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Surrealist
May26-07, 05:40 PM
Due to recent personal matters that have caused me upsetting emotions, I have been feeling so much anxiety lately. Sometimes it is difficult for me to focus on my research. Sometimes I just feel so depressed and/or upset, I find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning. Sometimes when I am trying to type up a report on my computer, I just can't get myself started. I feel so nervous all the time.
One of the main reasons people start smoking is to relieve stress. Maybe if I started smoking, I wouldn't feel so nervous anymore. The trade-off is that I would reduce my life expectancy and increase my chances of developing health problems. But, I feel so desperate to end my anxiety.
Poop-Loops
May26-07, 05:50 PM
One of the reasons people start smoking is to look cool. Any addiction just causes more stress and anxiety. I can't see how smoking would make it any better.
Have problems in life? I'd talk to a therapist. They work wonders. Much better than getting addicted to something.
You have some odd posts my friend. One on thin girls, another on cheating with a robot, now one on smoking.......u need to see someone professional.
Surrealist, don't even ****ing think about it! Nicotine is the second most addictive substance on the planet, next to cocaine. No hazards were known about it when I started. Now I'm dying of emphysema, and still can't quit. (Chill, friends... I intend to prolong that dying for a few decades.) Buy yourself some surf-sound CD's and leave the cancer sticks behind.
Surrealist
May26-07, 06:13 PM
You have some odd posts my friend. One on thin girls, another on cheating with a robot, now one on smoking.......u need to see someone professional.
Some of my posts are meant to be humorous... humor momentarily kills the depression and anxiety... but thanks for your vote of confidence.
Anyway, I did see a professional therapists... and it was worthless... and eventually I was told that I was cured and I should go away... I'm guessing "being cured" is more influenced by insurance companies than anything else.
Seriously though... has anyone here ever been to a professional therapist. All they do is talk out of their *** and verify the fact that when rich kids grow up and get Ivy League educations, they cannot possibly understand the problems of people who really have problems.
Why cant you get out of bed?
You seem to be suffering from severe stress and depression. You should see a doctor, they might be able to help.
DO NOT START SMOKING!! That's only going to make things worse.
Due to recent personal matters that have caused me upsetting emotions, I have been feeling so much anxiety lately. Sometimes it is difficult for me to focus on my research. Sometimes I just feel so depressed and/or upset, I find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning. Sometimes when I am trying to type up a report on my computer, I just can't get myself started. I feel so nervous all the time.
One of the main reasons people start smoking is to relieve stress. Maybe if I started smoking, I wouldn't feel so nervous anymore. The trade-off is that I would reduce my life expectancy and increase my chances of developing health problems. But, I feel so desperate to end my anxiety.
Should you start smoking? Only if you want to die, I suppose. Trust me when I say that smoking is one of the most self-destructive and idiotic things that anyone could choose to do. I have a cousin who started smoking a few years ago. He always says he's going to quit, and then doesn't follow through. It's amazing to see how he'll always avoid the issue, say that he'll quit "later," and basically do whatever it takes to get another cigarette in his mouth. Not to mention that he always smells terrible.
I don't actually sanction this, but if you absolutely must use drugs to make yourself feel better, then alcohol and marijuana would be better choices (obviously not together, since that'll kill you). Neither drug has nearly the same long-term deleterious effect as cigarettes, and they are both far easier to quit. I guess what I'm saying is: don't develop chemical dependancies, but if you do...
Seriously though... has anyone here ever been to a professional therapist. All they do is talk out of their *** and verify the fact that when rich kids grow up and get Ivy League educations, they cannot possibly understand the problems of people who really have problems.
How did you "find" your therapist? I would suggest (if this isn't what you've already done) going to your doctor and asking for a referral to a therapist-- he will be able to point you in the direction of the "better" therapists. I assure you that not all therapists are the same, however it should be understood that not every therapist works for every person (due to clash of personalities, or techniques that just do not work for you) so I would advise not to give up due to one bad experience.
I've never been to a therapist myself, but someone very close to me has for quite a while, and thus I might be able to say something constructive. Therapy is very difficult, in the sense that one has to open up and tell things to a complete stranger, and is a very time-consuming experience. You cannot expect to go and see someone once a week for a month and be fine, as there is generally no quick solution to depression. The sessions may start by simply having a chat about one's day, but will progress to talking openly about things that one may never have mentioned to anyone, even their closest friends. However, I know that it is very rewarding when one realises that one no longer needs to go and talk, and that things have gotten better.
The most important thing is to not give up, and to remember that you can start to feel better and get your life back on track. Oh and, definitely, don't start smoking!!
Good luck!
larkspur
May26-07, 06:35 PM
Give up caffeine or exercise until you drop but don't start smoking!
Surrealist
May26-07, 07:47 PM
Why cant you get out of bed?
Lately, I have been having difficulty getting out of bed in the morning because when I'm asleep I can escape my anxiety. Every morning I have to tell myself that I just need to find the strength to keep functioning... and if I can just do that long enough maybe things will get better.
Surrealist
May26-07, 07:49 PM
Give up caffeine or exercise until you drop but don't start smoking!
Yeah, that's a good idea. I have been trying to drink decaf lately because I've noticed that too much caffeine only intensifies the anxiety. I tried exercising a few months ago... it seemed to help, but I don't always feel like doing it. Actually, I never feel like doing it... but no one ever said life is easy.
Surrealist
May26-07, 07:51 PM
I wish I could go to church... but I don't believe in Jesus... just God. Sometimes at night, I pray for things to get better... I don't know if it really helps.
I wish I could go to church... but I don't believe in Jesus... just God. Sometimes at night, I pray for things to get better... I don't know if it really helps.
stay away from chuch, unless you want to be brain washed into thinking Jesus will cure your depression!
I don't actually sanction this, but if you absolutely must use drugs to make yourself feel better, then alcohol and marijuana would be better choices (obviously not together, since that'll kill you). Neither drug has nearly the same long-term deleterious effect as cigarettes, and they are both far easier to quit. I guess what I'm saying is: don't develop chemical dependancies, but if you do...
Are you for real? :confused: ALCOHOL is easy to quit??
stay away from chuch, unless you want to be brain washed into thinking Jesus will cure your depression!
So what if one thinks Jesus will cure his depression? As long as it works, it's ok.
I have monumental anxiety constantly due to a particular condition I have but I would never trade thatfor smoking. There are ways to learn to deal with anxiety and its a lot easier thn developing a habit. If anxiety is a problem you can't face on your own then your doctor can offer lots of help in the form of leaflets and then recommendations to councellors.
Surrealist
May26-07, 08:40 PM
I have monumental anxiety constantly due to a particular condition I have but I would never trade thatfor smoking. There are ways to learn to deal with anxiety and its a lot easier thn developing a habit. If anxiety is a problem you can't face on your own then your doctor can offer lots of help in the form of leaflets and then recommendations to councellors.
I am sorry to hear about your monumental anxiety. My anxiety and depression has been induced by a particular loss that happened in my life about six months ago. I am just trying to come to grips with reality so I can move on.
Surrealist
May26-07, 08:41 PM
If anyone happens to have an underground Fight Club going on... let me know... that is exactly the kind of thing that could help me right now.
I am sorry to hear about your monumental anxiety. My anxiety and depression has been induced by a particular loss that happened in my life about six months ago. I am just trying to come to grips with reality so I can move on.
Then I would recommend talking to a medical professional they can be very helpful. I know a lot of people think there is a stigma attached to that kind of thing but that really shouldn't apply. Seriously consider that first.
dontdisturbmycircles
May26-07, 08:49 PM
Hi Surrealist. If you were to start smoking in my opinion you would just be adding more stress to your life. Being addicted to nicotine in itself can be depressing...
Although I don't know very much about depression or anything, asking for a referal to a good therapist from your doctor as cristo suggested sounds like a good idea. If you don't feel too geeky you can even read reviews on the internet for therapists/doctors/dentists. I actually had no idea such websites existed until I google'd my dentist's name and came upon one. So that may help you find a good therapist as well. Here is one to start you off:
http://ratemds.com/
Anyways, best of luck to you Surrealist. There is no shame in seeing a therapist, I hope you find a good one.
Crosson
May26-07, 08:59 PM
A multi-day hiking camping vacation is a great way to recharge your personal energy and start a new chapter in life.
Ciggarettes are no good, they just taste like death to me. Alcohol is good if you are not a habit forming person (be warned, alcoholic = 1 drink per month, so quit clean when your done).
Are you for real? :confused: ALCOHOL is easy to quit??
Sorry, I should clarify my earlier statement. I absolutely do not mean to say that alcohol is easy to quit. In fact I'm well aware of its addictive properties in some individuals. What I am saying is that on a relative scale, alcohol is easier to quit than cigarettes. Millions of people regularly drink alcohol and are not addicted to it. But can anyone here name even one single regular smoker who is not addicted to cigarettes? Alcohol isn't specially designed by liquor companies to get you addicted. Cigarette companies, on the other hand, pour millions of dollars of research into designing highly addictive products. In that sense, cigarettes are far worse.
I want to be clear in saying that I DO NOT suggest he gets addicted to alcohol. At the same time, I am thinking realistically, and I know that he might have his heart set on curing his problems with mind-altering chemicals. If he absolutely must do this, I think most of us can agree that alcohol is a better choice than cigarettes.
stay away from chuch, unless you want to be brain washed into thinking Jesus will cure your depression!
Actually, whatever your religious beliefs may be, religion has the ability to abate depression. Religion puts the faithful in a community with like-minded individuals, and gives them a social support system. This can be especially helpful for depressed people. Of course, not all religions are equal in this regard. Hinduism, Buddhism, and various other "lone ranger" religions don't always require contact with others. If you're going to choose a religion for the sole purpose of curing depression, it might be a good idea to choose one that has a decently-sized community nearby.
So what if one thinks Jesus will cure his depression? As long as it works, it's ok.
No, its not ok. Just as taking up smoking is not ok. Its dangerous poison for his mind. Hes depressed. If he feels better, hes going to think it was because Jesus made him better, and thats exactly what those nuts at church want him to think. Reason goes out the window with these people.
I wish I could go to church... but I don't believe in Jesus... just God. Sometimes at night, I pray for things to get better... I don't know if it really helps.If you want to go to church find a non-christian one if that is more inline with what you believe.
Everyone goes through bad times. If you do not think you are strong enough to deal with it, get help. End of discussion.
If anyone happens to have an underground Fight Club going on... let me know... that is exactly the kind of thing that could help me right now.
Then take up boxing and beat some guys brains out, or vise versa.
(be warned, alcoholic = 1 drink per month, so quit clean when your done).
What? 1 drink, I dont think so. I drink more than 1 drink a month and I never get drunk. Who came up with that rule?
Chi Meson
May26-07, 09:55 PM
There have been several similar posts here over the past few years. My advice is always the same.
I was severely depressed during college. A combination of bad luck, bad advice, Scottish blood, and mono, put me in spiral that caused me to sleep through my 2:00 PM classes. No joke.
I had to see a professional MD psychiatrist for a year, I took antidepressants for a year, and now I am handling things fine. The most important thing that I must do is stay active. I think you realize this at some point (re: your mention of a "fight club") my choice is running. Back then I also started rock climbing, but it's running that has kept me going for the 20 years since then.
Don't smoke, it slows you down.
Surrealist
May26-07, 09:57 PM
Concerning alcohol... I had a bloody mary the other night to help take the edge off the evening. I don't want to drink too much though. I've known a few alcoholics in my lifetime. The thought of ending up like them scares the **** out of me.
Surrealist
May26-07, 10:03 PM
If you want to go to church find a non-christian one if that is more inline with what you believe.
Is there a Western religion that addresses the issue of God without getting developing a dependency on Jesus?
I tried the Buddhist thing when I was young... I just didn't feel a connection with it. It's from an Eastern culture. It has nothing to do with me.
I remember when I was very young, I went to the Catholic church. It seemed comforting as a child, but again, there is no sense in participating in Christianity if I don't want to be a Christian.
What would be really cool is a community in which to discuss philosophical and psychological issues as they pertain to everyday life without having to resort to a dependency on religious dogma. Maybe such a group would be called something like a philosophy club.
Surrealist
May26-07, 10:05 PM
... or maybe a metaphysically challenged support group....
If I had to choose a religion, it would probably be the Ainu
Otter
Why it is responsible for man's imperfect nature, and why you should be careful about eating its head
"The otter's head must not lightly be used as an article of food, for unless people are very careful they will, if they eat it, become as forgetful as that creature. And hence it happens that when an otter has been killed the people do not usually eat the head.
"But if they are seized with a very strong desire for a feast of otter's head, they may partake thereof, providing proper precautions are taken. When eating it the people must take their swords, knives, axes, bows and arrows, tobacco boxes and pipes, trays, cups, garden tools, and everything they possess, tie them up in bundles with carrying slings, and sit with them attached to their heads while in the act of eating ... If this method be carefully adhered to, there will be no danger of forgetting where a thing has been placed, otherwise loss of memory will be the result."
This is one you should look into, it will at least take your mind off of your problems.
http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/hokkaido/legends.html
Have you seen the moonwalking manakin bird?
Surrealist, you are prompting me to dump some **** that I don't usually publicize. I only hope that my public embarrassment can be of help to you. It's not really that much of a sacrifice, since the people here who know my true identity are friends that I would trust with my life.
For one thing, any idiot who wants to hang out a shingle can be a 'psychotherapist'; there's no regulation. Stay away from any new-age gurus or herbalists or aromatherapists or any of that bull****. Find a good psychiatrist (who, by definition, has to have an MD). If you absolutely have to, settle for a certified clinical psychologist. (But remember that Dr. Phil is one of those, and he's a total typical Texas bully-boy
****ing fruitcake.)
Church-wise, I would recommend Unitarian-Universalist. My old man was an agnostic, and also a preacher for that denomination. Other than an occassional prayer or hymn, they're pretty much just a community group like any social club. I'm a semi-militant atheist myself, but there is at least one member here that I admire intensely, who is a Unitarian. Perhaps s/he will approach you about it. It's the least religious religion on the planet. (My dad got religious education kicked out of the Ontario school system. :approve:)
By the definition of 'alcoholic' that I saw listed, I'm so far off of the chart that I should be in a lab somewhere. I have anywhere from 4 to 14 beers every day. Average is probably about 6. This being a weekend, and Saturday being 'take a beer to work' day, I had 3 for breakfast, 6 for my extended lunch, and am on the 4th or 5th since getting home. It's only a quarter to 9, so I'll have at least 4 more before hitting the sheets.
I am, incidentally, on Wellbutrin and Cilaxis, one each per day. They don't do much to curtail the drinking (in fact, they seem to increase it), but I was down to as few as 3 cigarettes a day for a while, and am now back up to about 2/3 pack. That's still better than the 2 packs that I was on before. Mainly, however, I for very good reason refer to them as my 'I don't want to kill anybody today' pills. If you're okay to start with, they can destroy your mind. Mine was destroyed to start with, and these suckers made life worth living again.
Smoking is like like investing in a suicidal savings account.
Good one, Ki. I haven't heard that before, but it's too true.
Huckleberry
May27-07, 01:34 AM
If you want to make the biggest mistake you've ever made, then go ahead and start smoking. Think about how much fun it will be spending the rest of your life trying to quit.
Pythagorean
May27-07, 01:37 AM
What? 1 drink, I dont think so. I drink more than 1 drink a month and I never get drunk. Who came up with that rule?
If you've been to AA then everything you ever do makes you an alcoholic.
They call people like you and me "maintenance alcoholics"
(I was forced to go to two AA meetings for a 'minor in possessoin' when I was younger, not for any drunken behavior or anything, I just like a beer everyone once in a while)
(I was forced to go to two AA meetings for a 'minor in possessoin' when I was younger
Did you look into fighting that? Technically, that's unconstitutional (at least here) because it's a religious organization. You can be forced into some sort of rehab, but that one shouldn't be allowed.
Okay, I'm going to turn in now. That 16th beer made me a tad drowsy. Later.
Pythagorean
May27-07, 02:09 AM
Did you look into fighting that? Technically, that's unconstitutional (at least here) because it's a religious organization. You can be forced into some sort of rehab, but that one shouldn't be allowed.
Okay, I'm going to turn in now. That 16th beer made me a tad drowsy. Later.
Well, Alaska started as a foregin trade zone, and alcohol been a problem here, forever so it me regulations get tacked on.
Consequences for that MIP:
lose license until 21
AA meetings and community service OR fines
SR-22 Insurance only
All that has been removed now, because it was declared unconstitutional, as you say, and there was a punishment must fit crime argument too, because a kid who drinks doesn't necessarily drink irresponsibly (besides the fact that he's underage, I suppose).
Pythagorean
May27-07, 02:11 AM
Oh yeah, and to the OP, definitely to NOT start smoking (cigarettes, crack, or meth)
No, its not ok. Just as taking up smoking is not ok. Its dangerous poison for his mind. Hes depressed. If he feels better, hes going to think it was because Jesus made him better, and thats exactly what those nuts at church want him to think. Reason goes out the window with these people.
You are *such* a stereotype, man.
JasonRox
May27-07, 01:00 PM
Surrealist, you are prompting me to dump some **** that I don't usually publicize. I only hope that my public embarrassment can be of help to you. It's not really that much of a sacrifice, since the people here who know my true identity are friends that I would trust with my life.
For one thing, any idiot who wants to hang out a shingle can be a 'psychotherapist'; there's no regulation. Stay away from any new-age gurus or herbalists or aromatherapists or any of that bull****. Find a good psychiatrist (who, by definition, has to have an MD). If you absolutely have to, settle for a certified clinical psychologist. (But remember that Dr. Phil is one of those, and he's a total typical Texas bully-boy
****ing fruitcake.)
Church-wise, I would recommend Unitarian-Universalist. My old man was an agnostic, and also a preacher for that denomination. Other than an occassional prayer or hymn, they're pretty much just a community group like any social club. I'm a semi-militant atheist myself, but there is at least one member here that I admire intensely, who is a Unitarian. Perhaps s/he will approach you about it. It's the least religious religion on the planet. (My dad got religious education kicked out of the Ontario school system. :approve:)
By the definition of 'alcoholic' that I saw listed, I'm so far off of the chart that I should be in a lab somewhere. I have anywhere from 4 to 14 beers every day. Average is probably about 6. This being a weekend, and Saturday being 'take a beer to work' day, I had 3 for breakfast, 6 for my extended lunch, and am on the 4th or 5th since getting home. It's only a quarter to 9, so I'll have at least 4 more before hitting the sheets.
I am, incidentally, on Wellbutrin and Cilaxis, one each per day. They don't do much to curtail the drinking (in fact, they seem to increase it), but I was down to as few as 3 cigarettes a day for a while, and am now back up to about 2/3 pack. That's still better than the 2 packs that I was on before. Mainly, however, I for very good reason refer to them as my 'I don't want to kill anybody today' pills. If you're okay to start with, they can destroy your mind. Mine was destroyed to start with, and these suckers made life worth living again.
My uncle used to drink like that. Have beer for break and all that jazz, and so on. His liver isn't working well or barely at all right now. Stop drinking? Well, drinking in the way that you are and my uncle, the body tends to forget how to live without alcohol. Either way with alcohol or no alcohol, you're body is slowly drifting away.
No offense, but you speak of it like it's a "tough" man thing. Personally, I see nothing tough about it. Maybe idiocy, but certainly not "tough".
If I were you, I would stop. (Smoking and drinking.) Not easy, well suck it up. Easier said than done? I don't give a **** and do it anyways period. You sit here telling the world how you're dieing away with these diseases and well doing nothing about it. With those kind of traits, people will have a hard time listening to you for advice. Not that many people want help from those who can barely help themselves.
A lady from work just told me she has chronic bronchitis (spelling?) right after she was diagnosed. She took it quite well... actually she didn't seem bothered by it. I was just outside of the doctors office, so I was the first person she told. She smoked for probably just as long as you Danger. Not 100% sure though, but she is 50 years old and has been smoking for about or atleast 30 years. Deadly illness just like you. She quit and so did my uncle. Why can't you?
larkspur
May27-07, 01:23 PM
Yeah, that's a good idea. I have been trying to drink decaf lately because I've noticed that too much caffeine only intensifies the anxiety. I tried exercising a few months ago... it seemed to help, but I don't always feel like doing it. Actually, I never feel like doing it... but no one ever said life is easy.
I never feel like exercising either but I find I sleep much more soundly when I do, so I make myself get out and do it. It is much easier to get motivated when I work out with a friend.
dontdisturbmycircles
May27-07, 01:43 PM
My uncle used to drink like that. Have beer for break and all that jazz, and so on. His liver isn't working well or barely at all right now. Stop drinking? Well, drinking in the way that you are and my uncle, the body tends to forget how to live without alcohol. Either way with alcohol or no alcohol, you're body is slowly drifting away.
No offense, but you speak of it like it's a "tough" man thing. Personally, I see nothing tough about it. Maybe idiocy, but certainly not "tough".
If I were you, I would stop. (Smoking and drinking.) Not easy, well suck it up. Easier said than done? I don't give a **** and do it anyways period. You sit here telling the world how you're dieing away with these diseases and well doing nothing about it. With those kind of traits, people will have a hard time listening to you for advice. Not that many people want help from those who can barely help themselves.
A lady from work just told me she has chronic bronchitis (spelling?) right after she was diagnosed. She took it quite well... actually she didn't seem bothered by it. I was just outside of the doctors office, so I was the first person she told. She smoked for probably just as long as you Danger. Not 100% sure though, but she is 50 years old and has been smoking for about or atleast 30 years. Deadly illness just like you. She quit and so did my uncle. Why can't you?
These are kinda harsh words for somebody who is trying to help someone out, aren't they? I don't think Danger is asking for sympathy, but is just trying to help out by sharing his story.
Surrealist you said you were looking for a 'fight club'... Why not join up for kick boxing / boxing / whatever lessons to get your mind off things?
humanino
May27-07, 02:06 PM
I would like to add a few things. As everybody also said, do not start smoking. That would certainly be one of the stupidest decision. It is however not true that one cannot quit. I have quit. I had been smoking for ten years, and a lot. Every time I think about it, I feel like I stepped out of slavery, and now the sky is brighter. Seriously :smile:
Get yourself busy, stay active as Chi Meson adviced you. Even if you do not like sport now, if you start doing it on a regular basis, little by little more everyday, you will see that after a few weeks you will not only like it, but you will miss it if you don't do it Get addicted to sport, it is good for your health :smile:
And of course a creative activity is excellent to set you in a good mood. Playing music, or painting, or poetry writing, very efficient to get outside all the feelings you want to express, be it anger, pain, or joy ! :smile:
honestrosewater
May27-07, 02:08 PM
What would be really cool is a community in which to discuss philosophical and psychological issues as they pertain to everyday life without having to resort to a dependency on religious dogma. Maybe such a group would be called something like a philosophy club.Talks to us. We gots problems.
Did you say that thinking about God helps you deal with loss? Are you looking for some kind of fairness or justice or a parental figure or something? I'm just curious. No pressure to answer. :smile: I am agnostic now, but I was raised a Christian. My dad wasn't around, actually, neither of my parents were really there for me, and that's one thing that I liked about God. He added some justice and caring to the world.
I just remembered that religious discussions are on thin ice around here, but as long as it sticks to how some religious ideas are helpful to you personally rather than diatribes on why one religion is obviously wrong and all of its followers are brainwashed idiots, I imagine it would be okay.
Oh, yeah: do not start smoking!!!!!!!!!!1111111 I quit ~1.5 years ago after smoking for ~10 years.
Poop-Loops
May27-07, 02:38 PM
Seriously though... has anyone here ever been to a professional therapist. All they do is talk out of their *** and verify the fact that when rich kids grow up and get Ivy League educations, they cannot possibly understand the problems of people who really have problems.
I have. I have depression and went to see one to get it sorted. It helped beyong belief. Just having someone to talk to who could understand was magnificant. If the one you went to sucked, find a new one.
Oh, yeah: do not start smoking!!!!!!!!!!1111111 I quit ~1.5 years ago after smoking for ~10 years.
Hey, congratulations! :smile:
For some reason, I thought you were still smoking.
Dont smoke. Find something constructive that will relieve you when you feel down. Smoking isnt the magical answer to everything, and there are many other thigns you can do that are goign to pay out better in the end.
my grandpa is in his 70s and hes been smoking for over 50 years. He was in the army and served in Korea and Vietnam but the hardest thing he has ever tried is quitting. He's tried to quit so many times but even with the help of doctors he cant stop. When I visit he tells me the best thing you can ever do for yourself is not start. Strangely enough though, he doesn't have cancer or anything. I guess he's just lucked out compared to certain other cases
honestrosewater
May27-07, 03:34 PM
Hey, congratulations! :smile:
For some reason, I thought you were still smoking.Thanks. :biggrin:
Oh, also, I think Stoicism has some great ideas about dealing with loss, depression, anxiety, and related things, if you're philosophically-inclined. My childhood and adolescence was basically one tragedy after another, and I have an anxiety disorder whose symptoms started at around 17. I've talked to dozens of counselors, psychologists, etc. for various lengths of time, but the most helpful ideas for me came from Aristotle, Epictetus, Shakespeare, modern scientific theories, etc. Helpful ideas can come from lots of places.
Of course, feeling depressed or anxious isn't necessarily only a matter of your outlook any more than diabetes is just a matter of having the wrong attitude, and seeing a medical professional might be necessary. But if you aren't too keen on taking psychoactive drugs, you might want to ask your doctor (or whoever) about cognitive behavioral therapy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_behavioral_therapy), or look into it yourself. Have you ever heard of this? A lot of it is pretty common-sensical stuff once think about it (I had a lot of those "why didn't I think of that?" moments), and it worked nicely for me.
CBT has a good evidence base in terms of its effectiveness in reducing symptoms and preventing relapse. It has been clinically demonstrated in over 400 studies to be effective for many psychiatric disorders and medical problems for both children and adolescents. It has been recommended in the UK by the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence as a treatment of choice for a number of mental health difficulties, including post-traumatic stress disorder, OCD, bulimia nervosa and clinical depression. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy most closely allies with the Scientist-Practitioner Model of Clinical Psychology, in which clinical practice and research is informed by a scientific perspective; clear operationalization of the "problem" or "issue;" an emphasis on measurement (and measurable changes in cognition and behavior); and measurable goal-attainment.
These are kinda harsh words for somebody who is trying to help someone out, aren't they? I don't think Danger is asking for sympathy, but is just trying to help out by sharing his story.
Thank you for that, Circles. You nailed it. I don't need sympathy, I don't want it, and I certainly don't deserve it. I was merely pointing out the sort of traps that are out there when one starts messing about with nasty substances.
Jason, despite whatever admiration you hold for your relatives, you obviously have no concept of what addiction is. I can easily quit both drinking and smoking cold turkey. The point is, I don't want to. That is the serious side of being addicted; I enjoy both so much that I'm willing to face the physical and financial hardships attendant thereto.
My habits have no detrimental effect upon my work or home life, and I hope none toward my admittedly meager contributions to the Physics and Engineering forums. Should they start to do so, I'll change.
SpaceTiger
May27-07, 03:53 PM
Should I Start Smoking?
If you have to ask, then Darwin would say yes.
:rofl:
And once again the Tiger pounces from his hiding spot in the weeds.
Maybe if I started smoking
YES YES YES. I can speak from personal experience : IT IS JUST GREAT !!!
The trade-off is that I would reduce my life expectancy
Is that REALLY such a bad thing ?
marlon
YES YES YES. I can speak from personal experience : IT IS JUST GREAT !!!
Is that REALLY such a bad thing ?
marlon
Sometimes I just gotta sit back and shake my head... :biggrin:
honestrosewater
May27-07, 05:06 PM
I think marlon might have an oral fixation.
Huckleberry
May27-07, 05:08 PM
I can easily quit both drinking and smoking cold turkey. The point is, I don't want to. I'm a bit skeptical of this. I've heard many people make similar statements and then fail in their attempt to quit. Have you never in your life attempted to quit, or is there something different now that would make quitting easier and simultaneously less desirable to you? I suppose what I mean to ask is, why do you not want to quit, and what makes you certain that you could if you desired to?
Surrealist, smoking is something that can dominate a person's life just like any addictive drug. The typical smoker plans their day around their cigarette breaks. I've even caught myself thinking of having a cigarette while I'm having a cigarette, as if the one I'm smoking at the moment was so insufficeint that I forgot I was even smoking. As I reached for the pack to get a cigarette I realized that I had one already in my hand.
Eventually you come to a point where you make a decision about continuing the habit or quitting. That's usually when you start to notice some of the nastier effects, the calloused thumb, the smoker's cough, the discolered fingers and teeth. Then there's heart conditions and emphesyma, cancer, strokes and all that other deadly stuff. You make a decision to either at least try to quit, or accept the inevitable, perhaps many years sooner than it has to be. If that is acceptable to you then by all means, light one up. But don't expect it to ease your anxiety in any way. A gun would be much faster and less painful.
Pythagorean
May27-07, 05:23 PM
I'm a bit skeptical of this. I've heard many people make similar statements and then fail in their attempt to quit. Have you never in your life attempted to quit, or is there something different now that would make quitting easier and simultaneously less desirable to you? I suppose what I mean to ask is, why do you not want to quit, and what makes you certain that you could if you desired to?
That's the point.
This is the difference between true addicts and habit. Addicts are aware of the dangers, but are willing to sacrifice for it. I'm a nicotine addict myself. I have to trick myself and force myself to not smoke. It's intolerable, it's miserable; it's much better smoking.
I was going out with this girl once, who didn't smoke, and I quit smoking for her, and I wanted to because I was (foolishly) in love. After I broke up with her, there was no reason not to smoke anymore (remember, we addicts don't take our mortality that seriously unless there's an immediate threat).
I enjoy smoking, it's 'worth it' to me. I'm sure with a hole in my throat, a voice box, or lung cancer, I'd have a different point of view because the threat would suddenly appear immediate to me.
I must also say, that what you like and what you don't like isn't necessarily a choice, either (or at least, it's up for debate). So the sentence "I can quit anytime" really means "I can quit when it's worth it to me" as was the example with the girl I was (foolishly) in love with. Our own lives being shortened and hampered by smoking isn't a threat enough to us.
I'm a bit skeptical of this. I've heard many people make similar statements and then fail in their attempt to quit. Have you never in your life attempted to quit, or is there something different now that would make quitting easier and simultaneously less desirable to you? I suppose what I mean to ask is, why do you not want to quit, and what makes you certain that you could if you desired to?
Hi, Huck. Fair questions.
I have, in fact, quit drinking several times. Once I've gone a day or so without a beer, I have no desire for one. I was on a no-alcohol court order for a year as a consequence of a firearms offense, which didn't cause any hardship at all. If left to my own devices, there's no problem. Unfortunately, my social circle is all pretty much alcohol-oriented. That ranges from in-laws and neighbours (and the in-laws are my neighbours as well) to the other friends who are all pool or dart players or otherwise bar-room acquaintances. Believe it or not, the only people around here that I can hold a PF-type conversation with (ie: not inane) are ones that I met and became friends with when I was working in the bar. That's still the only place that I get to see them. In an environment where everyone else is drinking, I just can't feel comfortable unless I am too. My social life is very important to me, and drinking happens to be a part of it.
As for the smoking, I was (per previous post) down to 2 or 3 smokes a day. For the most part, I take a couple of drags and then put it out for later use. Most of that is due to the Wellbutrin that I'm on every day for life. You might know it better a Xyban, which is marketed primarily as a stop-smoking aid. In addition, I have an aerosol nicotine inhaler that more than satisfies what little physical addiction I still have if I choose to use it (Nicorette brand). Unfortunately, it doesn't provide the taste or heat or other physical sensations that I really enjoy about smoking.
And thank you for approaching this as a genuine question rather than an attack. There's still lots of room for discussion. :smile:
edit: That was a really nice post that you sneaked in there, Pythagorean. Right to the point.
Huckleberry
May27-07, 05:53 PM
I can understand that. I wouldn't be terribly upset if I were to die tomorrow. Why should I be upset if I die 30 years from now. What would upset me is if something happened because of smoking that limited some other aspect of my life that I enjoy. Your girlfriend is a good example in a positive (hopefully) direction. A stoma would be something in a negative direction. If something of that nature happened then I would consider the struggle of quitting.
Just before I moved to Portland, about the same time that HRW quit smoking, my aunt died from smoking related cancer. My mother spent the last month with her. I still smoke. My mother does also. I usually consider myself a sensitive person. I have no idea why this doesn't phase me. Death in general has little meaning. I guess that's why I am not even trying to quit smoking right now.
[I try not to attack anyone, but especially not my friends for doing the same things I do myself. No worries there. I was just curious.]
[I try not to attack anyone, but especially not my friends for doing the same things I do myself. No worries there. I was just curious.]
I know that, pal. My comment about that was just my way of whapping Jason across the snout with a rolled-up newspaper. :biggrin:
I well remember you sharing your personal hardhips with us, and felt honoured that you trusted us with your pain. I only hope that, among us all, we can manage to help Surrealist through his.
Huckleberry
May27-07, 06:38 PM
I'd be pleased if Surrealist didn't smoke. At the same time I recognize that it is his decision to make, and not our responsibility to talk him into or out of any decision he is considering. I hope he makes the best decision for himself.
Agreed. It is probably one of the most personal decisions that one can make. The reason that I mentioned the potentially terminal emphysema was to impress upon him just how dangerous it can be to get started.
W's first husband has had it for years. He lives with her daughter, is on oxygen full-time, was just diagnosed with a tumor on his lung last week, and is still smoking.
On the other hand, her second husband died of lung cancer and never smoked in his life until after he got it. He did, however, have the misfortune of doing construction work in buildings with asbestos insulation. My father died of cancer as well, and neither smoked nor drank. Unfortunately, he got this prostate infection...
honestrosewater
May27-07, 07:57 PM
My motivation was a bit like Pythagorean's. When a guy that I liked mentioned that he had asthma, I felt like an @$$ for smoking. I had "wanted" (read: had lots of good reasons) to quit before that and had quit a few times for short periods, but that's what did it. I don't like him anymore, but I wouldn't start smoking again.
I think it is your decision, so I can only say that I wish you guys would reconsider. Do you remember what it feels like to be smoke-free? Maybe you would enjoy it more. If you tried it and didn't like it as much, you could always go back to smoking again. Are you worried that you might miss it? You can always go back.
Sometimes I just gotta sit back and shake my head... :biggrin:
:wink:
I understand why you would say that. However i just wanna make sure the OP gets to know "all opinions out there". Not everybody is against smoking. Some of us, like me, really reaaaallllyyy like it.
Just a few insights for the OP when he/she is making the actual decision :
1) Smoke all you want, but keep doing sports as well. I regularly play tennis and squash to keep my physical condition onto a "certain acceptable level". I assure you that i would outplay many non smoking "look at me i am so healthy" anti tabacco people.
2) Smoke in style, not like some marginal retard. The way you position the cigarette with respect to your hand is ESSENTIAL. If you are really good, you can even develop your own style of smoking, but just make sure you look authentic.
3) Only smoke to enjoy it. Cigarettes are a product of luxury ! Don't forget that.
4) Never smoke in the presence of young children and pregnant women.
5) Always offer a fellow smoker a cigarette when asked to, unless you cannot stand the guy/girl.
6) You will always be able to socialize with the smoking community and you will be surprised of how many intelligent/creative people make up this group. As a matter of fact, most really creative people have a natural tendency for addiction. Them moral knights of the physical health are just plain old boring people that do not know how to pass their time (unless they do some boring sport which kills any kind of creative stimulus, like jogging).
7) Make sure your partner smokes as well or has an open mind about it. Nobody likes a closed minded racist !
8) Don't worry too much about reducing life expectancy, being dead is not so bad ! I mean, don't we all like to sleep long hours ??? YES we do, except those boring sports people that like to get up at 0600 am to do some boring uncreative "jogging".
9) ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY SMOKING !!!
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greets
marlon
Marlon, your approach to life never ceases to astound and impress me.
As far as the athletics thing goes, I have to agree with you. Back when I was playing ball, our rag-tag team was the joke of the league. We were the scrawniest, least athletic, heaviest drinking and most smoking bunch of losers in the league... and we consistently beat the living **** out of the 'super-jocks'. :biggrin:
Marlon should be French if hes not already. The two sports the have are cycling and extreme smoking.
And yet the biggest dilemma I've had all day has been whether or not I should eat a cookies n creme drumstick. It has 350 calories. I'm not overweight at all. Why do I have this dilemma then? I burned 400 calories doing cardio today. Knowing how much it takes to burn 350 calories makes me think twice about eating this drumstick... BUT IT'S SO GOOD! OMG!
Marlon should be French if hes not already.
:approve:
I would love to be French, living in the south. They got a great president now. But i am Belgian, which is NOT the same !
The two sports the have are cycling and extreme smoking.
and soccer, having sex etc etc
marlon
SpaceTiger
May27-07, 09:17 PM
8) Don't worry too much about reducing life expectancy, being dead is not so bad ! I mean, don't we all like to sleep long hours ???
I respect a person's right to choose to smoke, but this is awfully deceptive. I'll disregard the absurd comparison between sleep and death, but there are other things to consider. For one thing, this isn't just about when you die, it's also about pain. Smoking often adds to the slew of health problems you develop with age -- one should consider the increased likelihood of aging into a breath-starved, hoarse-voiced invalid. Even when you're young, smoking will usually decrease your overall health. That marlon can beat a non-smoker at tennis is hardly evidence against that.
Note that, regardless of the demographics of smokers, smoking will not make someone more creative. That Lou Reed lit up from time to time should have no bearing on your own decisions about smoking. Also keep in mind that, despite marlon's penchant for stereotype, you won't find that morals are a big factor in most people's decision to smoke. In fact, many people just find it disgusting and may be inclined to spend less time with you if you're constantly lighting up. You'll find that many smokers are insecure about this fact and will try to rationalize it by telling themselves that they're cooler, more open-minded, or less judgemental.
All that said, I do think people should have the right to smoke if they want. As long as they understand the risks and sacrifices, then they should do what makes them happy. I suggest talking to some older smokers who have been through the many trials and tribulations of smoking. They might have some more valuable insights.
mathwonk
May27-07, 11:04 PM
it is much easier to start than to stop, so i suggest, no, don't start. It took me 35 years to stop after first starting. And tonight at my friend's house, his cigar still smelled tempting to me, 15 years after quitting.
JasonRox
May27-07, 11:30 PM
Thank you for that, Circles. You nailed it. I don't need sympathy, I don't want it, and I certainly don't deserve it. I was merely pointing out the sort of traps that are out there when one starts messing about with nasty substances.
Jason, despite whatever admiration you hold for your relatives, you obviously have no concept of what addiction is. I can easily quit both drinking and smoking cold turkey. The point is, I don't want to. That is the serious side of being addicted; I enjoy both so much that I'm willing to face the physical and financial hardships attendant thereto.
My habits have no detrimental effect upon my work or home life, and I hope none toward my admittedly meager contributions to the Physics and Engineering forums. Should they start to do so, I'll change.
I know you don't want to. That's a reason for being harsh.
I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is.
Note: I never thought you were looking for sympathy.
Well I find it quite ironic that you want to strat smoking to get rid of stress, but are already stressed out about it!
If you have to ask, then Darwin would say yes.:rofl:
:wink:
I understand why you would say that. However i just wanna make sure the OP gets to know "all opinions out there". Not everybody is against smoking. Some of us, like me, really reaaaallllyyy like it.
I think you L0VE it, 'like' couldn't be a good word here to express your feelings towards smoking!:smile:
Good advice, BTW!
Regards
dontdisturbmycircles
May28-07, 05:17 AM
Marlon should be French if hes not already. The two sports the have are cycling and extreme smoking.
:rofl:
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I am a very mellow person by nature, but when I do get upset or anxious a good smoke does help a lot.
I don’t know if it is the cig or just having something to take my mind off things but it does help.
As for the health risks, yah I know it is bad for me but what the hell.
I have been smoking for about 20 years and I seem to be still able to do everything I always did.
But remember different people react differently, however my lungs are unusually large (That is just a thing in my family though)
I respect a person's right to choose to smoke, but this is awfully deceptive.
NOT your decision to make. Remember that you are not the moral judge of PF.
I suggest talking to some older smokers who have been through the many trials and tribulations of smoking. They might have some more valuable insights.
I think that is quite stupid advice. The age of the smoker should not be the primary factor here but the length of period he/she has been smoking. I would value the advice more of a guy in his 40ties who has been smoking for 25 years instead of some 60year old that just started to smoke 10 years ago.
marlon
Yah I got this bad habit after an exam of having a couple cigerattes and drinks, and I don't smoke!:rofl:
Note that, regardless of the demographics of smokers, smoking will not make someone more creative.
Did anyone ever say that ?
Also keep in mind that, despite marlon's penchant for stereotype,
Awww that's so sad man. Really, if you ain't got nothing to say, just don't speak. Get a smoke and relax !
You'll find that many smokers are insecure about this fact and will try to rationalize it by telling themselves that they're cooler, more open-minded, or less judgemental.
I AM VERY JUDGEMENTAL ! What you say here is rubbish. Besides, how on earth do you know this ? If you have never been a smoker you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about. I AM a smoker and I HAVE been a non-smoker. So, i know both sides. Now, my dear moral knight, do YOU ?
marlon
Averagesupernova
May28-07, 08:44 AM
I would value the advice more of a guy in his 40ties who has been smoking for 25 years instead of some 60year old that just started to smoke 10 years ago.
marlon
LOL. Yeah how many people do you know who started smoking at age 50? :rofl:
Some of us, like me, really reaaaallllyyy like it.
ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY SMOKING !!!
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greets
marlon
:rofl: This is why I love this guy, so un-PC. :biggrin:
SpaceTiger
May28-07, 12:17 PM
NOT your decision to make. Remember that you are not the moral judge of PF.
This is not a moral issue and there are no moral judgements being made. I said that your statements about the consequences of smoking were deceptive. That means that I'm challenging your facts, not your ethics.
I think that is quite stupid advice. The age of the smoker should not be the primary factor here but the length of period he/she has been smoking. I would value the advice more of a guy in his 40ties who has been smoking for 25 years instead of some 60year old that just started to smoke 10 years ago.
The health problems caused by smoking are much more likely to develop in old age, but you're right that it wouldn't make sense to ask a 60-year-old who just started smoking. I figured it was obvious enough in what i wrote that the person they ask should be a veteran smoker, not just an old person, but if that's all you've got to work with...
SpaceTiger
May28-07, 12:22 PM
Awww that's so sad man. Really, if you ain't got nothing to say, just don't speak. Get a smoke and relax !
I AM VERY JUDGEMENTAL ! What you say here is rubbish. Besides, how on earth do you know this ? If you have never been a smoker you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about.
You don't have to jump off a cliff to know that it's a bad idea. If you think that you do, however, I think Darwin would say that you should.
By the way, for someone who claims to be so chill, you're awfully worked up. I have no moral problem with smoking, but is it possible that you do?
Moonbear
May28-07, 12:26 PM
Egads!!!! I've just seen this thread and CANNOT believe people are recommending ANYONE should START smoking!!! It's simple...don't start. If you never start, you never have to deal with trying to quit or all the other horrid health effects of smoking. It's just plain STUPID to ever start smoking. Once someone has made that mistake, it's incredibly hard to stop...just look at all the rationalizing the smokers are making to excuse their habit here. If you want to do something terribly stupid and start yourself on a bad habit that's hard to stop and has about a 50/50 odds of killing you with a disease that will include a lot of suffering for you and your loved ones, you certainly are free to do so, but I can't believe anyone would in good conscience encourage such a thing, or that this thread has gone on so long allowing such encouragement. I'm not going to let a thread continue that encourages self-destructive behavior.
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