still, more than anything else. And though I don't know for a fact: I honestly believe this other guy is going to ask my friend to marry him soon--he went over to her family's house with her for Christmas!!! And then I think they might have even went to Washington together (maybe to meet his family?). Maybe I'm not supposed to understand it. Anyway, I don't despise love now, or anything; it's just so unexpected. I did guess he would bother her again; but I didn't think she'd bother with him--like she wanted someone that treated her so disrespectfully. That's not the way I was. I admit: I think a lot less of her now as a person. Still, I'm also trying not to allow any fleeting notion of "sour grapes" to corrupt me either. *Long sigh* PEACE and GOOD LUCK to you all out there.