Internecine Relationships

chaoseverlasting

Bad break up anyone?

chaoseverlasting

I just broke up with a girl I was seeing for almost a year and a half. Anyone have useful break up strategies? It's been a civil but heart wrenching break up and I'm a little bit in the dumps. I know this'll pass, but until it does, how do you guys deal with break ups?

lisab

Sorry to hear it, chaos.

So, spend more time with your friends or family. Got any little kids around, like nieces or nephews? Take them to the park, or something fun.

Movies are a good way to escape reality now and then. Also, exercise...that's my biggie, helps with stress management and helps keep depression from getting a foothold.

Go somewhere new, it helps to get away, even for an afternoon.

Don't make any big decisions until you're feeling better. Like, don't go join the Peace Corps (or some equivalent) .

DanP

Time heals everything. Meanwhile, sports ! Lift some iron, hit the heavy bag, run .. whatever floats your boat. There is nothing like strong physical effort to evict anxiety and depression from your system.
There is a general up-regulation of most functions in the body, and it will have pretty fast effects on your "mood". And btw, you have to give it a chance, not decide after 2 practice sessions that sports are not for you. It aint magic, takes time to feel the effects, but they do come.

And keep open socially. You never know when someone will appear and a single look at her will erase whatever pain you felt and make you feel whole again .

chaoseverlasting

Yeah, I used to lift weights, but dont have the time for it anymore. I've started wall climbing once or twice a week. Right now, I have exams though; that pretty much means that I'm sitting by myself in a room hitting the books. Not the best way out.

Lisab, :D I dont think I'll ever join the peace corps, but yeah, I'm just trying to keep my head straight atm. Its been a couple of weeks, I just thought I'd be over this already!

Evo

Last time I had a big breakup I bought a bunch of great books and read up a storm. Getting lost in the books was a great way to take my mind off of things.

I'm sorry you're going through this. Nothing worse than a breakup.

wasteofo2

Moving on, ie new chicks.

Seriously, the more time alone without any new female companionship, the more your long-term relationship blows up in your mind and consumes it. You will be amazed how quickly your mind and heart can move on, if only you allow them to by finding someone new.

i_wish_i_was_smart

Does having someone die on you count as a bad break up?