Classmate who smells awkward moment

[Femme_physics]

Ask in a non crazy way and I would be honest.

LOL! It's just my personality.

But I actually do make sure to put deodorant, perfume and not wear something I wore without washing it. Plus, I'm a girl, so I naturally smell good anyway.

 

[I like Serena]

I told him today. Yes, I also told him that I like him but that I smelled a bad smell at tuesday's class that I thought was coming from him and that's why I moved. It was kinda awkward and embarrassing, he was unsure what to say, got a bit defensive and told me he's always putting on the deodorant. I wasn't really sure what to say back. "I'm not sure what it was, I just had to move." I said. Though, I'm sure it was him and he's in denial. He did say eventually "I appreciate your honesty."

Suffice to say, it was a really short and awkward conversation and I didn't sit next to him that day or spoke to him that day. Damn it. But, it had to happened I guess...


(Funny thing though, someone moved away from ME at the break! I immediately went up to him and went "what the hell? do I smell bad?" and then I sniffed my armpits lol. He was like "god forbid of course not! There's just too much chattering in that area"...)

I think it's a good thing that you approached him about it.
Apparently he didn't know yet and he really should know.
Also, I believe it's important to not just tell him and walk away, but to give him a chance to digest it, and by taking the time to listen to him and talk about it, you also show you care, and that you don't reject him as a person.

Sounds like you did right!

[edit]Just keep the chattering down will you? [/edit]

 

[Borek]

Sounds like you did right!

We won't know without smelling a guy next month.

 

[Femme_physics]

I think it's a good thing that you approached him about it.
Apparently he didn't know yet and he really should know.
Also, I believe it's important to not just tell him and walk away, but to give him a chance to digest it, and by taking the time to listen to him and talk about it, you also show you care, and that you don't reject him as a person.

Sounds like you did right!

[edit]Just keep the chattering down will you? [/edit]

Thanks Serena! :) I really appreciate your feedback.

 

[I like Serena]

We won't know without smelling a guy next month.

@FP: will you let us know if he smells like roses next time?

 

[Femme_physics]

LOL I feel kinda embarrassed to sit next to him now, and I'm still slightly worried he might smell tbh :P

 

[Borek]

You don't have to sit down, you can sniff him just walking around. Dogs do it all the time.

 

[I like Serena]

LOL I feel kinda embarrassed to sit next to him now, and I'm still slightly worried he might smell tbh :P

It would be nicest if he came up to you, saying he's worried that he smells, and asking you if he does (he might smell like roses :shy:).

 

[Femme_physics]

LOL! Unlikely. I'm pretty sure I've burned a bridge for life. Oh well.

Oh, and trust me, he's not the only guy who deserves a notice about it in my class. I'll just make sure to stick next to ones who either smell good or don't smell. Made me appreciate my perfumes all the more.

 

[I like Serena]

I've worked in an office once for half a year.
When I came there we were taken along to the mess.
On the way, the guy who took us, took us just for fun through a wing of the building that really stank of some perfume. Apparently a woman worked there that used way to much perfume, and not a particularly nice one either.
He explained that she'd been working there for over half a year, and that apparently no one ever told her that she used way too much perfume!

Either way, I was not so brave as to walk up to her and tell her, but during the half year that I worked there, I never went into that wing again! However, we could smell, even passing that wing by, that she still worked there!

 

[Femme_physics]

Well, if you'd gotten to know her a bit would you have told her?

 

[I like Serena]

Well, if you'd gotten to know her a bit would you have told her?

I'd like to think that I would have.
I guess it would depend on my impression of her, that is, how open she'd be to listen to anyone.
I suspect she wasn't open at all for such things, because I can't imagine that no one was ever willing to tell her.

[edit]Actually, I knew someone at college as well that really stank. But this was a guy that grew a large unkempt beard and who had dirty hair. It never seemed worthwhile to tell him that he stank, since he obviously didn't care how he looked or smelled. Now if I would have been a pretty woman, I might have had more impact ;).[/edit]

 

[HeLiXe]

LOL I feel kinda embarrassed to sit next to him now, and I'm still slightly worried he might smell tbh :P