A few comments in lieu of a comprehensive explanation...
If you have read about general relativity, you may be aware that the curvature of space is described by the metric, and the metric is described by a tensor field.
In quantum field theory, particles (like the graviton) are associated with fields; they arise by applying the laws of quantum mechanics, such as the uncertainty principle, to the field.
The original way to get a quantum theory of gravitons, as pioneered e.g. by Feynman, is as follows: You take the dynamical metrical field of general relativity. You express it as a deviation from the constant metric of flat space (Minkowski space). Then you treat this deviation itself as the graviton field.
From this perspective, the graviton is a quantized deviation from flat space.
You mention 11 dimensions and string theory. Well, before we get to string theory, let's talk about 11 dimensions. The original 11-dimensional theory was the 11-dimensional form of "supergravity" (which can also be defined for a lower number of dimensions). In supergravity, you have an 11-dimensional metric, an extra "3-form" field that is a generalized version of the electromagnetic field, and then a "gravitino" field which is a matter (fermion) field. So at the quantum level, you have the 11-dimensional graviton (which can be defined in the way I mentioned above), an 11-dimensional photon-like gauge boson, and an 11-dimensional fermion.
If you were trying to get the real world out of 11-dimensional supergravity, you would probably treat 7 of the dimensions as "compact" or "closed", with a radius much less than that of an atomic nucleus. Fundamentally, you still only have the graviton, the 3-form field, and the gravitino. However, the way that e.g. the graviton manifests itself depends on whether it's traveling in one of the extra, compact, closed directions, or whether it's traveling in one of the 3 "large" directions of space. Gravitons traveling in the large directions show up as gravity in 3 dimensions, while gravitons circulating in the compact directions can show up as other forces. This was part of the agenda of pre-string "Kaluza-Klein" unification efforts - the other forces would be explained as resulting from higher-dimensional gravity. (That idea goes back to about 1921.)
In M-theory, along with the fields I've described, you have "M-branes" (of 2 and 5 dimensions) which interact with the graviton, the 3-form, and the gravitino fields. A string is really an M2-brane with one of its internal directions wrapped around the compact dimensions. Anyway, these complexities aside, if we go right back to where we started, the key point is that quantum fields have particles, whose presence indicates a deviation from the ground state of the field, and the graviton is the particle of the metric field, indicating a deviation from flat space.