Green dwarf said:
Where? Please give a specific reference.
Green dwarf said:
as an object approaches the speed of light, it's mass doesn't increase, just its inertia.
This depends on what you mean by "mass". The invariant mass of the object doesn't change, but its "relativistic mass" does. "Relativistic mass" is not considered a very useful concept now, but it does include the increase of inertia that you describe.
However, the more important point is that all of this depends on your frame of reference, since "approaches the speed of light" itself does. In the object's own rest frame, its speed is zero, and its inertia does not increase.
Green dwarf said:
its gravitational effect is determined by its mass, this doesn't increase either.
Invariant mass contributes to the gravitational effect of the object, but it's not the only possible contribution. See further comments below.
Green dwarf said:
momentum adds to the curvature of space,
As
@Dale says, it's not that simple. "Momentum" is frame-dependent.
Heuristically, in the object's rest frame, if we assume that stresses inside the object are negligible, the object's invariant mass, which is equivalent to its energy in this frame, is the only contribution to gravity.
In a frame where the object is moving at close to the speed of light, again if we assume that stresses inside the object are negligible, the object's momentum does contribute to gravity--but its contribution is
negative, to offset the increase in the object's energy in this frame (since its energy in this frame includes its kinetic energy as well as its rest energy). The net contribution to gravity (if we define "gravity" correctly as the invariants associated with spacetime curvature) ends up being the same. It's much the same as the way invariant mass stays the same in every frame because you subtract the contribution of momentum from the contribution of energy to get something that's invariant.