Is Morin not putting the cart before the horse here (sorry for the pun)?
PeroK said:
There is an simple example that demonstrates why F = dp/dt doesn’t work when p refers only to the
cart. Choose F = 0, so that the cart moves with constant speed v. Cut the cart in half, and label
the back part as the “leaked sand” and the front part as the “cart.” If you want the cart’s p to have
dp/dt = F = 0, then the cart’s speed must double if its mass gets cut in half. But this is nonsense.
Both halves simply continue to move at the same rate.
What I mean is: if you
define ##\vec F = \dot{m} \vec v + m \dot{\vec v}##, then ##\vec F = \vec 0## gives ##\dot{m} \vec v = - m \dot{\vec v}## (and not necessarily ##\dot{\vec v} = \vec 0##); likewise, ##\dot{\vec v} = \vec 0## gives ##\vec F = \dot{m} \vec v## (and not necessarily ## \vec F = \vec 0 ##).
So with that definition, you can't "choose" ## \vec F = \vec 0 ## and ## \dot{ \vec v } = \vec 0 ## for a (moving) object whose mass changes. The sum ## \dot{m} \vec v + m \dot{\vec v} ## is simply what it is.
I still don't see why it would be impossible to define Newtonian force as ## \dot{\vec p} ##. If one did, it would of course be useful to also have a word just for the ##m \vec a## part. Nothing would change about how one goes about solving problems. You'd just have some different terminology and symbols.
Anyway, I'm really not trying to advocate for anything. My main point is just that the "discrepancy" between the Newtonian ##\vec F = m \vec a## and the relativistic ## \vec F = \dot{ \vec p } ## adds some subtlety to the OP's question, which was: is relativistic three-force just the Newtonian force?
I suppose one could define the relativistic three-force as ##\vec F = m \dot{ \vec w } ##, with ## \vec w = \gamma \vec v ##. But in SR, an additional argument in favor of ## \vec F = \dot{ \vec p } ## is that the four-force ## \frac{d \vec P}{d \tau} = \frac{d m}{d \tau} \vec V + \frac{d \vec V}{d \tau} m ##
requires the varying-mass term in order for its magnitude to be Lorentz-invariant (i.e., ## \frac{d \vec V}{d \tau} m ## by itself is not generally a four-vector). And the three-vector ## \gamma \dot{ \vec p } ## is the spatial component of that four-vector.