Born2bwire is talking about a secondary field something I have not come across.
There’s much more to a
capacitor then just 2 inside surfaces, although these provide the bulk of the stored charges.
It’s like this: any small tiny surface you can think about has a certain capacity with respect of any other such surface of this capacitor. All these tiny capacitances add up in parallel to form the actual value. Therefore there’s a value between the rim and the inside surface, outside – inside, outside – outside, rim – connecting stud, stud – stud, and so on and so on. In fact you could even include wires and objects around the capacitor not necessarily even connected. However fortunately for dc purposes we can add up a lot of these smaller value’s and end up with 3 main parts. Inside, outside and rim. Therefore when a capacitor gets charged we put a charge on the outside, rim and inside. There’s no charge inside the metal. Therefore it follows that both plates are completely surrounded with an electric field, and charges on the outside surface are feeling a force to the outside and not to the inside. Hence when a wire is connected to both outside surfaces, first of all, we discharge some charges pointing in the direction of this wire.