How to Get Rid of Unexpected Guests - Tips & Advice

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Discussion Overview

The discussion revolves around strategies and experiences related to dealing with unexpected guests who overstay their welcome. Participants share personal anecdotes, humorous suggestions, and varying cultural perspectives on hospitality and social obligations.

Discussion Character

  • Exploratory
  • Debate/contested
  • Conceptual clarification

Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express frustration with guests who arrive unannounced and linger for extended periods, sharing personal experiences of discomfort.
  • Humorous suggestions include using duct tape as a playful threat to deter unwanted guests.
  • One participant recounts a humorous incident involving a friend and a movie night that led to a less frequent visit from an unwanted guest.
  • Several participants propose offering sleep-inducing drinks like cocoa as a subtle hint for guests to leave.
  • There are discussions about the cultural differences in obligations to entertain guests, with some suggesting that it's acceptable to ignore or leave the presence of an unwanted guest.
  • Some participants suggest being more direct in communicating discomfort, including making excuses related to personal health or fatigue.
  • There are playful exchanges about using romantic advances as a tactic to encourage guests to leave, with varying opinions on the appropriateness of this approach.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants do not reach a consensus on the best approach to handle unexpected guests. Various strategies are proposed, but there is no agreement on a single effective method. The discussion reflects a mix of humor, frustration, and cultural perspectives.

Contextual Notes

Some suggestions rely on assumptions about guests' awareness of social cues, and there are unresolved questions about the effectiveness of different strategies in various contexts.

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What do you think of people who come to you unexpectedly and stay for too long hours? Any idea about how to get ride of them?

I like to have guests :rolleyes: but you know some people just come to your home in a wrong hour for example when you're too busy or you're tired...
The worst thing about them is that they say goodby to you more than 1000 times but they never leave! :cry: :cry:
 
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Finally she left! o:) o:) o:)
 
well thsi is probably too immature but i had a problem with some guy who was constantly coming over when i was in high school. One night, he came over when this other friend of mine was over. So we all started to watch the matrix so me and my friend tried something. She sat up next to me while he was on the floor ors omething and told me to grab some duct tape that was nearby... and then we pounced! We didn't get him but he never came around much after that :D Woohoo!
 
Lisa! said:
Finally she left! o:) o:) o:)


Well I could have catalyzed the process. Next time invite me over and tell her we are here for the French connection - a la - menaja twa

I'll drop the usual 'Hubba Hubba' and you can start timing how fast it will take her to get out
 
cronxeh said:
Well I could have catalyzed the process. Next time invite me over and tell her we are here for the French connection - a la - menaja twa

I'll drop the usual 'Hubba Hubba' and you can start timing how fast it will take her to get out
She was my mother's guest! You know my friends know me quite well, they always call me first if they want to meet me.
And there's a problem about your suggestion:
I know if my friend just see you(no need to tell lies about french connection...), they will leave me immediately(and perhaps never talk to me again), but I don't know how to make you leave after all! :rolleyes: :wink:
 
Lisa! said:
She was my mother's guest!
We Canuks are under no obligation to entertain another person's guest, unless it's a seldom-seen relative. I'd just go about my business or leave for quieter pastures. I don't know how it is in your culture, though.

Lisa! said:
I know if my friend just see you(no need to tell lies about french connection...)
He wasn't lying; it's just wishful thinking. There seem to be some residual delusions from the sleep-deprivation.

Lisa! said:
I don't know how to make you leave after all! :rolleyes: :wink:
A good blast of Raid should do it.
 
Danger said:
We Canuks are under no obligation to entertain another person's guest, unless it's a seldom-seen relative. I'd just go about my business or leave for quieter pastures. I don't know how it is in your culture, though.
:bugeye: :bugeye: I even didn't talk to her. I was in my own room. Having a person in your home in a wrong hour could be abit distracting. The only problem was that I had to see her whenever I wanted to quit my room! So I asked my Mum to visit her guests in another room!
 
Sounds like my suggestion may be more appropriate eh lisa? :)
 
  • #10
Pengwuino said:
Sounds like my suggestion may be more appropriate eh lisa? :)
Unfortunately it doesn't work for some people!
 
  • #11
Oh come on, who doesn't fear the duct tape attack
 
  • #12
Pengwuino said:
Oh come on, who doesn't fear the duct tape attack
People who thinks you're kidding! :bugeye:
 
  • #13
Then don't be kidding ;) hehehe
 
  • #14
Do you think it works then? Anyway I think they still wouldn't believe I'm not joking. Sometimes I look at some people's eye and tell them how much I'm tired of talking to them and how much I dislike meeting them. And they think I'm joking! :bugeye:
 
  • #15
Pfff, do it then! I am like that too... especially because i can't keep a straight face no matter what I am talken about. Everything makes me laugh.

Wait, how old are you and how old are these people that need to be shown the door? :D
 
  • #16
I'm almost 23. And they're in different ages less than 30 of course! :wink:

I'm serious when I say that but they can't believe my honesty!
 
  • #17
Welll my plan is too immature for you anyhow :D
 
  • #18
You could ask guests who overstay their welcome if they would like a cup of cocoa/chocolate. Since this is sleep-inducing, they ought to get the hint and leave.
 
  • #19
arildno said:
You could ask guests who overstay their welcome if they would like a cup of cocoa/chocolate. Since this is sleep-inducing, they ought to get the hint and leave.

Unless of course your like my friend who takes the hint and takes a nap on your couch! EVERYTIME! Oh my god my friend was sooooooo annoying. It almost became a habbit that i'd come home from class... sit down, start doing something online and then he'd come over, we'd joke for a few minutes, and then he'd fall asleep on my couch... it practically was clockwork.
 
  • #20
Pengwuino said:
Unless of course your like my friend who takes the hint and takes a nap on your couch! EVERYTIME! Oh my god my friend was sooooooo annoying. It almost became a habbit that i'd come home from class... sit down, start doing something online and then he'd come over, we'd joke for a few minutes, and then he'd fall asleep on my couch... it practically was clockwork.
If he's straight, make advances on him. Then he'll get really fast out of your apartment.
Of course, if you're straight and he's gay, it can get rather embarassing..
 
  • #21
arildno said:
You could ask guests who overstay their welcome if they would like a cup of cocoa/chocolate. Since this is sleep-inducing, they ought to get the hint and leave.
There is 2 problems:
1. what if it's early morning?
2.If they were able to get a hint, how they would overstay since I always show them I'm really tired of them in different ways!
 
  • #22
arildno said:
If he's straight, make advances on him. Then he'll get really fast out of your apartment.
Of course, if you're straight and he's gay, it can get rather embarassing..

naa, i got rid of him... read my previous posts :P
 
  • #23
Lisa! said:
There is 2 problems:
1. what if it's early morning?
2.If they were able to get a hint, how they would overstay since I always show them I'm really tired of them in different ways!

I still think you should do my immature plan :D
 
  • #24
Lisa! said:
There is 2 problems:
1. what if it's early morning?
2.If they were able to get a hint, how they would overstay since I always show them I'm really tired of them in different ways!
Ok, if subtle signs don't work, become rather more blunt:

"I'm sorry, but I was a bit late up last night, and I've got this head-ache . It was very nice seeing you, but I really need to rest a bit for myself"
Or something like that..

By inventing some credible excuse to personal physical weakness, you are being polite in not telling them that they have not behaved inappropriately.

If they still don't get it, you are perfectly entitled to tell them that they have overstayed their welcome, and that you want them out of your house.
 
  • #25
arildno said:
If he's straight, make advances on him. Then he'll get really fast out of your apartment.
Of course, if you're straight and he's gay, it can get rather embarassing..
I've got a friend who has a friend who comes over all the time, to the point his neighbour assumed he was his boyfriend :smile: that's a subtle clue to start hanging out less.
 
  • #26
arildno said:
If he's straight, make advances on him. Then he'll get really fast out of your apartment.
Of course, if you're straight and he's gay, it can get rather embarassing..
And if he comes again and again, he should introduce him to you!
 
  • #27
arildno said:
Ok, if subtle signs don't work, become rather more blunt:

"I'm sorry, but I was a bit late up last night, and I've got this head-ache . It was very nice seeing you, but I really need to rest a bit for myself"
Or something like that.

haha more like...

"I'm sorry, but I was up a bit late last night, and you're a headache"
 
  • #28
Pengwuino said:
haha more like...

"I'm sorry, but I was up a bit late last night, and you're a headache"
:smile:
To actually say that, is the next stage..
 
  • #29
arildno said:
Ok, if subtle signs don't work, become rather more blunt:

"I'm sorry, but I was a bit late up last night, and I've got this head-ache . It was very nice seeing you, but I really need to rest a bit for myself"
Or something like that..

By inventing some credible excuse to personal physical weakness, you are being polite in not telling them that they have not behaved inappropriately.

If they still don't get it, you are perfectly entitled to tell them that they have overstayed their welcome, and that you want them out of your house.
And if s/he was your boss or one of his family members?
 
  • #30
Lisa! said:
And if s/he was your boss or one of his family members?
Prepare it very slowly...
Perhaps you should offer some sandwiches, go into the kitchen and accidentally cut yourself or something.
 

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