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Do you think women earning more than their husbands/partners puts strain in a relationship? How does one handle it?
Sunayana
Sunayana
TheStatutoryApe said:My last girlfriend grew up in a rather conservative family. She told me that she could not handle being with a man that made less money than she did. The only exception being if her partner took a particularly respectable job such as police or military or was following his dreams which lead him to take a lower paying job.
Ofcourse she also needed, due to her situation, a partner who would be capable of taking care of her financially if need be.
One earns what one can. If my wife made more money, I'd have no problem whatsoever - we work together in mutual support. My only concern with respect to her work/job is that my wife is doing something meaningful and fulfilling, and I support her in such an endeavor.physics4ever said:Do you think women earning more than their husbands/partners puts strain in a relationship? How does one handle it?
Sunayana
Astronuc said:What do you mean "How does one handle it?"
That sounds very foolish of her. If her boyfriend couldn't accept that she would earn more and be doing a job she would enjoy, then she should find a new boyfriend instead of a new job. But that's my American perspective; there may be different cultural pressures in India (though it seems foolish on the part of the men as well...cutting off their nose to spite their face by demanding women take lesser pay than them, so that means they are turning down a higher overall family income). I just think if some guy's foolish pride about wanting to earn more than his wife could overshadow everything else about their relationship, then they can't have much of a relationship anyway, and she'd be better off finding someone else who cares about her and not what she earns.physics4ever said:I originally asked this question because a friend of mine turned down a job offer because she would earn more than her boyfriend does and this would upset him. She took up another job which she is not interested in. I guess this does not happen much outside India.
Here, it is very rare to find women earning more than their partners, or women who have better qualifications.
Of course, being a girl who is very determined to have a great career, I find it all very unfair.
Sunayana.
I have seen such cases in the US and elsewhere. It is sad to see people do this.physics4ever said:I originally asked this question because a friend of mine turned down a job offer because she would earn more than her boyfriend does and this would upset him. She took up another job which she is not interested in. I guess this does not happen much outside India.
Here, it is very rare to find women earning more than their partners, or women who have better qualifications.
Of course, being a girl who is very determined to have a great career, I find it all very unfair.
Sunayana.
Perhaps, it is our American/Western Culture, but similar cultural/societal pressures exist in the US.Moonbear said:That sounds very foolish of her. If her boyfriend couldn't accept that she would earn more and be doing a job she would enjoy, then she should find a new boyfriend instead of a new job.
Kerrie said:Currently, I earn twice as much as my husband, and it doesn't put a strain on us whatsoever. He does a lot of the cooking and laundry too. We are due to have our first child this September, and we have already agreed that he will be home during the day with our baby and work evenings part time. I think society places huge burdens on men and women on what roles they should fill when it comes to families.
With my ex it was really only partly due to her upbringing and the way her parents would view her partner, she has a very close relationship with her family and always wants to be sure that she does not disappoint them.Zantra said:This just goes to show that the belief that the man has to make more than the woman isn't just a one way street. I think it's just an old tradition that is rapidly changing. This belief may have made sense a long time ago when men were the hunters and gathers and women were the cookers cleaners and looked after the children, but it has no place in today's society. Of course I was raised very liberally, so what makes sense to me may seem ludicrous to someone with a more traditional background. However it does speak volumes about a woman who's ideal mate hinges on monetary value...
My wife and I did the breastpump arrangement with my daughter and son. That way my wife could take off for a long period (hrs or a whole day) and I fed the baby breast milk.Townsend said:Just my opinion but I believe that a baby should be breast feed for at least the first year. As such my wife would have to stay home with the baby for the first year unless we could work it out some other way. Perhaps a breast pump and a small refrigerator full of milk would work.
I know several couples that have done that arrangement, and it always seems the fathers really enjoy the opportunity to feed and care for the baby (the other ideal part of that is that the mother can once in a while get a full night's sleep while the father gets up to take care of feedings, and vice versa). The women I work with have also been very supportive of each other during pregnancies and the breast pumping phase. One of my friends/coworkers got a small fridge for her office so she wouldn't have to store her breast milk in the common fridge (it was a two-way street there...she realized people might not be comfortable with that being around their food, and she wasn't comfortable with leaving it in the common fridge anyway), and shared that with one of the lab techs who had a baby about the same time (we joked that her office became the la leche league office...techs don't have offices, so she used my friend's office for privacy, and we all understood the appearance of the "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door). I've even loaned out my office to other women who have needed privacy for breast pumping when the office or conference room they usually use is occupied for a meeting.Astronuc said:My wife and I did the breastpump arrangement with my daughter and son. That way my wife could take off for a long period (hrs or a whole day) and I fed the baby breast milk.
Personally, I wanted to spend as much time with my kids as possible - even if I had to take time away from work.
Townsend said:Just my opinion but I believe that a baby should be breast feed for at least the first year. As such my wife would have to stay home with the baby for the first year unless we could work it out some other way. Perhaps a breast pump and a small refrigerator full of milk would work.
Regards
There is no reason why a woman can't work full time and still breast feed. I almost always earn more than the men I meet.Townsend said:Just my opinion but I believe that a baby should be breast feed for at least the first year. As such my wife would have to stay home with the baby for the first year unless we could work it out some other way. Perhaps a breast pump and a small refrigerator full of milk would work.
Regards
That's if you are willing to supplement with formula when you aren't around. Pumping is more to provide a stored supply of milk so the baby can be bottle fed with breast milk when the mother isn't around.Evo said:You don't even need to pump the milk, that's a fallacy that a lot of women don't even realize. You will continue to produce milk as long as your child nurses, even if it is only at night.
The current thinking is that breast milk during at least the first 6 months is better for the baby than formula. Breast feeding is also supposed to be good for the mother, 6 months to a year of breast feeding helps reduce the risk of breast cancer. With more and more women seeking fertility treatment and having children later in life, there's an increased cancer risk for both of those, so breast feeding helps bring them back to the "normal" risk range.It really doesn't matter if it's formula or breast milk (pschologically) to a child. I do think there are benefits from breast milk the first few weeks passed on from the mother, but after that, formula is fine.
My wife was very productive with milk, so if she didn't express milk, her breasts would leak milk, particularly during the first 6 months. She did have to wear absorbent pads in her bra. So the breast pump was a practical solution.Evo said:I breast fed my youngest until she was almost two (way too old, btw). The woman will adjust to the schedule, it's only difficult in the very beginning (too much milk). I went back to work full time after 6 weeks with no problem. You won't run out of milk and the child will not be affected. You don't even need to pump the milk, that's a fallacy that a lot of women don't even realize. You will continue to produce milk as long as your child nurses, even if it is only at night.
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