If I only knew then what I know now...

edward

To me in my early twenties: Study more, Stay in college, Do not call a drill Sgt. a dumb sh@t.

To me in my forties: Buy Tech stocks and Walmart. Take care of your body you are going to need it for a long time yet.

To me in my 60's: Buy aspercream, advil and tylenol. Too late to take care of the knees.

Pkruse

I see a lot of threads on these forums by young people wanting advice as to what they should study or what career they should go into. I’ve also seen many older men who absolutely hate their job and are counting down the days until they can retire. They very much have a “Take this job and shove it” mentality. They clearly picked the wrong career path. This is very sad.

Grandma had something to say about that, and it is sort of like Ivan’s advice to be more selfish, but to be selfish in a particular way. She encouraged me as a young child to learn as much as possible about anything that I was interested in. Most times, I’d learn a bit and go on to something else. But when I found something that held my interest, her advice was to keep at it as long as learning more was fun. She said that I’d find something that would hold my interest over the years as I grew up, and that I’d find myself coming back to it time and again to learn more. I’d spend time studying it even when nobody was telling me or paying me to do it. She said that by the time I started high school, I’d know what that one thing is that I love to work with more than anything else. That would be my primary passion, and that I should at that time plan my studies to develop a career path in that direction. She started telling me things like this before my fifth birthday, and that is pretty much the path I took. Now that I’m old and could retire if I really wanted to, I have no plans to retire because it is still fun to go to work every day.

I’m working with many engineers older than me, in their 70’s and 80’s. They have the same attitude I do, and it is really fun to be around them. They are all worth at least a million, and some tens of millions. One who is 87 is worth much more than that, since at different times he was the CEO of two different companies, both two of the largest in the US. But when he hit mandatory retirement at the big companies, he came to work with us as “just an engineer” because that is his primary passion and he derives much joy from it. That is what young people should strive to be when they are old.

Young people should quit asking advice as to what they should do. Nobody can tell them that. If anyone does, it is probably wrong. We all need to figure out what our main passion is, and develop a career centered on that. But nobody learns what their true passion is without getting out and experiencing the world first. That is best done in the early years. That is the form of selfishness Grandma advocated, because once take care of ourselves first in that way we can also be a blessing to many other people and have a bunch of fun doing it.

Grandma’s son, my dad, also had a pearl of wisdom that I’m happy to have learned early. I’ve made reference to it many times. He said that everyone has a constitutional right to be ignorant. It is wise not to exercise all our rights, but if we come across someone who is exercising his right to be ignorant we should leave them alone. Don’t argue with them. Their ignorance brings them much happiness, so let them be happy, smile politely, and go our own way.

Chi Meson

What if he's a senator?
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/beliefs.jpg

rootX

Isn't trying to make a make a difference and trying to do the right thing same as trying to be happy? ... until you realize it's better to live for yourself?

rootX

I am still too early even to say "If I only knew then what I know now". I really have no clue where I am going and why I am doing what I am doing.

Some my friends have successful parents so parents just made them do what they are good at. In my case, I can't look much to my parents. Neither, I idolize someone. I feel like I am just walking through fresh grass without knowing where I am heading :) Options come and I choose using my instincts which option to pick.

Ivan Seeking

Not for me. I think happiness is something you have to work at and make a priorety if you wish to achieve it, just like anything else. It doesn't just happen.

Here is an easy example of something that happned recently. Customer X called and had a disaster in progress. In the past I would have done just about anything to help them out of their fix. It starts off being a professional thing, but then you get up close and see the personal element to it, you see that people have a lot on the line, you see that people could lose their jobs, and it is easy to become consumed with their problems. I tend to internalize it. But there are times when, for my sake, I just have to walk away. It took a lot of years but I have finally learned to do this. In this case I just had too much work on my plate. It would have required extreme personal sacrifice to get involved.

There never was a time when I WANTED to get into situations like this. But it is hard to say no when someone really needs help.

... and the moment I sent the email announcing that I was off of the project, I was a very happy. I felt guilty, but by far, happier than guilty.

rolerbe

Definition:
"Happiness" (n) an imaginary condition, formerly attributed by the living to the dead, now usually attributed by adults to children, and by children to adults. -- Thomas Szasz

Chi Meson

OW! Jeez! That's not a motivation for going near the floss!

Seriously, ew!

BobG

Don't try to kill a fly with a shotgun. It seems like a good idea at first, but when you actually consider the area actually occupied by shotgun pellets to the cross-sectional area of a fly, you realize the probability of hitting the fly just wasn't that good.

ThinkToday

Don't wait until you are old to work on that bucket list.

Challenge yourself to be better than you think you are.

leroyjenkens

Ok I just thought of one.
"Stop playing video games all day and do something constructive with your life."

Ah well, I wouldn't have listened anyway, I was addicted to video games. At least I stopped playing them now while a lot of my friends are still playing them. I can't believe I spent so much time on games like World of Warcraft, where you get nothing out of it after so much time spent putting into it.

I honestly don't even enjoy video games anymore. I get bored the moment I start playing. Some games can keep my attention, but they're very few and far between.

rootX

"A gun that shoots salts and kills flies!!"
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=6e3_1342836386