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What's Love?

  1. Apr 15, 2003 #1
    I have often said "I love you", to children, people I desire, my parents, even aunts and uncles and one or two friends. But what is love? Does it mean I like you a lot and/or I want you a lot? Will someone tell me what love is; I don't mind the explanation being evolutionary and scientific.
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  3. Apr 15, 2003 #2
    A biblical description of love is in 1 Corinthians 13.
  4. Apr 15, 2003 #3
    I've read articles that breakdown love into chemicals and even what chemicals are responsible for the differemt stages of love. However, don't tell your bf/gf that the reason you love them is because of some chemicals in your body. :wink:
  5. Apr 15, 2003 #4


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    maybe it's the other way around, love induces those chemicals....
  6. Apr 15, 2003 #5


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    This is going to sound terribly unromantic, so let me preface it by saying that I am a terribly romantic guy (or is it a romantically terrible guy?). I understand about the chemicals, the dopamine and the serotonin, and the endorphins and all that. I understand the emotional excitement or sentimentality most commonly associated with a "love" relationship. And, I am heavily in favor of all that stuff. But I feel that I must state, most emphatically, that is not love.

    Love is a choice. It carries with it a certain connotation of priority. For example, a thing that is loved will be given preferential treatment over an unloved thing. If you love a person, you will give that person's wants and needs a higher priority than your own.

    This, I believe, marks the difference between the romance which modern Western culture often refers to as "love", and true love of the sort referred to in the wedding vows. In today's society, one will often hear the claim "I love him, I can't help it!", or "there's nothing I can do; I have simply stopped loving her." In my opinion, these are examples of misusing the word "love" in reference to a feeling (over which we have no control). This cannot be the sort of love found in the wedding vows, in which billions of couples throughout millennia have promised to love, honor, etc. If love were a set of biochemical impulses, or transient emotional states, over which we have no control, we obviously could not promise it.
  7. Apr 15, 2003 #6
    yea but i think it would still be cool to say, "OH baby the first time i detected your feramones i have had the unstopable natural urge to reproduce our race"
  8. Apr 15, 2003 #7
    The Grimmus, I tried that line. I got slapped.
  9. Apr 15, 2003 #8
    Baby don't hurt me.
    Don't hurt me.
    No more.

  10. Apr 16, 2003 #9
    im still trying to figure out what love *is*.
    i know obsession. i know passion. so, what is the relationship between obsession, passion and "Love"?

    so, the "best" i have been able to honestly say is:

    "i love you for lack of a better word."

    and yeah, i've suffered certain consequences for saying that.
  11. Apr 16, 2003 #10
    ..got to do, got to do with it?

    It's an ill-defined term, people use it to mean so many different thinks. Romantic love... hmmm... it's sort of a primitive. Like pornography, you can't define it but you just know it when you see it. :smile:
  12. Apr 16, 2003 #11
    Love is...two naked eight year olds who are married. After making such a statement, I truly hope everyone recognises the reference.
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  14. Apr 16, 2003 #13
    Perhaps Love has a lot to do with instinct.

    Our instincts protect us from harm and alert us to circumstances that we haven't perceived.

    Perhaps our instincts alert us to a compatability to another person and tries to bribe our conscious self into bonding with that match by releasing those chemicals?
  15. Apr 16, 2003 #14
    no wait love is that thing you do to the funny dressed lady on the corner afetr seh steals your walet and asks you funny questions
  16. Apr 16, 2003 #15
    Love is an attachment to something that makes one feel pleased. I'm pretty sure it is due to a mixture of horomonal reactions in the brain. Nothing else. It is an advanced state of attachment. For example, take a married couple. They have unconditional, eternal affection for one another. Animals, which are inferior to humans do not posess such a sensation. Only two species do, humans and (something, I can't remember what it was called). Overall, love is a strong sense of attachment.
  17. Apr 17, 2003 #16
    "I do understand what love is, and that is one of the reasons I can never again be a Christian. Love is not self denial. Love is not blood and suffering. Love is not murdering your son to appease your own vanity. Love is not hatred or wrath, consigning billions of people to eternal torture because they have offended your ego or disobeyed your rules. Love is not obedience, conformity, or submission. It is a counterfeit love that is contingent upon authority, punishment, or reward. True love is respect and admiration, compassion and kindness, freely given by a healthy, unafraid human being."
    -Dan Barker
  18. Apr 17, 2003 #17
    Hear hear
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    Amen to that!
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  21. Apr 17, 2003 #20
    I have to agree. I can see with that definition that it can be used universally with family, friends and others. I don't really think that it always has to be romantic and between man and woman.
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