Advice for a young undergrad lusting after an older grad student?


by Seraphin
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Nov6-09, 09:24 AM
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The only "creepy old man" is the hunter which can't get the game :P
'struth.

The proof is in the pudding.

BTW Bruce: niiiice pudding...
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Nov6-09, 09:41 AM
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BTW Bruce: niiiice pudding...
Lets not forget about "creepy old hags", so we have a better understanding of the phenomena:

http://www.popsugar.com/5898970?page=0,0,0
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Nov6-09, 09:56 AM
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Lets not forget about "creepy old hags", so we have a better understanding of the phenomena:

http://www.popsugar.com/5898970?page=0,0,0
erm, we prefer the terms "cougar" and "cougar-bait".
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Lets not forget about "creepy old hags", so we have a better understanding of the phenomena:

http://www.popsugar.com/5898970?page=0,0,0
Creepy old hags! WHAT? Man cougar bars are the place to go.
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Awe, thanks for all the encouragement. I feel much better about trying this now than I did before :)

Uh oh, you didn't mention handsome charming foreigner... This throws everything out the window! (Just kidding)
Too much analysis, Too little action!

Don't think!, Act!

Good luck!
Thank you and you're all completely completely right :) I'll update you guys on how everything turns out when I make my move. Thanks bunches guys!
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All the best! Even if he turns you down, assure yourself that there are quite a number of *good* guys around and that too, close to your age. For instance i am 21. :-D
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9 years isnt THAT crazy. Im in my mid 30's and still I get young early 20 somethings asking me out. Chicks dig power, (or the perception thereof).

It can get annoying when they show up on your porch at midnight.
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Nov13-09, 11:58 AM
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I haven't dated anyone older than me since I was in my teens. Luckily my current boyfriend likes decrepit old women.
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Um... maybe he's not shy. I'm a TA and lots of girls have shown interests. Some people said cause I have a cute look, and always having a good time.

But I never come on to girls in my seminar. Even if they make it obvious, so they might think I'm shy or something. But really, it's because I'm not interested. When they say... "You should come visit me at my dorm. We can have fun." ... it's obvious.

I am currently dating a former student of mine.

Anything can happen.

Note: I look like a bum these days.
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And theres 29/2+7=21.5. Just say your almost 21 :-)
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Totally legal. Still both adults. I don't see ant difference between 20 & 29 and 19 & 29.
When one turned 20, the other was 11. Sometimes it can shock you to realize someone was born in the 1990s. More importantly though, it's about life experience. Someone who has very little life experience at 29 might not be exploiting a 20 year old, but if they have, they might traumatize the 20 year old with life issues that she hasn't even imagined possible yet. Many people go through A LOT in the course of their 20s.
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hen one turned 20, the other was 11. Sometimes it can shock you to realize someone was born in the 1990s
What shocks are you talking about ? The thing which matter is the present, not philosophizing about the fact she was 11 once in her life, and I was 20 or 30 at that time and so on.

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Someone who has very little life experience at 29 might not be exploiting a 20 year old, but if they have, they might traumatize the 20 year old with life issues that she hasn't even imagined possible yet. Many people go through A LOT in the course of their 20s.
Sure :P If only humans would be so damn sensitive as you think they are.
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Aug18-10, 05:26 AM
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Sure :P If only humans would be so damn sensitive as you think they are.
yeah! I think people do go through a lot in their 20s - they're just figuring out life by themselves, and this can be a super sensitive time! so before dating someone much older seriously, make sure they are a good guy/girl and not gonna play you!

older guys are hot tho... I would like to date a professor lol... a young-ish looking one... preferably in astrophysics or nuclear physics!
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Aug18-10, 05:34 AM
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Quote Quote by nucleargirl View Post
yeah! I think people do go through a lot in their 20s - they're just figuring out life by themselves, and this can be a super sensitive time! so before dating someone much older seriously, make sure they are a good guy/girl and not gonna play you!
You are still figuring things on your own :P Besides, everybody gets played, and everyone will play someone during their life, unless you marry you high school sweetheart and live happily ever after.

Believe me, it feels no different if you fall in love with a 20 years old and he plays you, or for a 35 years years man and he plays you. D'ont be so concerned about you "super-sensitive time". You are not 13 anymore.
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You are still figuring things on your own :P Besides, everybody gets played, and everyone will play someone during their life, unless you marry you high school sweetheart and live happily ever after.

Believe me, it feels no different if you fall in love with a 20 years old and he plays you, or for a 35 years years man and he plays you. D'ont be so concerned about you "super-sensitive time". You are not 13 anymore.
no no, I dont think everyone has to get played or have to play others - it shouldn't be like that at all! and it doesnt happen all that often... maybe more in big cities where people are more 'hard' but not here! I think most people you'll meet are genuine and are nice! sometimes relationships just dont work out - its not anyone being mean, its just people change.

yeah ok, I agree that anyone of any age can hurt others who love them, but I think someone with a lot more life experience might hurt the younger one more? maybe, or that the younger person just wont understand what is happenning and might think something is wrong with themselves and blame themselves for it? I dunno... complicated...
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no no, I dont think everyone has to get played or have to play others - it shouldn't be like that at all! and it doesnt happen all that often... maybe more in big cities where people are more 'hard' but not here! I think most people you'll meet are genuine and are nice! sometimes relationships just dont work out - its not anyone being mean, its just people change.
Can we have again this conversation in about 20 years ? Im curious if you'll think the same :P
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Aug18-10, 05:58 AM
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Can we have again this conversation in about 20 years ? Im curious if you'll think the same :P
:) who knows eh! I hope so!


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