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Universities, boyfriends and lies

  1. May 2, 2004 #1
    Are there anyone here who studies at the University of Wisconsin, Madison?
    Does anyone KNOW any students there?

    I need to find an answer to the following question and, please help, the questions concerns whether I will break up with my boyfriend or not because I think he is lying to me:

    Has there EVER been a university that has sent "invitations" to their former students where they ask if they would like to finish their education, even if those students ended their education around 15 years ago?

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP! I need to find out whether my boyfriend is lying or not. I have a bad feeling about this relationship and I NEED TO KNOW if this is possible. I cannot stand being so worried and discomfortable about this anymore - I am sick of it. Please help! I hoped this would be a good place to ask as I know there are many Americans here and American students.
     
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  3. May 2, 2004 #2

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    Call the university registrar and ask them.

    - Warren
     
  4. May 2, 2004 #3
    I agree with chroot, Thallium. Ask around and see what you find out. Also, I suggest tricking him into vowing truth or something like that, then ask him. If he is lying to you, then he should get a bit nervous if you start hinting that you suspect him. If he doen't get nervous or twitchy or both, then he's either a really good liar or he's telling the truth, and you shouldn't be so paranoid about him.
     
  5. May 4, 2004 #4
    I can't help being so paranoid. But no, he has never become nervous when I ask him questions of suspicion.
     
  6. May 4, 2004 #5

    chroot

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    Your paranoia is going to ruin every relationship you'll ever have. Find a way to get past it. Go see a therapist if you can't.

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  7. May 5, 2004 #6
    Has he gave you any reason in the past for you to doubt him? Has he ever done anything wrong?

    As suggested, call the registrar and find things out for yourself. The truth shall set you free.
     
  8. May 5, 2004 #7

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    Ah the cliche.....

    Unless he has done something wrong in the past I doubt there should be any problems. Has be been talking on the phone a lot or anything? I mean, more than usual? Does he act differently, those are just a coupla hints that you know something is up. But do what the other guys said.

    I used to worry when my (then) gf went out and I wasnt there, I could trust her but not all the guys in the club. We did have a few arguements till I just said "Fine, I wont give a crap then"...lol
     
  9. May 5, 2004 #8
    Yes, he appears to be very aggressive. Fights, jail sentences, custody, fines,
    ex-member of the Ku Klux Klan, and before he "received" that letter, I joked about not wanting to be with him if he was not well-educated and had completed his degree in engineering. Perhaps he took this seriously. I am happy with him as he is, and he seemed to understand that, but... I am still anxious. There are also other reasons for me being unsure: He and I share different opinion on Jews. He believes they are the Children of Satan(this is getting very personal), I DON'T. No people are the childran of Satan. We do not share the same views. He does not complain to me about my views, but he does not know this particular opinion of mine.

    Well, I get so upset when teling about this. Please, no comments on my views relating to God and Jews, no criticism: I am asking for advice, not derision.

    All of these bad signals are part of my displeasefulness with our relationship. Should I break up with him? I am closing in on that thought. I deserve something better than such a hostile and hateful man. I cannot stand it, but at the same time I love him. But I am not convinced that I have ever been in love with him.

    Suddenly this turned into an enormously personal matter, but I have to air my grievance! Forgive me if I insult anyone!
     
  10. May 5, 2004 #9

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    I don't even know if you're joking lol
     
  11. May 5, 2004 #10

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    Ummm if he is like that, why would you wanna be with him?? There are plenty of NICE guys out there... I dont want to offend but it just seems like the people who dont deserve it get all the the luck and the nice girls.
     
  12. May 5, 2004 #11

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    That's why nice guys make great scientists; women are not interested in them :wink:
     
  13. May 5, 2004 #12

    jimmy p

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    uh oh....what about "nice guys are nobodies..."? I am not going to Uni but I'm a nice guy... Scout's honour!!!
     
  14. May 5, 2004 #13

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    Uh yeah, Thallium, if you have such tremendous differences in your value systems, you will not work in a long-term relationship -- period. No matter how much fun you have here and there on casual dates.

    I turn down women all the time over much less significant differences in world-view.

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  15. May 5, 2004 #14

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    You're not like Seinfeld are you? Manhands, the virgin, mulva, the girl who might have fake boobs, the girl who laughs like elmer fud sitting on a juicer......
     
  16. May 5, 2004 #15

    chroot

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    Not quite that bad, but I've turned down women for being too religious, too superstitious, even liking really bad music...

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  17. May 5, 2004 #16

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    Oh, and virgins over the age of 21.. definitely, they turn me off.

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  18. May 5, 2004 #17

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    Well that's not really fair since people in the US aren't even allowed to drink before 21.
    Elaine: So what your saying is that 95% of our population is undatable?
    Jerry: UNDATABLE!
    Elaine: then how are all of these people getting together?
    Jerry: Alcohol
     
  19. May 5, 2004 #18

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    It's probably more like 99.99%, in my opinion.

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  20. May 5, 2004 #19

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    I don't know if it's that high. Maybe you fall within that bracket because you're the one who keeps dumping people :biggrin:.

    Since the divorce rate is around 50%, at least 50% of people are undatable. Then factor in that a lot of single people are undatable..... hmmm maybe 80%?
     
  21. May 5, 2004 #20
    Should you break up with him? that's got to be the understatement of the year. Ultimately, it's your decision but with all the red flags you mentioned I won't be surprise if you break up with him.
     
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