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Noodl
Hello all. I wanted some opinions as I'm feeling really bad now. I recently had a fight with my college roommate (yes, at like 3-4 in the morning). What happens is that I was trying to sleep since around midnight but he was playing video games with the volume up. I asked him three times to turn it down. The first time at around half past midnight; then at around 1:30am; and finally at like 2 in the morning. He turned the volume down the first two times but it was still loud to me as I was trying to sleep. And I think he just ignored me the third time. So at 4 in the morning when he finally got tired and turned it off to go to bed, I was not feeling like sleeping anymore (I had been trying to do that for almost 3 - 4 hours). I woke up and turned my music on to study. I know that was a very immature move and I know it was wrong of me but I was very mad. He asked me to use my headphones but I said NO. I asked him, "why should I respect your sleep if you don't respect mine?." It seems that that really pissed him off so he woke up and started yelling at me as if I was his mother or something. He said why I waited until this time in the semester at 4 in the morning to bring up my issue and he kept repeating the same thing many times just with different words. I told him that I usually don't care if he is loud in the mornings and that I just want him to be quite at nights because I need to sleep (I know it was my fault for not bringing that up earlier but I was just very mad). He started bringing up many things that I know I have done and that were wrong and I apologized for that. But what really made me feel bad was when he said that I was not a normal college student for having random sleeping hours and for not "talking to the people in my hall." To be honest, I am a transfer student and a junior. Most people (if not all) here at freshmen that seem to not care about anything and well, I like to hang out with people that share the same interests as me. He said that I was not normal for not socializing with them. He also said that it is a normal thing for college students to play video games until late at night and to make a lot of noise in the morning/evening--noise as in being very loud with their music. I'm going to quote him on this. He said, "I do it because I want my friends across the hall to know what I am listening to." I already mentioned that he said I was weird because of my random sleeping hours, so I told him, please understand I am a physics major and I have a lot of homework besides the work I have to do with a professor I'm working with. He said that he has friends that are physics majors and that are not like me. That his physics major friends do what he does at night (like playing video games and stuff like that). Now I feel very bad and like a weirdo (even though I am in college). At the end, I feel that it has been my fault all along ...