Men's Changing Behaviors Over Time

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The discussion revolves around the changing behaviors and perceptions of men and women over time in relationships, focusing on various aspects such as expressions of love, communication, cooking, and entertainment preferences. It includes both humorous and critical viewpoints, exploring gender dynamics and expectations within romantic contexts.

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants share humorous observations about how expressions of love and communication change over time in relationships.
  • Others argue that the stereotypes presented are inaccurate and challenge the notion that men and women behave in the ways described.
  • There are claims that women should not need reassurance and that men often do not engage with certain activities, like watching TV.
  • Some participants express frustration with societal expectations regarding clothing and entertainment, suggesting that these are often unnecessary or superficial.
  • A few posts humorously depict how women might change over time in their relationships, paralleling the earlier observations about men.
  • There are comments about the differences in how men and women perceive marriage and change, with some suggesting that women hope men will change while men prefer women to remain the same.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants generally do not agree on the accuracy of the initial humorous observations about changing behaviors. Multiple competing views remain, with some defending the stereotypes and others rejecting them outright.

Contextual Notes

Some arguments rely on personal anecdotes and subjective interpretations of relationship dynamics, which may not represent broader trends or experiences. The discussion includes humor and sarcasm, which may affect the seriousness of the claims made.

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Readers interested in gender studies, relationship dynamics, or social commentary on romantic behaviors may find this discussion engaging.

Lisa!
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I quote my friend in another site:

How men change

The Love word:
After 6 weeks: I love you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: God, if I didn't love you, then why do you think I proposed?

Back from work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
months: I'm Back!
years: Have you cooked?

Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
months: Here, it's for you.
years: Answer The Phone!

Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
years: AGAIN!

New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
months: Yo bought a new dress again?
years: How much did THAT cost me?

TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
months: I like this movie.
years: I'm going to watch ESPN, if you're not in the mood, go to bed,
I can stay up by myself!
 
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All totally wrong.
The love word over rated, women shouldn't have to be re assured.
Back from work.
Used to make own dinner so won't change.
Phone ringing
Men don't get a chance to use them.
Dress
As little as possible.
Tv
Dont watch it.
 
Mr wolram said:
All totally wrong.
The love word over rated, women shouldn't have to be re assured.
Back from work.
Used to make own dinner so won't change.
Phone ringing
Men don't get a chance to use them.
Dress
As little as possible.
Tv
Dont watch it.
I'm not surprised if you're not married yet, Sir! :smile:
 
Lisa! said:
I'm not surprised if you're not married yet, Sir! :smile:

Been there done that, and Why :confused:
 
First of all, why don't you want to change? And what do you mean "dress: as little as possible" and "TV: don't watch it" ?
 
Lisa! said:
First of all, why don't you want to change? And what do you mean "dress: as little as possible" and "TV: don't watch it" ?

I have not watched tv in ages, the programs are total rubbish.
I like to eat when i am hungry, so i cook what ever when ever.
Why spend loads of money on clothes, most times they are just a fad and
stay in the wardrobe unworn.
 
How men change:
They start out eager and hard-muscled and end up all flabby and bored.. :frown:
 
Well Sir, that's your idea! Perhaps your woman wants to watch TV and buy lots of clothes!

arildno said:
How men change:
They start out eager and hard-muscled and end up all flabby and bored.. :frown:
:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
 
Lisa! said:
Well Sir, that's your idea! Perhaps your woman wants to watch TV and buy lots of cloths:

No only bored women watch tv, the odd program may be worth watching, but
there are far better things to do.

And again why :confused:
 
  • #10
How women change:
after six weeks: sure, we can do it again
six months: sure, we can do it again next week
six years: sure, we can do it again at some time of my own choosing because no matter how inconvinient it may be to you at the time you will cast this annoyance aside due to your desparation and frustration AND THUS I CONTROL YOU!

after six weeks: you're right, the new Kiarostami film sounds intriguing
six months: I'm sure it's good, I'm just not in the mood for that kind of thing tonight. tomorrow?
six years: then... it has subtitles, yes? then... we have a problem, no? what's wrong with watching moulin rouge? again.

after six weeks: yeah, let's hit the town. I'm well up for it.
six months: we really have to budget our entertainment expenditure
six years: I'm not sure once we've deducted the essentials, such as my chocolate, we can afford your four-pack this week.

after six weeks: i love your set of friends
six months: i like your friends, I'm just not sure how much i have in common with them
six years: you'd probably be less retarded if you didn't hang out with that bunch of reprobates

after six weeks: being together is what's important
six months: of course, marriage has legal benefits worth considering
six years: that's EXACTLY the kind of ring you should propose to me with, and that's EXACTLY the kind of dress I want to wear to the wedding, and that's exactly the caterers I want, and that church, and that horse-drawn carriage, and I want to go to Hawaii for our honeymoon, then onto Vegas, and you do realize you'll need to get a better job to pay for all this, not that, at the end of the day, it will ever be enough because no matter how much you bend to my every whim your very presence on the day will ensure that YOU RUINED THE GREATEST DAY OF MY LIFE!

after six weeks: I would never leave you
six months: a relationship is something that has to be WORKED at
six years: you're survival after this divorce is not an issue for me. if you wanted to retain some of your net income you should have thought about that before being born.
 
  • #11
El Hombre Invisible said:
How women change:
after six weeks: sure, we can do it again
six months: sure, we can do it again next week
six years: sure, we can do it again at some time of my own choosing because no matter how inconvinient it may be to you at the time you will cast this annoyance aside due to your desparation and frustration AND THUS I CONTROL YOU!

after six weeks: you're right, the new Kiarostami film sounds intriguing
six months: I'm sure it's good, I'm just not in the mood for that kind of thing tonight. tomorrow?
six years: then... it has subtitles, yes? then... we have a problem, no? what's wrong with watching moulin rouge? again.

after six weeks: yeah, let's hit the town. I'm well up for it.
six months: we really have to budget our entertainment expenditure
six years: I'm not sure once we've deducted the essentials, such as my chocolate, we can afford your four-pack this week.

after six weeks: i love your set of friends
six months: i like your friends, I'm just not sure how much i have in common with them
six years: you'd probably be less retarded if you didn't hang out with that bunch of reprobates

after six weeks: being together is what's important
six months: of course, marriage has legal benefits worth considering
six years: that's EXACTLY the kind of ring you should propose to me with, and that's EXACTLY the kind of dress I want to wear to the wedding, and that's exactly the caterers I want, and that church, and that horse-drawn carriage, and I want to go to Hawaii for our honeymoon, then onto Vegas, and you do realize you'll need to get a better job to pay for all this, not that, at the end of the day, it will ever be enough because no matter how much you bend to my every whim your very presence on the day will ensure that YOU RUINED THE GREATEST DAY OF MY LIFE!

after six weeks: I would never leave you
six months: a relationship is something that has to be WORKED at
six years: you're survival after this divorce is not an issue for me. if you wanted to retain some of your net income you should have thought about that before being born.
:smile: :smile:
 
  • #12
Women marry men hoping they'll change and men marry women hoping they never do.
 
  • #13
Mr wolram said:
No only bored women watch tv, the odd program may be worth watching, but
there are far better things to do.
And only bored women may accept to marry you, Sir! :biggrin:

And again why :confused:
Confused about what?
 
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  • #14
Lisa! said:
And only bored women may accept to marry you, Sir! :biggrin:

[QUOTE}And again why :confused:
Confused about what?[/QUOTE]

Well if tv is interesting to her she can watch it, i can find far more iteresting
things to do, and why do women need so many clothes ?
 
  • #15
Mr wolram said:
Well if tv is interesting to her she can watch it, i can find far more iteresting
things to do, and why do women need so many clothes ?
:smile: :smile: I think you'r going to change yourseld in order to get married soon! I don't know why women need lots of clothes, perhaps buying clothes is a kind of hobby for them!
 
  • #16
Lisa! said:
:smile: :smile: I think you'r going to change yourseld in order to get married soon! I don't know why women need lots of clothes, perhaps buying clothes is a kind of hobby for them!

It would be very difficult to change my ways, and married soon
well may be some one would feel sorry for me :!) but i won't go clothes shopping that's for sure. :biggrin:
 
  • #17
El Hombre Invisible said:
How women change:
after six weeks: sure, we can do it again
six months: sure, we can do it again next week
six years: sure, we can do it again at some time of my own choosing because no matter how inconvinient it may be to you at the time you will cast this annoyance aside due to your desparation and frustration AND THUS I CONTROL YOU!

after six weeks: you're right, the new Kiarostami film sounds intriguing
six months: I'm sure it's good, I'm just not in the mood for that kind of thing tonight. tomorrow?
six years: then... it has subtitles, yes? then... we have a problem, no? what's wrong with watching moulin rouge? again.

after six weeks: yeah, let's hit the town. I'm well up for it.
six months: we really have to budget our entertainment expenditure
six years: I'm not sure once we've deducted the essentials, such as my chocolate, we can afford your four-pack this week.

after six weeks: i love your set of friends
six months: i like your friends, I'm just not sure how much i have in common with them
six years: you'd probably be less retarded if you didn't hang out with that bunch of reprobates

after six weeks: being together is what's important
six months: of course, marriage has legal benefits worth considering
six years: that's EXACTLY the kind of ring you should propose to me with, and that's EXACTLY the kind of dress I want to wear to the wedding, and that's exactly the caterers I want, and that church, and that horse-drawn carriage, and I want to go to Hawaii for our honeymoon, then onto Vegas, and you do realize you'll need to get a better job to pay for all this, not that, at the end of the day, it will ever be enough because no matter how much you bend to my every whim your very presence on the day will ensure that YOU RUINED THE GREATEST DAY OF MY LIFE!

after six weeks: I would never leave you
six months: a relationship is something that has to be WORKED at
six years: you're survival after this divorce is not an issue for me. if you wanted to retain some of your net income you should have thought about that before being born.

Wow. And I thought I was cynical. :bugeye:
 
  • #18
What about women?

6 weeks: "I love you so much baby"
6 months: "Gimme your card"
6 years: "50% of everything"

And waita second, what kind of "man" says that crap in the first 6 weeks category. If the foods good, I am going to go "this is some good food", not "oh my god baby your food is so awesome and delicious you are a goddess can i worship you now?"
 
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  • #19
Here's my variation.

Lisa! said:
How men change

The Love word:
After 6 weeks: I love you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: God, if I didn't love you, then why do you think I proposed?

I sure as hell don't love anyone after six weeks. At six months and six years, if it's there, it's understood.

Back from work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
months: I'm Back!
years: Have you cooked?

Under what circumstances are you living with a person after six weeks? Like wolram, I cook for myself, and I usually take a nap when I get home.

Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
months: Here, it's for you.
years: Answer The Phone!

I don't even own a phone. If it's ringing, it's for somebody else.

Cooking:
After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
years: AGAIN!

Same thing about cooking for myself, unless the woman is Italian. Either way, these snippets of conversation are moot as far as I'm concerned. You eat food; you don't talk about it.

New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
months: Yo bought a new dress again?
years: How much did THAT cost me?

Six weeks: Oh, that's new?
Six months: Oh, that's new?
Six years: Oh, that's new?

That's about how much I care what you're wearing.

TV:
After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
months: I like this movie.
years: I'm going to watch ESPN, if you're not in the mood, go to bed,
I can stay up by myself!

Six weeks: If we see what you want to see, you pay. If we see what I want to see, I pay.
Six months: Quiet, I'm watching this.
Six years: Yes, honey, that is why we have more than one television set.
 
  • #20
loseyourname said:
Six years: Yes, honey, that is why we have more than one television set.

:smile: :smile: :smile:

And that's why there are 4 TVs in this house.
 
  • #21
Mr wolram said:
It would be very difficult to change my ways, and married soon
Not all the time! :wink: I know a guy who had the same idea all , but...



well may be some one would feel sorry for me :!) but i won't go clothes shopping that's for sure. :biggrin:
For yourself or for her? Anyway I think women prefer to go shopping alone(not with the bf or husband at least). So all you need to do is, to give her enough money for shopping!
 
  • #22
Lisa! said:
Not all the time! :wink: I know a guy who had the same idea all , but...
For yourself or for her? Anyway I think women prefer to go shopping alone(not with the bf or husband at least). So all you need to do is, to give her enough money for shopping!

I do not see why i would have to change

And this a non working woman ??

Well if she is a house wife i guess clothes would be in the house keeping
budget, and i went clothes shopping with my to be ex once, never again,
every time she asked for my opinion it was wrong, even if it was neutral.
:confused: :rolleyes:
 
  • #23
Mr wolram said:
I do not see why i would have to change
Oh Sir, I never said that you would have to change, did I? :confused: You can stay single forever and enjoy your lonelyness, and in this situation you would never have to change! o:)

And this a non working woman ??
Non working woman? What do you mean? A house wife?

Well if she is a house wife i guess clothes would be in the house keeping
budget, and i went clothes shopping with my to be ex once, never again,
every time she asked for my opinion it was wrong, even if it was neutral.
:confused: :rolleyes:
:smile: :smile: God! Sir, why do you make me laugh a lot today? Do you want to kill me? :devil:
 
  • #24
by Lisa, God! Sir, why do you make me laugh a lot today? Do you want to kill me?

I do not get the joke :confused: and i still do not know why i would have
to change just because i was married to some one. :confused:
 
  • #25
wolram said:
I do not get the joke :confused: and i still do not know why i would have
to change just because i was married to some one. :confused:

Yah, I thought someone marrys you because your so friggen perfect AS YOU ARE
 
  • #26
Mr wolram said:
I do not get the joke :confused:

Come on, Sir! Are you kidding? For sure it's funny when people look for things that don't exist! What do you do if I tell you I'm looking for a ghost with a serious tone? :smile: :smile:

and i still do not know why i would have
to change just because i was married to some one. :confused:
Well Sir, I think this discussion is useless. I'm sure whenever you'd meet your kind of woman, you would understand everything. In fact, you'll change automatically without any thinking about why. :wink:
 
  • #27
Well i will admit i am lost now, i am sure not perfect and would not try to
fool a woman into thinking I am some one different.
Some routines would have to change, but not who i am, perhaps i would not
have as much time for the things i like doing, that's ok.
As for the clothes thing, she could have what ever, as long as it did not leave
us short for other things.
 
  • #28
Mr wolram said:
Well i will admit i am lost now,


:confused:

i am sure not perfect and would not try to
fool a woman into thinking I am some one different.
Some routines would have to change, but not who i am, perhaps i would not
have as much time for the things i like doing, that's ok.
As for the clothes thing, she could have what ever, as long as it did not leave
us short for other things.
You'r an o:) , Sir! :smile:
Are we allowed to use o:) for men? I don't think so, but well who cares!
 
  • #29
Flirtation Alert![/size]
 
  • #30
Jealousy Alert!:-p
 

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