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The supervisor on my shift keeps piling on his work onto me. He's technically not my boss but he does outrank me. How should I hand this situation?
It seems to me that you need to have a clearer description of your responsibilities. You said you report to the guy on the morning shift, but he's not around on the mid-shift you work on. It might be helpful to get the morning guy, the guy on your shift, and their manager all together in a room with you, to lay out exactly what you and the other two guys should be doing. If you do this from the perspective of getting clarification, it won't seem as much like complaining. The first-shift supervisor isn't around when you're working, but he might be amenable to sticking around for a short meeting after his shift, or possibly you and the second-shift guy could come in a little early.It's a presence of character thing. He threatens to give me a poor report. He also scares me by saying we're going to go see our boss. He says things like, "If you don't want to help me we could go see the manager but it's not going to look good for you." I say okay, prepare, worry all weekend and we never go see the manager. It's all a bluff. When I tell him I'm busy with a project he tells me, "Your first priority is helping me. Everything else comes afterward. You're my backup." I've gotten to the point where I'm scared of him and avoid him at all costs. This makes him mad and he gets even more intimidating. It's not a good situation; it keeps devolving.
"we're" = you and the guy on the first shift?Problem is we're both shy, quiet, and passive-aggressive.
People's core personalities rarely change, but the way they view and handle certain day-to-day situations can be influenced and perhaps eventually changed. This is really too broad a topic to give a definite answer on. Sometimes what looks like a big change in a person is actually the expression of a small change. Sometimes big changes happen within someone, but you'd never even know it.Do people change or is it best to just accept that they are a certain way?
I don't have an answer for you other than to say know your own responsibilities and where to draw the line.How do you deal with someone who tries to see what they can get away with? Is this just part of human nature?
Yes, it's just life. That doesn't mean you're powerless though.I feel like some people try to take advantage of me and use me because they think they can. I don't know what to make of it. I don't think it makes them bad people. Is this just life?
Why don't you want to get him in trouble? Will it make you feel bad?I have a weak personality and people do this to me in life as well as at work. I don't go to our boss because I don't want to get him in trouble.
Make sure the meeting happens. Call the 2nd shift guy's bluff here by contacting your mutual boss to confirm that the meeting is going to take placeIt's me and the 2nd shift guy who are both passive and quiet. That's why we clash. He's said we were going to go see our boss to clarify my responsibilities; he's even used it as a threat to try to get me to do his work. I worry and prepare for the meeting and it never happens.
"him" = who? The 2nd shift guy or the boss? I guess you mean the 2nd shift guy, but what is your concern about getting him in trouble? Your goal is not to get anybody in trouble, but to lay out clear lines of demarcation about who has what responsibilities.Omega Supreme said:He knows it's his responsibilities; because I have to do a lot of it using his login. So there's no record of my having done it. It looks like he did it. This is a case of him seeing what he can get away with. I have a weak personality and people do this to me in life as well as at work. I don't go to our boss because I don't want to get him in trouble.
It's part of some peoples' nature. People with weak personalities (as you admitted above) attract bullies and others who seek to take advantage of them.How do you deal with someone who tries to see what they can get away with? Is this just part of human nature?
???Omega Supreme said:I feel like some people try to take advantage of me and use me because they think they can. I don't know what to make of it. I don't think it makes them bad people.
It is unless you do something about it.Omega Supreme said:Is this just life?
I couldn't agree more with this and the rest of her advice.Evo said:It's up to you, either you really wish to have this stopped, or the extra work is arranged for according to company policy. or you find another job.
It definitely is not bad form, they should know why your projects are being delayed.When the supervisor passes off work to me that was given to him, and he says he's too busy, so I have to do it. Is it okay that I reply to the original work request with all those involved, cc'ing the leads of the projects that I'm supposed to be working on. The supervisor says to e-mail him my results, implying to only e-mail him. But I reply to everyone, cc'ing my project leads and I think it makes him mad. Is this bad form? I don't think he wants me to do this but if I don't the leads of the projects that I'm assigned will not know that I'm taking so much time away from my own work. They'll wonder why my progress is so low.