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also - frankly at certain points in my life all i have wanted is fun and drama and these guys provide.. think of them like fast food, you know you shouldn't but every once in a while is OK
DnD Addict said:I'm thinking it's more about confidence then where one lies on some good/bad axis. I ride (Motorcycle) sporadically with the Bandidos and do not usually acquire the attention of very many girls, but if I ride into some random bar and sit in a corner and then take out the chess board or some textbooks a number of girls will approach me (Beware; For some reason this attracts every Cougar in a 10 mile radius). Blending of the common Archetypes has worked well for me.
I usually pick up girls in libraries, coffee shops, grocery stores, bookstores. Just go up and introduce yourself. If your rejected there really isn't a downside, so it's a free bet with a possible positive pay off. Wager as often as you like.
raw said:Men like bitchy women for the same reason women love bad boys. It's the conquest, the game that's appealing. From my experience, I don't think all women like bad boys. I think it's just the confidence of bad boys that's appealing.
Physics-Learner said:touche. it is one of my pet peeves about women. they constantly talk about men not being nice, etc. then they don't appreciate a nice guy, when they get him.
cuz nice guys are no challenge. if a nice guy doesn't like a girl, there aint much she can do to change that. if a nice guy likes a girl, he doesn't play games. he let's her know that he likes her, and treats her well right from the get-go.
so it really depends on how mature the female is. if she needs to play games to increase her self-esteem, she will go for the bad boy.
the problem with this behavior from females, early on, is that it removes many of the nice guys from the dating pool, because they get fed up quite easily. that leaves the dating pool full of bad boys, and a ton of crappy relationships.
and so goes the life of the opposite sexes - mostly a bunch of crap.
qspeechc said:I understand why women like tall, muscular, wealthy men, but why do (most) women like bad boys? Countless times we hear women saying they know a certain type of man is bad for them but they keep falling for them, why is this? "Nice guys finish last" is a cliche because it's largely true.
There was a study, which I cannot find, which showed that women will date the bad boy then marry the quiet, nice nerd, but then still go out and have an affair with some tall muscular man.
I'm not feeling sorry for myself because I'm not a bad boy, btw, I'm ok with who I am.
ee1978 said:To answer your question, the "bad boy" persona is merely a common by-product of the personality traits (personality traits, as outlined above, being what the average woman cares about most) that the average woman looks for.