12 step program for "CATS syndrome" Although I'm not a cat lover, myself, being a cat lover is a problem that can affect the whole family. Even the family members of cat lovers can find benefit from a 12 step program. My problem is step 6. It scares me. When I'm getting the cat's food, it tries to remove my defects by dashing in front of me as I'm walking down the stairs. He's trying to kill me! I recently agreed to babysit my sister's dog - for about 2 years! I also wound up taking in my daughter's cat. This would seem to violate one of the important don't s: namely, don't be a doormat. However, I'd already had thoughts of getting a second dog, but always quickly dismissed them as insane. So, in this case, my sister's problem actually gave me an excuse to do something I'd wanted to do, anyway. I have to admit I didn't want to take in the cat. My only excuse is that my daughter's pregnant and it's not good for her to change the cat litter. Plus, I once cosigned on a loan for her so she could get her cat a $900 operation to save his life and wound stuck with the entire bill myself (Oh, God, I've so violated one of the key don't s). Plus, I kind of like the cat a little, but I think it has more to do with seeing the cat walking around my daughter's apartment and saying, "There's my $900" so many times that I've just started to confuse myself into thinking I like the cat. I aslo have to admit I may not have been totally successful in completing step 5. Considering the cat is already trying to kill me, I'm afraid to admit my feelings about this situation to the cat. Worse yet, the dogs get along great. Unfortunately, so well that they played tug of war with one of the cat toys my daughter entrusted me with and wound up ripping it to shreds. I think that violates step 4. I'm totally at wits end and need help! This entire situation has completely shaken my faith in the cat. Doesn't it realize that it can't open the food containers on its own?! How is it going to eat once it kills me?!