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I had a look at a flat last Tuesday which I thought looked reasonable. My plan was to sign for it the next day, but my mother found out (she went in my money tin and noticed my bank card was missing). Cue angry phone call, and a diatribe when I got back home. Not only that, but she's now...

In case anyone's interested, I've discussed some of my family issues over at the Dysfunctional Families threads of Teresa Nielsen Hayden's Making Light blog. Dysfunctional Families: Sitting and rising Dysfunctional Families: Surviving and Thriving I'm using the pseudonym "Codemonkey in NE...

Problems with my mother's loneliness I don't think it's a problem -- I've heard most people thinking of moving house wouldn't do so in the run-up to Christmas either. Also, just offering her to give her money doesn't work -- I've tried it before when she's complained about me wasting...

How can I improve relations with my mother AIUI the local authority has offered respite care for my mother (whereby she'd be cared for in an institution for a few days so my mother could have a break) but my sister herself adamantly refuses to go (and as she's over 18, my mother can't force her...

I don't want her to worry herself to death about me though! (Damn, why does she have to be such a worry-wart?) Although given what has happened to her over the course of her life, it's no wonder she's an extreme pessimist. :( Maybe, but I'd find it too stressful to be learning how to live...

When I got my pay rise I was also informed of the pay scales for programmers within the company, which are: Placement Programmer: £14,000 - £15,066 Trainee Programmer: £14,340 - £17,909 Programmer: £16,630 - £25,305 Senior Programmer: £24,085 - £44,653 Lead Programmer - Management...

My pay's been increased to £20,262, which should give me a bit more leeway now if I was looking for a place of my own...

I probably would've done that if he'd asked me for my help again, but he sent me the new draft earlier this week and I replied that I was happy with it. :smile: Would it be a good idea if I was renting a place to start with somewhere close to my parents? (Even my dad -- who doesn't worry...

Recently my PhD supervisor has asked me to come back into the university to help him complete a journal article he's been writing based on some of my thesis work. Unfortunately this has led to my mother accusing him of taking advantage of me, as well as complaining "why didn't you try to get a...

I'm not talking about my current job here.

I doubt I'd have any good prospects working for the government, given the Coalition's cuts in public spending. You misunderstood my question (which wasn't about leaving my parents at all). My question was whether the potential improvement in my income prospects from being willing to consider...

I was expecting to take my mother shopping tomorrow evening, but it turns out I don't need to as she went on the bus (even though it cost £5.10 return, and it's difficult bringing that amount of shopping back on the bus!) I get the feeling that she herself feels guilty about me taking her...

How to get away from my family? A few months back I tried to get rid of some of my carved wooden animals (I don't want rid of all of them, but I only want about half as many as I currently had) but my mother stopped me. I also wouldn't want to get rid of DVDs that I hadn't even watched, as that...

That wasn't really my plan -- it was rather to buy my mother a house in a non-car-dependent location so that she wouldn't need me to take her for groceries any more (and so that she could possibly find some opportunities to socialize -- she currently has no friends). This would allow me to move...

Solving my family problems Well they have let me live with them for next-to-nothing (I've often offered to make a bigger financial contribution to their household, only to be turned down flat every time). And since most of the money is what I inherited from my grandparents rather than what I...