regarding the observational signs of a merging cluster;
Generally you will see multiple peaks in x-ray images (where one peak is the main cluster core and the others are merging groups or sub-clusters). There may be "cold fronts" which are believed to be the remaining cool core from a merged sub-cluster or group (although this is not set in concrete, as some cold fronts are clearly not due to mergers). Keep in mind these "cold fronts" are only cold relative to the main cluster gas, they are still around 10 million degrees or so!
In the optical, you may see multiple concentrations of galaxies. There will more than likely be a bi-modal velocity dispersion.
All clusters that exhibit strong radio haloes are thought to be merging clusters (a radio halo is extended radio emission in a cluster, usually extending to about 1Mpc in diameter). However a merging cluster does not necessarily guarantee excess radio activity (due to agn or star formation) in the cluster galaxies.
Regarding galaxy collisions in mergers;
Not many! It is like when 2 galaxies merge, there are basically no collisions between the stars. Due to the size of a galaxy compared to the space between the galaxies in a cluster, not many galaxy-galaxy mergers occur. Also the velocity dispersion in clusters is large, so the probability of galaxies merging is low. However galaxies in cluster interact via tidal interactions, galaxy harassment and ram pressure stripping (interaction with cluster gas).
Oh and you are not seeing tidal tails in the simulation, they are weak shock fronts propagating through the intracluster cluster medium (the hot gas in permeating clusters). These are indeed a sign of a merger, however they are generally weak and not so prominant in x-ray images. Sound speedsd in the ICM are generally around 500km/s, infalling clusters generally have velocities of this order or a little more, hence the shock front.
Clusters pretty much continuously acrete matter in the form of gas, galaxies, groups of galaxies and via cluster-cluster mergers. However the cluster-cluster mergers are generally less frequent.
hope that helps! any more questions, feel free to ask!
matt.