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What falling in love feels like to you

  1. Aug 26, 2007 #1
    Being drawn to a stranger's voice across the room. No doubting that "this is love." Eyes longing for each other, a sharing of moist breath and iris' pulse. A real, Native magic.

    A rare touch eliciting truth in unconditional positive regard. Desiring to follow her naturally seductive lead. Heaven on earth. Lasting memories after years of pent-up passion.
     
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  3. Aug 26, 2007 #2

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    It used to just mean 'pain'. Then W came along. I wanted nothing to do with her, and tried to avoid her at all costs, but she stalked me into submission. After the first 6 months or so of living together, I got comfortable. Now, after 2 years, I'm firmly in love with her. It doesn't feel like any of the previous hormone-dictated situations. She's somene that I can just be me with... fart in bed, scratch my ass when it itches, keep drinking when she says that I've had enough... typical wife stuff.
    Speaking of which, I'd best log out now and go down to bed before I get treated to the 'rolling pin persuasion'. :eek:
     
  4. Aug 27, 2007 #3
    captivity:yuck:
     
  5. Aug 27, 2007 #4
    I have something rather humorous to share. :smile:

    I don't know, somehow I like what the guy is saying.
     
  6. Aug 27, 2007 #5

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    Wow, love definitely sucked for the Neil Gaiman fellow.
     
  7. Aug 27, 2007 #6

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    I love it.
     
  8. Aug 28, 2007 #7
    Ah ah ! I hate love. Great sentence...
     
  9. Aug 28, 2007 #8
    Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.

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  10. Aug 28, 2007 #9

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    http://img210.imageshack.us/img210/1364/tracyhepburnlh7.jpg [Broken]
     
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  11. Aug 28, 2007 #10
    When I was a younger man, I fell in love on a regular basis. It seemed a pleasant experience at the time. But I have been standing in love for the past 19 years and I look back on that era as a huge waste.
     
  12. Aug 28, 2007 #11
    When I was a younger man, falling in love was some of the most cherished feelings I can remember.

    You know, finally getting to go on a date with that special someone you've had your eye on for some time. Then making out and..... that night...

    Then.........

    OMG the preoccupation with the night before, all day at work, the next day!!!!!

    I would give my right arm to relive some of those moments, even though I was usually the one to get hurt 90% of the time.

    Jim
     
  13. Aug 28, 2007 #12

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    I think there's two kind of love and the more you lean towards one or the other, it becomes less like love and more like something else:

    the first kind is the instinctual love, the infatuation, the hormones, which is steps away from lust.

    the second is the intellectual love, the kind of faith and trust you build up with something. Perhaps a platonic relationship.

    As I get older, the frequency and intensity of instinctual love has greatly decreased and long-lasting platonic relationships have showed to be more stable and not intense at all. Grass is always greener, I guess. Less drama = less fun.
     
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  15. Aug 28, 2007 #14
    ahhh--Those pleasurable endorphins!



    (with such a GREAT photo that Astronuc found, I thought that re-posting the link to that song would be appropriate here--for the visual and auditory effect)

    http://bedazzled.blogs.com/bedazzled/files/02_the_look_of_love_vocal_dusty_springfield_1.mp3 [Broken]
     
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  16. Aug 28, 2007 #15

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    I'm through with love. I'm just looking for someone that can tolerate me.

    Also, my older daughter "spawn" who's birthday is also today, reminded me she gave me the fruitbat and that's all the love I need in life. :frown:

    I reminded her that he's a little dog and might only have another 8 years to live. She assured me I'd die first, so won't have to worry about it. She always knows how to cheer me up. :uhh:
     
  17. Aug 28, 2007 #16
    WHAT?????




    (he's a lucky dog to have you!--

    ---and little dogs live longer--fruitbat?--what is it?-a terrier?)

    (evo-you may want to clear some messages again--download them if you want to save them)

    (listen to that song I linked on that other post a few more times)
     
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  18. Aug 28, 2007 #17

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    No! You're too young to give up! And you should expect more than toleration from a relationship.

    You need to sit down and have a long talk with her.
     
  19. Aug 28, 2007 #18

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    sort of like proving a theorem, you're happy all over and wonder if it can really be true.
     
  20. Aug 29, 2007 #19

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    The Fruitbat is a Japanese Chin. And he doesn't love me, he tolerates me as long as I feed him and scratch his rear end. That sounds like a husband, doesn't it? :rofl: He has a quite an attitude for such a tiny thing.

    I cleared my pm box out.
     
  21. Aug 29, 2007 #20
    hmm--I don't know---I kind of like it behind my ears

    They look like Pek's---what are some of the differences? and when does it look like a fruitbat?



    (I had better PM you in the next few minutes before your pm box gets filled again (what is that, mentors get 150?)
     
  22. Aug 29, 2007 #21

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    I'm not sure what the differences are, my daughter would know. They're supposed to be perfect companion dogs. I call him the fruitbat because he will pass over a piece of meat for fresh fruit.
     
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  23. Aug 29, 2007 #22

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    If you'd moved up here before I met W, I would have tolerated you to such an extent that you would have taken out a restraining order. :tongue2:
     
  24. Aug 30, 2007 #23

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    Being in love means to maintain an abiding affection for the other.

    Loving someone means, among other things, wanting the best for that someone, whether the relationship is a friendship or more intimate relationship such as a marriage or other committed relationship.

    A husband and wife should have a mutually supportive relationship, being each other's best friend even, and such a relationship should be one of mutual affection, based on mutual trust, respect, admiration, and other positive attributes.

    Mutual tolerance does not make for a good or satisfactory relationship, and would seem contrary to the purpose of being involved within an intimate relationship. Being involved in a relationship in which one loves another only to be tolerated by the other would seem harmful in the long term. On the other hand, I have seen elderly married couples essentially living separate lives, e.g. sleeping in separate bedrooms, but then they have a history of 30+ or 40+ years.
     
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  25. Aug 30, 2007 #24
    Love is salty.
     
  26. Aug 30, 2007 #25
    Hi
    For me I think that love is some kind of selfishness.
    when you love someone you want to have it for your self, to keep it for you , to stay all the time close to him. I don't mean that it is wrong, selfishness is a part of our personality, an instinct in us. those instinct inside us is what makes us survive. So what I mean that love is not wrong. Because every time someone hears what I say think that I think that love is wrong.

    When you love something(you pda, football team, car etc...) you want to by it and have it for you.

    Like when you love someone you wan't to keep it for you, I don't know how to say it correctly in english, you will be jalouse from every one that your lover loves.

    I think when you love (not necesseray a person ), you have to be carefull and think again and again ...

    It is not some thing usefull or positive to love, it is one of your instincts in you ...
     
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