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You're a good mother.
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What did you have for supper tonight?
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Evo
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That's what everyone says.cookiemonster said:
I just don't believe in trying to control every moment of their lives. I think it is better to guide your child into making sensible decisions and letting them suffer the minor consequences of bad decisions rather than dictate their every move.
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They have that new trading mothers show! Wanna be somebody else's mother for a day? I got the perfect candidate...
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Evo
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cookiemonster said:
I'd have a lynch mob after me. My condolences to your girlfriend. Funny, looking at my kid's friends, the wildest, most rebelious have the most controlling parents and it's because the parents are so controlling.
Oh well, if you break up with your girlfriend, let me know.
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Ah, well, they're kinda in for a surprise when she goes off to college...
And I think I've been a bad influence on her, so.
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And I think I've been a bad influence on her, so.
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Evo said:
Funny, looking at my kid's friends, the wildest, most rebelious have the most controlling parents and it's because the parents are so controlling.
Oh well, if you break up with your girlfriend, let me know.
Oh, I agree about controlling parents leading to rebellious children! They don't learn to make their own decisions because their parents make all of them for them, so the moment they are out of their parents' house, they make a LOT of bad decisions! I think it's much better to let your kids make bad decisions when they are younger so they can learn from their mistakes when a bad decision is still fairly minor compared to when they are older and bad decisions can be life altering.
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Exactly! You said it so much better than me. I see this all the time. The poor kid has never been allowed to make a decision, then suddenly they are away at college, have absolutely no experience, they have all of this pent up frustration of being controlled all of their lives and now they can do anything they want and they usually do. Sometimes with very bad results.Moonbear said:
Why is it some parents don't understand that they need to prepare their children for life instead of isolating them from it?
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Two words: "Living vicariously."
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I don't know how we have got to parenting but I feel Evo is right. Us children need to make the mistakes first as youngsters. I haven't made too many large ones because my dad would pound it into my head it was wrong before I get anywhere near the situation so I was prepared for things I didn't know about. Amazing really.
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P.S. When I say pounding I don't mean hit. I mean repetition.
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P.S. When I say pounding I don't mean hit. I mean repetition.
holly
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Hmph. All this freedom for tots! Never! I watch mine like a HAWK. Oh, he howls about it, threatens to go totally wild at college, blah blah blah. I've got him in a school where you can't date until after graduation (cookiemonster, you're MUCH too young, honey, to be dating and, er, other things), too. Plus a strictness of mind is practiced. I know where he is every minute. Can't run with guys who are wild. etc etc All this wonderful, astute mothering, and the kid says he hates me.
note to self: stop typing with eyes shut
note to self: stop typing with eyes shut
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I graduated.
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holly said:
Over-protective? And what is wrong with young dating??
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