What has been your biggest FAILURE in Life? Admit it!

[timejim]

I think mine was not completing College. I had straight A's in the School of Forestry but my family obligations became such I couldn't continue. I really regret it and my Life has been much harder for it.

Another is not as of yet having developed a working Time Machine.
(probably won't, either)

[Silverious]

Failing to get with that one girl from high school. Man she was a fox. And smart too.

[Zantra]

Not living up to my potential. Not becuase I let everyone else down, but because I let myself down.

[Andy]

Yea me too, i have let myself down by not putting enough effort into my school or college work.

[Descartes]

Considering anything I've done in the past as a failure seems all too self-deprecrating. IMO, failure is only present in the result, and there's always time to derive a different one. If you feel you shouldn't have quit school, go back. If you feel you haven't given something enough attention, do so now. The anticipation of less-than-desirable results is what motivates a lot of people to achieve more. What would life be like making decisions without some trepidation?

[Zantra]

Originally posted by Descartes
Considering anything I've done in the past as a failure seems all too self-deprecrating. IMO, failure is only present in the result, and there's always time to derive a different one. If you feel you shouldn't have quit school, go back. If you feel you haven't given something enough attention, do so now. The anticipation of less-than-desirable results is what motivates a lot of people to achieve more. What would life be like making decisions without some trepidation?

In the process of rectifying my mistakes as we speak.

[phatmonky]

Bad money management. My business would be much further along at this point had I looked at needs, instead of attainable wants [t)]

[Zantra]

Originally posted by Andy
Yea me too, i have let myself down by not putting enough effort into my school or college work.

It did strike me as slightly unusual when you mentioned your were in the automotive field. But then I don't even have a physics degree myself, so I'll just plod on through the glass house.

[Evo]

Originally posted by Descartes
Considering anything I've done in the past as a failure seems all too self-deprecrating. IMO, failure is only present in the result, and there's always time to derive a different one. If you feel you shouldn't have quit school, go back. If you feel you haven't given something enough attention, do so now. The anticipation of less-than-desirable results is what motivates a lot of people to achieve more. What would life be like making decisions without some trepidation?
Descartes, you are an inspiration to us all...

I personally do not feel that I have failed in anything. Looking back, I could have made better decisions along the way, but at least I *made* a decision. I learn from my mistakes.

[KLscilevothma]

Getting a B in additional math in a crucial exam one and a half years ago. [*(] My heart aches everytime I think of it or when others talk about it, especially last year. My life would be totally different if I got A. [b(]

[:(]

edit: In that exam, I misread isosceles triangle as equilatural triangle and lost a lot of marks. That was a long question that worthed 12 marks.

[Descartes]

Originally posted by Evo
Descartes, you are an inspiration to us all...

I personally do not feel that I have failed in anything. Looking back, I could have made better decisions along the way, but at least I *made* a decision. I learn from my mistakes.

Very kind words, thank you.

[The_Professional]

1. Being my worst critic

2. Had I been much decisive, I would've been a med student by now

[Andy]

Origionally posted by Zantra
It did strike me as slightly unusual when you mentioned your were in the automotive field. But then I don't even have a physics degree myself, so I'll just plod on through the glass house.

Yea i had always wanted to get an aprenticeship of some sort when i left school at 16, but i didnt get one so i went to college to pass the time and studied physics and chemistry, but because i didnt try hard enough i didnt do aswell in the exams as i know i could have done. So i spent 2 years passing my spare time by studying Physics and Chemistry [?] . I must be Nuts.

[Zantra]

no more nuts than the ret of us.. lol

[Monique]

I am still young, but: not recognizing true beauty when it was staring me in the eyes..

[Vosh]

Not being together enough in the head as a very young man to have as my approach to a scary world a helpful attitude. Also, I wish I had discovered in my teen years the literature of John Holt and Grace Llewelyn. These days I've managed to extricate the obediance to school from my tissues (takes time and work even after you know better on an intellectual level), but it would have helped in other areas of life to have gotten an earlier start...

[jimmy p]

I reckon it has to be the same as andy, wasting my time in full time education...hell im still doing it!

I suppose in retrospect i could say that my main failing is not asserting myself, im too happy go lucky and carefree to give a crap about important things until after they have happened!

[a)]

[Ivan Seeking]

Originally posted by Monique
I am still young, but: not recognizing true beauty when it was staring me in the eyes..

[?] [?] [?]

[Ivan Seeking]

My biggerst failure: Underestimating the greed and ambitions of others. For years I was a complete sap and it cost me a lot; money and heart. Too much trust.

Sorry, I know this sounds pretty negative but I do consider this my biggest failure and lesson in life.

[Monique]

Originally posted by Ivan Seeking
[?] [?] [?] Yes, that was my biggest failure..

[JasonJo]

caring too much about what other people think, letting life pass me by

[DarkAnt]

My lack of will power, every time I tell myself to study more or work harder I never do and I end up stalling. Much like what I am doing now by posting on this forum instead of studying for midterms. I've tried everything to stop my constant stalling. I've set goal and whatever else and nothing seems to work. If anyone has any ideas I'd like to hear them.

[The_Professional]

I'll just nod my head and agree with everything you say

[Ivan Seeking]

Originally posted by DarkAnt
My lack of will power, every time I tell myself to study more or work harder I never do and I end up stalling. Much like what I am doing now by posting on this forum instead of studying for midterms. I've tried everything to stop my constant stalling. I've set goal and whatever else and nothing seems to work. If anyone has any ideas I'd like to hear them.

Hey Dark Ant,
Perhaps it would help to do what I used to do. First, you can't be around any distractions; focus, focus, focus. Learn to become completely absorbed by the demands of your studies. I made these my highest priority every minute of every day. Take breaks and get some sleep; and surely a little fun is needed from time to time, but if you view your studies as THE thing and not just A thing that you do, then the priorities begin to set themselves. I also found that a few quick games that require complete concentration would sometimes help. Ping Pong was always a favorite of mine.

I noticed that your are on Kwajalein Island. I almost spent some time there - about six months - for the National Missile Defense program. Unfortunately, at the last minute my customer lost the start-up contract for Boeing. [*(] I did the initial testing on the launch release system.

I hear the scuba diving is fantastic. Everyone was getting certified until the contract fell through. [*(] [*(] [*(]

Do you see many missile launches?

Edit? Hey! I just remembered, no one lives on Kwajalein. [g)]

[decoz]

Hello,
I would say my biggest failure would
1) Thinking too much about what other people with think.
2) Not adjusting with the surrounding, having too much ego
3) I could have been anything I wanted if I had worked hard. I have a masters in electrical and Comp engg with not working too hard. I wish I had more self belief.

But whats gone is gone. I belive I still got what it needs to really make it big in this world.

Hope you guys can help me in giving some advice on being more self confident.

[cristo]

Hello,
I would say my biggest failure would
1) Thinking too much about what other people with think.
You just gotta learn not to care what people think. At the end of the day, its only their opinions.
3) I could have been anything I wanted if I had worked hard. I have a masters in electrical and Comp engg with not working too hard. I wish I had more self belief.

But whats gone is gone. I belive I still got what it needs to really make it big in this world.
Surely you still can? Just start working now! Use your degree and you can still get a very good job!

My biggest regrets.. hmm.. not passing my driving test 1st time, and then giving up for about 3 years, oh, and letting my (as of last week) ex walk all over me. lol!

oh, just realised this thread is years old!

[Pyrrhus]

Maturing too quickly, i should have had more fun!!! (Not that i can't :rofl: )

[ranger]

Being an introvert for most of my teenage years. I wish I could relive those days in a better way.

[dontdisturbmycircles]

Reading through an entire thread and then noticing that it was 3 years old. :P

That and not working hard enough in jr.high/most of sr.high... Although it doesn't really matter anymore since I am more then caught up now that my attitude has changed, it made it hard to catch up.

[ranger]

Reading through an entire thread and then noticing that it was 3 years old. :P
lol, all thanks to decoz. Like how in the world did he find this.

[decoz]

I found that becuase I am unhappy about my progress.

[mathwonk]

biggest in terms of measuring my progress against what was needed for success, i'd say it was not proving the hodge conjecture, or actually not even learning precisely what it says.

in other realms, as one of my friends' coffee mug says, most of my money i spent on whiskey and women - the rest of it i just wasted.

[dontdisturbmycircles]

In the end, I think that worrying about what you did wrong is pointless. Worrying about what you can do correctly now is what matters.

I like analogies a lot... Lets say that when you were younger, you put a big giant stone infront of your house so that you can't get in. Now you could stand in front of the door and cuss at yourself for being so stupid to put that huge stone infront of your door and accomplish nothing, or you could slowly work at moving it, or if you really wanted to enjoy your house, you could just break in the window.

As you can see, I am not very good with analogies, but I do think that it gets a point across......... lol

[decoz]

Guys and Gals

Life is not the amount of breaths you take it is the moments that take your breath away.

BY
RN

Thank You, Remember this and you will never feel unhappiness.

[Kurdt]

My greatest failure is losing the woman I loved through awful neuroses. That and being lazy. :cry:

[dontdisturbmycircles]

But then why are you unhappy if you know how to avoid unhapiness decoz?

[Kurdt]

Its unfortunate that the unhappiest events tend to be the ones we remember most clearly. Must be part of the defence mechanism so we never repeat them.

[decoz]

Because I dont have a lot of time left. I know life is short whatever time you get is luck.

One thing to keep in mind:

Have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec flat if you spot the heat around the corner.

BY

RN

[vsage]

Working too hard. I missed quite a few special events around school due to either my job or schoolwork which I regret to some extent. Cutting down on my classes this last semester of school in order to stop and smell the roses :)

[Robert Mak]

Fail in 4 physics exam questions, that leave me to the 20 place in the physic olympic.

[danscope]

Hi, I wish I had been told early on about a wonderful book called...
"How to Win Friends and Influence people". I should have saved myself some grief, and perhaps won more of what I wanted , and had less antagonizing
situations better recognized with the help of this wondrous volume of sage contemplation and sound counsel. It will be the finest $8.00 you shall ever spend on a book, and prove worthy each day, and mark you as someone desreving in your enterprises. Dale Carnegie should well be remembered as the Father of Business and cooperation. When I teach a novice, One of the first things I do is mention this title. Many is the time that they come back to me and thank me whole heartedly for this inspiration. It can change your life for the better. Would that it was on the Freshman reading list, now and always.
This book, alone, can counter the "IN your face attitude" so prevalent today,
and help turn things around for those who will read with understanding, and hold dear the "Logic which never Fails".
Best regards All,
Daniel

[rhuthwaite]

The problem in our lives is that we spend to much time wanting things and then become unhappy because we want more things and then we are never satisfied. If take old teachings from buddha we can learn that in eliminating wants or atleast minimiseing them, we will feel more happiness and less suffering.
I have no regrets in my life so far, there have been things that at the time I wish regretted but in retrospect it was better the way it happened. I try and live each day, not just walk through it.

[Integral]

Boy are there a lot of people here who have some living to do. I have seen few here "failures" that matter in the long run. Getting a B on test :rofl:

The failure of my first marriage has haunted me. Thou I am very happy to be separated from the ex, the separation from my sons is a wound that will not heal. I have maintained a close relationship with both, but...

Both played instruments (trumpet and trombone) in HS, I never heard them play. Both have grown up and married and I have listened to their lives in weekly, now sometimes monthly, phone calls. I have 2 grandsons, with a 3rd on the way who are growing up and I am missing their lives as well.

The problem is the continent which separates us and a 2nd marriage which has changed priorities.

(Ivan, please do not mention this post to, or in the presence of, Derivative)

[decoz]

I can give one suggestion:

Forget what happened, Now on live life as if it was your last second in this world and make the best effort to do what you do.

Once again I repeat, if you want to be happy in life , have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec falt if you spot the heat around the corner.

Remember that and you will never feel any emotion, no unhappiness.

Thanks
RN

[decoz]

Come on Guys and Gals

[cristo]

Remember that and you will never feel any emotion, no unhappiness.


But then you will never feel any happiness either?

[radou]

I can give one suggestion:

Forget what happened, Now on live life as if it was your last second in this world and make the best effort to do what you do.

If one lived like that, he'd probably burn out in no time. :biggrin:

[rhuthwaite]

Feeling is all part of life, it makes us human

[decoz]

I dont think so. I was like that human. I used to feel like a stranger in a no name town.

But now I am tough, I dont give a **** about nobody.

I just dont care,

Thanks
RN

[radou]

I dont think so. I was like that human. I used to feel like a stranger in a no name town.

But now I am tough, I dont give a **** about nobody.

I just dont care,

Thanks
RN

Well, if you're telling the truth, you have been gifted a virtue. :biggrin:

[rhuthwaite]

How can you just not care? I care about everything and I love it. I do everything I do with passion, energy and enthusiasium really living life and trying to help others feel good. Generally the things I do like sport I will never do the best it and don't train as hard as I should but I do well at it, making rep. teams when I never should've, because do it with all my heart. I care about what everyone feels, thinks, wants to do I couldn't live without caring I would be an absolute mess

[decoz]

well guess what dude, I think you are an absolute mess. I dont mean no disrespect to you or anyboody, But thats how I think.

[rhuthwaite]

What makes you think I am a mess?!

[decoz]

Forget it bro. Have a good life . Good luck

[cristo]

I dont think so. I was like that human. I used to feel like a stranger in a no name town.

But now I am tough, I dont give a **** about nobody.

I just dont care,

Thanks
RN

How can you enjoy life though, if you have no emotions? Surely that just makes everyday dull and monotonous, with nothing to wake up to enjoy?

[Kurdt]

Does PF have a suicide patrol?

[EvLer]

Once again I repeat, if you want to be happy in life , have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec falt if you spot the heat around the corner.

Remember that and you will never feel any emotion, no unhappiness.


this is rather unfortunate, but it is unfortunatelly true.... people hurt... situations hurt.... you get emotions involved and there you find yourself all by yourself crushed into pieces drinking alone at night.... affects your school work, etc. .... then once you are over it you make a deal with yourself to never end up like that again..... well i just had one bad experience but is 'memorable' enough....

failures?....hmmmm i don't want to think of my past in those terms.... I typically put all I have in terms of effort into school and then hope for the best. Oh, also someone taught me to make informed decisions and NEVER look back no matter what the outcome..... not gonna help :grumpy:

[mathwonk]

as the great satchel paige once said:, "don't look back, something might be gaining on you."

[SticksandStones]

Not getting to know a friend better before he took his life.

[verty]

Well I think decoz is just being honest and we should all respect that. It does seem that Ruthwaite thinks people who don't love everybody are in a mess, which is a very odd thing to say. If that's true, she can only be said to be loving everyone because she doesn't want to be in a mess herself. That is a negative way to live, living so that you aren't something or other.

Whereas we should try to live so that we are something. We shouldn't run away, we should run towards. I think the way to become happy is to stop running and escaping and ignoring and rather to look at things honestly and find a positive reason to live. And when you find that reason, you will likely be more happy than you have ever been.

This approach is also very beneficial because if you are living negatively, people can control you because they can imply or suggest that you are something you wish not to be. Many people are gullible in this way, like when a boyfriend says "if you love me, you will sleep with me".

If you define yourself in comparison to others, they will control you. This is a simple truth. If you find a reason to live for yourself, you become your own master.

[rhuthwaite]

I was just saying, you should love and care about something in your life, you don't have to care for everything just something

[Weave]

This one time I ordered soup and not salad- I have regreted it ever since.

[rhuthwaite]

What kind of soup and what kind of salad?

[danscope]

This one time I ordered soup and not salad- I have regreted it ever since.

" Ah....You do not know how to order! You are banned 2 months!!!"

LOL From some soup nut or something........:smile: Emeril taught me how to make 'his soup' . Good stuff. Stop and smell the soup!!
Best regards, Dan